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4:19 pm
February 19, 2012


Bluebell

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I'll have to write this at speed because life with twins doesn't give me a lot of time to do much else other than the bare minimum. I met a mother of twins recently who said to me "whatever your expectations are, lower them" and I've found that incredibly useful.

My babies are wonderful. It is so precious to hold them and be with them. I am amazed by simple things about them. My son has an incredible appetite, he is a huge boy and screams for food as soon as he wakes up. I find that astonishing. I am so unlike that myself and somehow I expected my children to be quite like me physically, but my son is not like me at all that way. He is solid and a creature of appetite. He is himself. My daughter is sensitive and gets nervous. She is always moving and gets overstimulated very easily. They are so different from each other and I think that's a gift for me because it means I'm not hung up on how I'm affecting their personalities. A lot of who they are is just who they are. My daughter's sensitivity isn't something I have to be responsible for or feel bad about, it's just the way she is and all I can do is be as gentle with her as I can be. I'm sure if I'd only had her I would be searching for the reasons I made her sensitive, the fact that she's a twin eases all of that.

The last couple of months have been very hard. My recovery from the birth took time, I haven't been able to breastfeed, my little boy needs a lot of hospital treatment and I found a lump in my breast which I'm having investigated. I found not being able to breastfeed heartbreaking. I've found my little boy having so much treatment very difficult too. He is a remarkably stoic little boy. He really is a strong child, but it is awful seeing him go through a process where he isn't able to move his legs and he cries a lot when we go to hospital, which is weekly and will be for quite some time. I've had a lot to cope with on top of the regular caring for two babies.

My mother has been a constant in my day to day life now since the beginning of January. That has been quite a thing for me to cope with because I have had my issues with her and our relationship has never been relaxed. I think I see her more and more for who she is now. She has been such an incredible help practically. Her helping me with the twins is the first thing of real value she's been able to give me for many years. I really appreciate her help and have let her know that. Ok I must go. My daughter has colic.

10:11 pm
February 19, 2012


Sheryl Paul

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Bluebell: Thanks for the update. I cannot even imagine having twins, and then one with medical issues. Oh my… I bet you're realizing that you're stronger than you ever imagined! I'm in awe of your grace, your resiliance, and your endurance. I look forward to hearing more about your transition when you come up for air.

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