by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Aug 13, 2023 | 9-Month |
Years ago, I wrote a post called You Are Loved, which I then recorded and included in several of my courses (and on this page). The post begins: If you knew you were fully loved, if you knew that you were whole and worthy exactly as you are just for being... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jul 9, 2023 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety |
When I had Covid last year, I watched several episodes of Indian Matchmaking. I’m always interested in shows about relationships (for obvious reasons), and I’m especially interested in how non-American cultures approach romantic love. Arranged marriages... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | May 28, 2023 | OCD |
As I wrote about recently, at the core of anxiety and OCD lives the fear of death: either literal death or social death (humiliation, being shunned, rejected, losing your place of belonging). If we’re going to address anxiety at the root, we have to talk about... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jan 22, 2023 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Health anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Intrusive Thoughts |
At the core of most, if not all, intrusive thoughts and obsessions is the question of enough. It can show up as: • Do I love my partner enough? or • Did I wash my hands enough? But what you’re really trying to answer is: Am I enough? I love what Jon Hershfield... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jan 15, 2023 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Relationship Anxiety Collection, Wedding/marriage transition |
Note: I first published this post in 2011 and it remains one of my most popular blog posts. I’m updating it now to include more relevant language and also concepts that have evolved in the last twelve years about relationship anxiety. *** One of the most common... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jan 8, 2023 | Sexuality |
The way Hollywood sells it, kissing should happen effortlessly. We should long to kiss our loving partner all the time, and we should be in instant ecstasy the minute the kiss begins. When our partner approaches for a kiss, we should tilt up our head like a young... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jan 1, 2023 | Sexuality |
One of the most common statements I hear from women about their sexuality is, “I’m often stuck in my head during sex. Sometimes I’m planning the dinner menu or thinking about what we need from the grocery store. I have a hard time staying in my... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Dec 25, 2022 | Sexuality |
On the last round of Sacred Sexuality, we had a Zoom call that dropped us into a space of such tenderness and vulnerability that there were many tears coming from the Zoom squares. This happens sometimes, especially around the topic of sexuality. It’s what... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Dec 11, 2022 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Health anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Intrusive Thoughts |
An intrusive or unwanted thought arrives… What if I don’t love my partner enough? What if I’m a different sexual orientation than I thought I was? What if I’m trapped here forever? What if the world ends? What if I don’t love my baby?... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Nov 27, 2022 | Intrusive Thoughts, Parenthood transitions |
Ever since our son, Everest, earned his private pilot’s power-plane license a few months ago I’ve been wanting to fly with him. Maybe “wanting” isn’t quite the right word; it’s more like I’ve been wanting to want to fly with...