Monthly Archives: June 2010

Moving

Have you ever read the statistic that says that moving is the third most stressful event you can endure, following death and divorce? I’m always stunned by this statement. Let’s take a moment to digest this: Death, divorce, moving… Wow. Clearly, for it to rank so high on the list, the stress cannot possibly be solely due to the practical aspects; it doesn’t equate that packing up one house and moving to another location would trigger this level of emotional response. But in the worldview of Conscious Transitions, it makes perfect sense. Furthermore, the level of stress that moving typically instigates is equivalent to the level of healing that’s possible when we approach this transition consciously.

Like every transition, there’s a practical element and an emotional piece. Moving, like the wedding or preparing for a baby’s arrival, certainly comes with a host of items that need to get done. But… Click here to continue reading…

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Shannon - July 4, 2010 - 4:24 pm

Thank you for this Sheryl. Perfect timing for me to read and help me reflect. My family is preparing for an unplanned move- our landlords surprised us with a termination of our lease. And with this outward push to move and lack of control thrust upon us, I have experienced many emotions. I know there are many layers to this and I am trying to give time to each of these layers in order to heal from past memories that this brings up and to fully process this stage of our journey together. I want to fully embrace this and be present. It is definitely not a linear process I have been experiencing for sure… more fluid, bouncing from different feelings to practical aspects ( like the fact that we have to move in less than 2 months and still haven’t been able to find a place suitable…)

We are planning an exciting move in the next few years to a smaller community that has the only Waldorf school in the Atlantic provinces in Canada, but not all of the pieces are in place for that move yet. So now we are looking at more moves within these next years. Not ideal, but it is what it is and we will get through this.

In the short 3 years that we have lived in this home, we have gotten married and hosted our wedding, I spent most of my laboring journey here, and our darling daughter has spent her first 2 years here… so a lot of beautiful big life has happened here.

Our daughter is very aware and verbal for her short years and I am wanting to be very conscious how I deal with the stress I feel right now with this and how we handle these next 2 months. I am curiously awaiting what advice you are going to offer in your promised upcoming post about moving with young children. We are planning to have her involved in the moving process and also have some meaningful good bye/beginning rituals surrounding this time of switching homes.

Thank you for your continual words of wisdom regarding transitions.
Warmly,
Shannon

Sheryl Paul - July 5, 2010 - 11:25 pm

Shannon – Thank you for your thoughtful and honest comment and I will definitely be blogging about moving with children this week. Your artwork is beautiful, by the way.

Katie Wise - July 7, 2010 - 12:18 pm

Many thanks to you, Sheryl. I used your Conscious Bride book less than two years ago when I was preparing to get married. My husband and I really went for the transitions when we got married, moved across the country, sold a business, started a new business, and he started law school, and we got pregnant all in August 2008.

Now, two years later, we are moving into my mother’s house to save money for a year. So the move has layers with it, for sure. Moving with our one year old son has certainly been a challenge. With so many personal shifts since our last move, I also find myself really letting go of things that represent another me. (high heels, short skirts, hipster tight jeans) It feels like a powerful letting go, and your blog really highlights the underneath significance in shedding our old belongings and moving on.

I know we’ll be finding blocks and toys in just about every box, as my son is proving to be very “helpful” in the move. So I look forward to your next post. WE move Saturday. I’ve already had a few good cries, and you are right, they actually make me MORE productive.

off to pack!

katie

Janelle - July 7, 2010 - 2:12 pm

Katie,

I saw that you had to go through a lot of transitions during the year that you were getting married. How was your engagement experience with all of the other stuff going on? I’m also going through a lot of transitions right now and I’m also getting married in less then a month.

Thanks!

Sheryl Paul - July 7, 2010 - 6:28 pm

Katie – Thank you for sharing your story. I’ve actually found that getting married is often accompanied by several transitions – often moving, a job/career change, and sometimes getting pregnant.

I think we’ve actually met once or twice before in Boulder, and I just read on your site that you lived in Santa Monica, so our paths have crossed more than once. I look forward to crossing paths again – and blessings to you on your move and processes of letting go.

Katie Wise - August 11, 2010 - 3:08 pm

Thanks again Sheryl, we are all settled in. I actually found it to be one of the most “grounded” moving experiences I’ve ever had. I think because as a mom, you just don’t have time for your own story sometimes! I look forward to crossing paths again as well! Bring your kiddos into my studio sometime! (Yo Mama Yoga in Boulder) I’d love to thank you in person for all your great writings.

Janelle, thank you for asking. I found my engagement process to be quite intense actually. Much harder than being married! Partly because of all the transitions, and partly just my own journey to letting myself be fully loved. I also found myself “testing” my husband, making sure he would love all the sides of me, the messy, the young, the selfish sides, all of it.

I had a wise teacher who said that the engagement period is the time that you “engage” with the issues of being married. That was certainly true for me. My husband and I just celebrated our 2nd anniversary, and these two years (as far as our marriage) have been much easier than the year we were engaged. Good luck to you!

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Mother of Asher

Asher’s been having what most people refer to as “temper tantrums” lately. I’ve never liked this term as it implies that the child is attempting to manipulate or control the parents with his behavior and, contrary to popular “expert” opinion, I don’t believe that my barely one year old is trying to control me. The term also invalidates the authenticity of the emotion being expressed: namely, frustration.

I remember my therapist in my twenties once telling me that frustration is one of the most difficult emotions for parents to accept in their children. Consequently, we label it with terms like “temper tantrums” and attempt to move the kid through their feelings as quickly as possible. Popular parenting experts advise parents to give their child a “time out” if he’s throwing a temper tantrum. And we wonder why, as adults, so many of us have a difficult time expressing frustration or… Click here to continue reading…

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Natalie - June 29, 2010 - 4:37 pm

I love this post Sheryl! I love if for the fact that you shared part of your life and your own journey through life. I love the fact that you touched on the differences two children can have, because I’m sure many parents of more than one child have felt as you did… the helplessness that comes with “it wasn’t like this with the first child.” So thank you for your honest and your realizations!

Sheryl Paul - June 29, 2010 - 5:01 pm

Thank you, Natalie. It’s definitely new for me to share so much of my own life but it feels right.

Meaningful Rituals: Blessing Way

Over the next couple of weeks, I’ll be publishing several posts on meaningful rituals. Please read the initial post on rituals before reading the specific ideas for ways to incorporate a ritual into your ceremony. Although these are written for women getting married, they can be adapted or modified for men and for other transitions, like becoming a parent. And I’d love to hear about rituals that you included in your ceremonies.

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Blessing Way is an ancient Native American (Navajo) ritual that honors a woman’s transition into motherhood. Because of the emotional parallels, in recent years the ritual has been adopted by brides to honor the wedding passage. As with all transitions, the woman needs to feel the support and guidance of her community as she crosses over into the unknown.

The ceremony is simple and beautiful and combines both the cleansing element of mikvah and the speaking… Click here to continue reading…

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The Search for Perfection: From Marrying to Buying a House

“Perfection is for the Gods; completeness and wholeness is the most humans can hope for.” – Marion Woodman

One of the most common and pernicious beliefs among my engaged and newlywed clients is that they’re supposed to marry their perfect match. While they may be rationally aware that perfection doesn’t exist, it’s not the rational mind that is activated during the wedding transition, but the fantasy mind. This certainly isn’t true for everyone who marries. There seems to be a segment of the population who sail through transitions with ease; those just aren’t the people who find me. And I would venture to hypothesize that those people aren’t perfectionists in other realms of their life. I think it would be safe to say that at least 99.9% of my clientele over the past twelve years are perfectionists. And that includes me.

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Natalie - June 29, 2010 - 4:59 am

Another great post, Sheryl. The only point I’d disagree with from my personal perspective is “This is often what my clients tell me about their fear-based thoughts regarding their partner: that the fear is much bigger when they’re away from their partner and shrinks to almost nothing in his presence.”

For me, it was the exact opposite. I felt calmer when away from my now husband… more rational, better able to realize what I had was a good thing. When I was around him, I learned he was one of my “triggers.” I was microanalyzing every move, every breath, every perceived intention of a comment/gesture. It took a lot of work for me to focus on just being in the moment with my then fiance, whether it was sitting on the couch watching a movie or spending time at a family picnic. I felt like something was incredibly wrong with me that I felt more at peace alone (“Does this mean I should be alone?”) and more anxious with the man I was planning “forever” with. That pattern has lessened considerably over the last 3 years and it rarely happens anymore. But learning to let go of the anxiety while I was with my husband and just focus on what I know is good within our relationship took work. That fantasy man/relationship was very hard for me to let go of and sometimes (although rarely) it still tries to sneak into my mind. But I know now that I wouldn’t trade the good, solid relationship I have for the fantasy of “perfection.”

Sheryl Paul - June 29, 2010 - 7:15 am

Natalie – I anticipated that some women might feel triggered by that line, so thanks for sharing your experience! Actually, I had the same experience as you in the beginning of my relationship with my husband: the fear was MUCH worse – almost intolerable – in his presence. It can certainly go either way, but the vast majority of my clients feel more calm when they’re with their fiance or husband and the fear kicks into overdrive in his absence. I haven’t been able to draw any conclusions about why this differs from relationship to relationship other than it has absolutely no bearing on the success of the marriage.

Natalie - June 29, 2010 - 4:31 pm

Sheryl…

I hope my comment didn’t come across as argumentative. I was the same way you describe yourself and know that many women were the opposite of what I experienced. I mostly wanted to comment so if someone reads this and thinks “but I feel the other way,” they don’t feel alone or abnormal. :)

Sheryl Paul - June 29, 2010 - 5:02 pm

Not at all! I love that you responded because I’m sure there are women who will read the post and feel spiked by that line – then reassured by your comment.

Janelle - June 29, 2010 - 7:58 pm

Natalie & Sheryl,

I have to say that line did scare me at first. However, there have been times during my engagement where I am more stressed with my fiance is around and other times I’m more stressed when he’s not around. At the moment, however, I have been more anxious when he’s around! So thank you both!

Also, I’m finding that I’m swatting more mosquitoes then ever now that I’m a few weeks away from my wedding! I’m so happy that I found this site months ago because I finally starting to realize how my fear takes over. I’m finally getting comfortable listening to the fears and letting myself feel the fear.

Before, I was scared to listen to my fear because I didn’t want to find out that it may have been the truth. However, the more I let the fear in over the past few months, the easier it has been on me emotionally. I’m finding that the more I let the fear in, I no longer believe the fear (which took months and months to get to this point). It’s weird that I feel comfortable letting the fear in now and I think that it is because I no longer believe the fear (well for the moment that is, the fear does try to trick me sometimes). I’m getting to the point where I’m “swatting the mosquitoes away”.

I can’t even begin to tell you how helpful this site and the people on here has been during my engagement. I AGREE WITH YOU 100% THAT IS TAKES A YEAR TO GET EMOTIONALLY READY FOR A WEDDING/MARRIAGE. Well at least in my case it has taken me a full year to get emotionally ready! There were points during my engagement where I asked my fiance if we could move up the wedding so that we could get it over with, HAHA, I’m so glad that we didn’t do that! I definitely needed this time to get to know myself again and after all of the emotional breakdowns, I found that I am the person that I thought I was. The best advice I have received so far is to “hold onto how you felt before the engagement and when you get anxious remember that feeling- b/c that is your truth”

THANK YOU!!!

Jessica Williams - June 30, 2010 - 1:35 pm

This is a wonderfully written post. I just wanted to say that Sheryl helped me tremendously when I was preparing for my wedding, especially, with regards to “perfect.” By the end of the engagement, I was able to include imperfection within my own use of the word “perfect.” I was comfortable with the fact that it may rain, or my veil may rip, but that my wedding would still be perfect because I was marrying my husband. In the same way, I do view him as my perfect match, and perfection includes some very hard interactions sometimes. The lessons one learns from their mate are similar to the challenges faced with one’s children; these beings that we are deeply wound up with on our soul’s journey can challenge and mirror us on a profound level. Thank you, Sheryl, for another insightful, clear, and generous post. –Jessica

Julie - June 30, 2010 - 2:43 pm

Hi Sheryl,
I love your blog and your insight and authenticity. Last time we spoke was on Heart Beat for my 8 week conscious wedding series back in Arpil/May. Since speaking I got married (early June)! It was magical and meaningful and fun and came with all different emotions that are still unravelling. I love checking in on your posts and comments for some good grounding and support as I continue on with this rite of passage. I did listen to most of my shows over again before the wedding, especially yours, to fully understand the range of emotions that I was experiencing. It was a blessing. If any future brides want to have a listen all the shows are archived here http://juliecusmariu.com/blog/gettingmarriedconsciously/
I look forward to being in touch and oh, how I loved reading about the mosquitos. I love how I am invited to maintain perspective these days and shift my focus, thanks for this invitation once again.
with gratitude,
Julie Cusmariu
xo

Sheryl Paul - June 30, 2010 - 8:55 pm

Thank you, and very well said after ten years of marriage : )

Sheryl Paul - June 30, 2010 - 8:57 pm

Nice to hear from you, Julie. I’ve probably done hundreds of radio shows since the release of The Conscious Bride and I have to say that speaking with you was a definite high point. You’re a wonderful host and I second your invitation for everyone interested in the wedding transition – or consciousness in general – to head over to your archives.

Jessica Williams - June 30, 2010 - 11:02 pm

Eleven!! :-)

Janelle - July 1, 2010 - 7:04 pm

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/search/sheryl-paul/

Everyone has to go to this site. Sheryl’s voice is so calming and this is my FAVORITE podcast. Make sure that you listen to the entire thing, it is under secret lives of men! LOVE IT!

Ginger - July 5, 2010 - 7:06 pm

Hi,
I can relate to feeling more anxious when Im not with my boyfriend though I can definatly find things to pick on when were together. when all is right; its right, but one little thing goes wrong and Im ready to tie up my runnin shoes. I refuse to keep running though.

Ive learned from your book that the more you focus on the anxiety, the bigger it gets…and it does. Im trying to focus on the good things not the fear and Ive been doing really good. I know I want to marry this man and have been gearing him up and in just a few days I know Ill be getting engaged which both excites me and terrifies me! How in the world am I gonna marry a man whose stable, handsome, great with my daughter, loves me, wants me and has fought for me for 10 years, will never leave me, wont think of being unfaithful, will be a great provider and is a great lover when he chews his ice and smacks his gum? hmm, how? I just have to laugh at myself when I think about it…really? am I gonna run because of something as petty as that?!…not this time…….

Well, good news, I ordered your wedding planner last week and should get it anyday…Im excited to start working in it:) and excited to move forward into our future…

PS. have you concidered a forum of some sort so we (all the anxious ones) can corespond online? Also, have you concidered more options for your phone group such as additional times or days? thanks for all you do Sheryl:)

Sheryl Paul - July 5, 2010 - 9:48 pm

Hi Ginger – Yes, you don’t want to over-focus on the anxiety, but you do want to give the fear a voice. The work is not about sweeping the fear under the rug with the risk of it crashing down on your after the wedding, but rather to voice it and then work with it effectively (using journaling and the specific techniques I talked about in a video blog). It sounds like you’re doing great.

I used to have a message board on my website but have closed it down for a variety of reasons. Hopefully, this blog will serve the same purpose, at least for now.

What time would work for you for a phone group? We’re definitely open to other days and times.

Sheryl

Erin - July 14, 2010 - 11:50 pm

To Natalie:

What relief I felt as I scrolled down to read your post! I did indeed have the very reaction to that line (“spiked” then reassured) that Sheryl describes.

I’m glad to have found this site, as I’ve been experiencing anxiety ever since my wedding, which occurred two weeks ago. One thing I’ve realized in reading some of Sheryl’s articles is that I didn’t really think about the wedding as initiating a transition at all–strange as that seems. My husband and I had lived together for five years prior to the wedding, and so while I was anticipating the wedding as an “event,” I didn’t view it as a significant transition into a new state of life.

I’ve been a bit blindsided by my feelings, but I’m going to fend of the mosquitoes and start journaling!

Many thanks.

Janelle - July 15, 2010 - 2:21 pm

you should go and visit the inner bonding site and watch the you-tube videos…they help out tremendously!!

Natalie - July 15, 2010 - 7:32 pm

Erin,

I’m glad I could give you some “Hey, I’m not alone” feelings. Validation isn’t always necessary, but in something as “taboo” as feeling anxious about your marriage/relationship, it’s nice to know you’re not alone. :)

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Friday Quote

“Rest is not idleness, and to lie sometimes on the grass, under the trees on a summer’s day, listening to the murmur of the water, or watching the clouds float across the sky, is by no means a waste of time.” – Sir John Lubbock

Central to the work of Conscious Transitions is being able to slow down enough to feel your feelings. For whether we’re getting married or moving, pregnant or entering empty nest, our culture encourages us at every turn to move as quickly as possible and fill every available time slot with things to do. When we move quickly and distract with the items on our to-do lists, we avoid feeling our feelings. But eventually the wedding will be over, the baby will be born, you’ll be settled into the new house, and the feelings that you refused to feel will come crashing down on you. So… Click here to continue reading…

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Meaningful Rituals: Mikveh

Over the next couple of weeks, I’ll be publishing several posts on meaningful rituals. Please read the initial post on rituals before reading the specific ideas for ways to incorporate a ritual into your ceremony. Although these are written for women getting married, they can be adapted or modified for men and for other transitions, like becoming a parent. And I’d love to hear about the meaningful rituals you incorporated into any of your life cycle transitions.

A mikvah is a ritual bath. According to Jewish law, a wife must attend the mikvah and purify herself every month at the end of her menstrual cycle before she can resume sexual connection with her husband. A woman’s first mikvah, which takes place just prior to her wedding, initiates her monthly immersions. As a ritual that honors transition, it is intended to cleanse her maiden identity before she is renewed as wife.… Click here to continue reading…

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A Taste of Empty Nest

Last Saturday, to celebrate our wedding anniversary, my husband and I went out to dinner alone – meaning without our kids – for the first time in almost six years. I know, I know. The reasons for this are too varied to detail in this post, but suffice to say it was a long-awaited and much-needed date.

My friends all asked the same question: “Did you have anything to talk about?” Thankfully, interesting conversation had always flowed easily between my husband and me. We talked about the kids. We talked about work. We made observations about the restaurant. We touched on the state of the world. We enjoyed each other thoroughly and delighted in the fact that we were actually able to complete so many different conversations without a hundred interruptions.

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Briana - June 22, 2010 - 11:09 am

Sheryl,
This was a great post, and it was great to hear how the things you talk about affect you personally. That definitely makes me feel like I’m not alone!
I enjoyed your comment about your kids being like a sheet of glass that prevents the vulnerability of full intimacy, thus preventing those feelings of fear, engulfment, and true committment. I often find my feelings of anxiety surface most when my boyfriend (and most likely, soon to be fiancee) and I are alone together for longer periods of time just the two of us. I think to myself, “How can we sustain this relationship for the rest of our lives?”, and then I start to question if I’m with the right person. But when other people are around, or we’re distracted by something we’re doing, it’s easier for me to let loose and enjoy his company(and not overanalyze). Your post helped me realize it is probably the fear of true intimacy and everything associated with it (fear of engulfment and fear of loss) that causes my anxiety…and that it’s not that he is the wrong person!

Ginger - June 22, 2010 - 2:30 pm

Yes, yes, yes….to both of you…I regularly read the blogs to keep myself at bay…Sheryl, what you said, “You don’t love him enough. You’re not really in love with her/him. You’re settling. You don’t have enough chemistry. You can do better.” forever creep in…or the “theres someone better out there for him…or he’s settling or what could he possibly see in me…(to flip the coin)…

My boyfriend and I live long distance. When we do see eachother we iether have a great time or a bickering time…iether way I have a emotional reaction…good times equals “lets set the date”…hard times equal “oh noooo, Im not marrying that man!” I have actually come to the place of feeling these emotions but very proud to say I get over the “heck no” feeling pretty quick when I remember why I love him and that he deserves as much grace as me because as much as I am in denial, Ive got some issues too!!! lol

Im really glad to see that you Sheryl deal with it too…only because it makes me feel more normal and theres others who deal with it…Im definatly understanding my anxiety over intimacy and being hurt…”a fear of the risks involved with sharing your heart completely with someone who is available and committed”…

Thanks again for your heart Sheryl and yours too Briana

Kasey - June 23, 2010 - 10:11 pm

I really enjoyed this post, and the comments of Briana and Ginger. I considered a moment my own fear of intimacy. My partner does not sit still all too often, so I don’t regularly feel a fear of being engulfed because he doesn’t slow down enough to engulf me. :)

My worry is that I think I fear more my partner’s humanity. Knowing he’s just a person, a human, not able to meet all of my needs, and me knowing all his quirks. I worry about my own ability to stay emotionally invested day in and day out. Do you think that is related to fear of intimacy, or something else altogether? I haven’t been able to put my finger on it.

I feel terrible in a way to write that, the ugly truth for all to see….but I feel compelled to share my honest journey at the same time.

Thanks. :)

Ginger - June 28, 2010 - 5:43 pm

Hi Kasey, Im not Sheryl by any means but the first thought that came to mind was having too high of expectations knowing he cant or wont meet. My friend spoke with a couple that had been married 50+years and of coarse she asked what kept them together. The wife said that she kept her expectations to a minimum…that way when he didnt meet them she was not dissapointed(speaking minor things, not red flags). I can definatly relate to having high expectations knowing full well he probably wont go there and ultimatly you get mad and resentful. Im thinking to allow him to be him and be ok with who he is…I can only imagine how peaceful that would feel to JUST be OK with who he is! It may be a way to push him away so that you arent too vulnerable…thats my way of pushing people away, I pick on the people I love most I think to keep them at a distance…and unfortunatly it works (Im working on that)…thats my thoughts. hope it brings some fresh insight:)

Sheryl Paul - June 28, 2010 - 6:09 pm

Hi Kasey – It sounds like you’re having a hard time accepting his imperfections – as you said, his humanity. I like what Ginger said about tempering expectations; this is at the core of my work with clients on the threshold of marriage. We enter marriage with SO MANY unrealistic expectations and fantasies, at the center of which is that we expect our partner to be perfect. Rationally, we know better, but the fantasy-perfectionist mind tends to kick into overdrive when we’re contemplating marriage and that’s when we realize that we’re marrying a fallible human being (as opposed to Prince Charming). The fear of intimacy probably factors into the equation as well in the sense that focusing on his faults creates a barrier and keeps you separate.

Summer Solstice

Today we transition into summer through the portal of the Solstice, the longest day of the year. Like the wedding day, a mother’s labor and baby’s birth day, and moving day, today is the transitional marker that separates the old stage of life or season from the new. As such, it carries a vulnerability and potency that is available to us when we intentionally choose to connect to its energy.

In honoring the Solstice this year, I turned to one of my favorite books for celebrating rituals with children called “Circle Round”, by Stawhawk, Diane Baker, and Anne Hill. They write:

“The Summer Solstice reminds us that nothing lasts forever. We do not live in the unchanging twilight realm of Faery, but in the living, dying, fading, and growing realm of earth. Whenever something is completed we must let it go.

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cate-yogahealer - June 23, 2010 - 11:26 am

Beautiful and inspiring!

The releasing ritual creates so much space to just Be in the light of summer!

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