The evening began as it usually does. After Asher, my three year old, goes to sleep, Everest and I spend some much needed alone time together. When I was young, my parents instituted a family ritual called “Time Alone” where we would each spend time alone with one of our parents after dinner: playing catch in the street, playing cards on the floor of my bedroom, going for a bike ride, cuddling on the bed talking about our day. They recognized the importance of kids connecting to parents privately and made efforts to ensure that this occurred each evening. The ritual continues in my own family.
Everest and I have spend our time alone in different ways. Most evenings, we read. We read during the day with Asher, too, but reading together in the evening has a special quality to it. During the summer months, we often sit outside on … Click here to continue reading...
I’m delighted to announce that on Friday, September 16th at 7pm EST (4pm PST), I’ll be interviewing Alanis Morissette LIVE!
As most people know, Alanis speaks with honesty and wisdom and isn’t afraid to delve into the deeper aspects of her life, so if you’re wondering about her challenges, her joys, her fears, and how she prepared for the life-altering transition of becoming a mother, you won’t want to miss this exclusive live event.
When you click on the link below, you will be able to register for this special event and submit questions ahead of time. And if you’re one of the first people to sign up, you’ll have a chance to ask your question directly to Alanis during the live call!
And on Tuesday, September 13th, you’ll be able to sign up to find out why Alanis is supporting my free video training, “The Missing Link That … Click here to continue reading...
“I’m redefining for myself what a marriage is.” – Alanis from The Interview
Lesson Seven of The Conscious Weddings E-Course is “What Does Marriage Mean Today?” The short answer, as Alanis states above, is that marriage today is whatever you want it to be. There are no blueprints or formulas to follow for a marriage to thrive. But most people enter marriage with a set of unconscious expectations – based on what they witnessed growing up and an old, historically-imprinted model of marriage – of what they think marriage is “supposed” so look like. They ask, “Am I supposed to cook dinner for my husband every night because that’s what my mother did?” I rarely encounter women who cook dinner for their husband every night, and when they do it’s because they want to, not because their partner expects it. But still the unconscious expectation runs deep and on the … Click here to continue reading...
“It was a huge existential crisis and there was no way to slither out of it.” – Alanis in the Interview on her engagement transition
Embedded in every transition is the opportunity to practice letting go. When we become adolescents, we let go of being children. When we leave home for the first time, we let go of the security of living under our parents’ roof (or the illusion of security). When we move, we let go of memories and attachments connected to the old dwelling. When we become parents, we let go of the identity of being a non-parent (as well freedom, consistent sleep, the old body and the old lifestyle, and dozens of other things). With each letting go there’s an opportunity for rebirth, for just as spring cannot occur without the death and fallow stages of autumn and winter, so the new aspects of ourselves cannot … Click here to continue reading...
“Every morning I had the luxury of carving out two hours to be alone and I would just sob. I would read The Conscious Bride or The Conscious Bride’s Wedding Planner”, sometimes I would talk to friends, but mostly I did a lot of journaling. I was looking at all of my thoughts about what a wife and marriage is.” – Alanis from the Interview
Lesson Five of The Conscious Weddings E-Course is called “How Do I Manage My Fear and Anxiety?” If you’re drowning in engagement anxiety, the only thing you’re looking for is a lifeline that will pull you out of the quicksand. Part of the lifeline is accurate information, which is why the first four lessons of the E-Course are dedicated to replacing the false beliefs you may be carrying about transitions, relationships, real love, and perfectionism with the truth. But most people are hungry for tangible … Click here to continue reading...