by Sheryl Lisa Finn | May 7, 2023 | Parenthood transitions |
I decided to take the long way home. I had just dropped off our younger son at a sleepover, and our older one is in Kenya for two weeks on a service trip with his school. My husband and I would have twenty hours without children in the house – a rare occurrence... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Mar 5, 2023 | HSP, Transitions - General |
Our culture sends us the message that we can and should have it all. It tells us that we should “follow our bliss” and have the perfect career, that we should live in the perfect house in the perfect location, have a fantastic group of friends like... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Mar 6, 2022 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Relationships |
I talk a lot about intrusive thoughts on this site, particularly how they pertain to relationship anxiety. I see thoughts as the flares from the Self brilliantly designed to attract our attention so that we can learn to turn inward and attend, possibly for the first... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Aug 15, 2021 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Relationships, Trust Yourself |
As humans in an uncertain world, we seek certainty in a variety of ways. We ask questions that are fundamentally unanswerable. We ruminate and obsess on a single thought (otherwise known as intrusive thoughts). We Google and text and seek reassurance in a variety of... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Feb 5, 2017 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Dying/Death, Highly Sensitive Person, Holidays/Holy Days/Seasons, Relationships, Transitions - General |
My favorite fairy tale when I was a child was Rumpelstiltskin, the story of a girl who makes a bargain with an imp-like creature in exchange for saving her life from being executed by the king. First she gives the imp a necklace, then a ring, then promises her... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Nov 27, 2016 | Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Relationships, Transitions - General |
To be human is to know that we are imperfect and whole: we will hurt and be hurt; we will feel disappointed and will disappoint; we will stumble and fall and get back up again. To be human is to remember that this being human is an experiment without a goal or... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Nov 13, 2016 | Anxiety, Transitions - General |
Please note: If you are pleased with the results of the recent elections, you may not want to read this post. I wrote it for those who are struggling emotionally and need support and guidance for how to walk through their difficult feelings so that they can arrive,... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Aug 28, 2016 | Anxiety, Dying/Death |
For all humans, but especially the highly sensitives, one of the most difficult truths to accept is that all seasons pass, all stages come to an end, all beings die. Just as the gorgeous peach tree in full-tilt pink spring bloom drops its blossoms to reveal summer... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jul 24, 2016 | 20s, Anxiety, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
Oh, the list of thoughts that try to prevent us from taking the risk of loving wholeheartedly is quite long, but there are a few that always top the list, buzzing and darting in and around your ears like mosquitos in summer. I recently wrote about the “I wish he... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jun 19, 2016 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
We are addicted to our stories. The thoughts come in and take us away on their magic carpet promise of arriving in a land of certainty, where the vulnerability and pain of life can’t touch us. We learn early to climb aboard this carpet because, as young people,...