Relief from Relationship Anxiety: Guest Post from the Conscious Weddings E-Course Forum

Another inspiring post from a member of the Conscious Weddings E-Course Forum. I’m reprinting it here with grateful permission from the author.

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On the one year anniversary of getting engaged to M, I just wanted to drop back in and share some perspective that I’ve gained in the past year in the hopes that it may help some of the new folks on this board.

I know that it can feel like you’re the only person going through the terrible doubt and anxiety, but please know that you’re not alone. Our society may try to tell you that you are alone, and that ‘doubt means don’t,’ but all you have to do is look at the plethora of movies and celebrity marriages focusing on the ‘butterflies’ feeling of being ‘head over heels in love’ (which then subsequently end a few months later when one partner ‘falls out of love’) … Click here to continue reading...

No Escape

It’s Sunday afternoon. I’m lying down with my 3 year old to see if he’ll take a much-needed nap and the title of one of Pema Chodron’s books pops into my mind: No Escape. (The full title is The Wisdom of No Escape.) This immediately makes sense, as I’ve been having visions lately of another life, another city, another lifestyle – one that includes all of my family members but is somehow easier. I know that my psyche is trying to escape a challenging stage of parenting, one in which my three year old is falling apart inside as he transitions in several ways and is taking his disequilibrium out on the closest person to him: me.

Our day often begins with him “grumping” at me (my older son’s word for Asher’s behavior) about something that I haven’t done perfectly right. He then progresses to arguing with me … Click here to continue reading...

Interview with Rabbi Tirzah Firestone

I was honored and delighted to interview Rabbi Tirzah Firestone on her perspective on transitions. Rabbi Firestone is my rabbi, my mentor, and a continual source of inspiration and guidance to thousands of people around the world. We talked about transitions of every kind, from the beginning and ending of a day to the tragedy of losing a loved one to our planetary transition. Her words are infused with hope, wisdom and love, and the interview left me with a big smile throughout my body.

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Rabbi Tirzah Firestone, M.A. is an author, psychotherapist, and founding rabbi of Congregation Nevei Kodesh in Boulder, Colorado. Widely known for her groundbreaking work on Kabbalah and depth psychology and … Click here to continue reading...

The Highly Sensitive Person

I’ll never forget the day I was walking down 24th Street in San Francisco and I saw a book called “The Highly Sensitive Person” by Elaine Aron sitting in the store window. The title stopped me in my tracks and I thought, “Someone actually wrote a book about me?” I went inside, read the jacket, bought it, and devoured it in two days. Finally, someone had scientifically explained why I had always felt different, more sensitive than other people, more attuned to subtleties and nuances, and more prone to anxiety. On the home page of her website she offers the following bullet points about being highly sensitive:

Your trait is normal. It is found in 15 to 20% of the population–too many to be a disorder, but not enough to be well understood by the majority of those around you. It is innate. In fact, biologists have found… Click here to continue reading...

New Job: Family in Transition

My husband starts a new job today. After three years of working from home, he’ll be away again for part of each day. As grateful as we are for this job, I realize as I sit down to write this that, of course, the element of loss is here. I haven’t wanted to admit it. Yes, I, a spokesperson for conscious transitions, has been in a bit of denial about the ramifications of this new job. But the truth is that my chest has been tight for days and my breath has been constricted. When is the last time I took a deep breath? I tried to find it in yoga on Sunday but it eluded me. Such is the case when emotions are denied and pushed aside.

Now I feel the grief. My husband, my best friend, my partner in parenting, my rock and my solace who’s been just … Click here to continue reading...