The Truth about New Motherhood

Over the past several years, many of the women who I helped midwife emotionally across the threshold of the marriage transition have birthed themselves as new mothers. And just like our culture doesn’t tell the truth about the challenges of intimate relationships, it also fails us when it comes to offering accurate information and effective support so that women and their partners can traverse the terrain of this next transition with consciousness and joy.

We know it’s going to be hard, but we have no idea how hard it’s going to be. We know that we might be sleep-deprived or have trouble breastfeeding, but we have no idea how these challenges will effect the emotional terrain of our experience, how deeply breastfeeding, for example, is linked to self-worth as a mother and how, if it doesn’t happen easily or at all, we feel that we’ve failed.

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Autumn: 2011

Something a little different this week to express the transition of autumn – and life – through poetry, music and images:

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Free Teleclass: “What Nobody Tells You To Expect When You’re Expecting”

 

This morning I hosted a FREE teleclass on the topic of addressing your expectations regarding trying to conceive, pregnancy, and early motherhood. To listen to the replay, click on this link:

http://conscious-transitions.com/free-teleclass-birthing/

Remember when Brooke Shields broke the taboo on talking about postpartum depression? In this teleclass, together with a circle of experts, we broke the taboo on preconception, pregnancy, birth, and early motherhood and talked about topics that people simply don’t discuss anywhere else.

When people find my work on transitions, one of the most common questions I hear is, “How come no one talks about this?” The answer is that, when it comes to transitions, we live in a culture that propagates glossy-paged fantasies of unilateral bliss. We do not tell the truth, which leaves women and their partners feeling alone, inadequate and crazy, and prone to anxiety and depression.

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For New Mothers: The Dishes Will Get Done… Eventually

The last lesson of my new Home Study Program – “Birthing a New Mother: A Roadmap from Preconception through the First Year to Calm Your Anxiety, Prevent Postpartum Depression, and Babyproof Your Marriage” – is called A Mother is Born. This lesson focuses on the idea that although there are tremendous sacrifices involved in becoming a mother, there are also unquantifiable gains. We have a tendency in this culture to focus on the losses and sacrifices – or, rather, to complain about the losses and sacrifices. This leads to a perception that motherhood is martrydom and doesn’t serve the process of birthing a healthy new mother. While it’s essential to acknowledge and grieve the losses, it’s equally important to recognize the ways in which these losses, when approached consciously, make room for “gains” or expansions of the new mother’s personality and character. As I write in this lesson:Click here to continue reading...

Seasons of Transitions

Sometimes the amorphous emotions released during transitions are best expressed through other mediums. In this two minute slideshow, I use spoken word set to acoustic guitar music to capture the heart of the world of transitions.

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