Short and sweet version:

I’m passionate about helping people break free from anxiety. When I was twenty-one, three months before I graduated from college, my world was turned upside down and the glass palace of my carefully constructed life was shattered when I had my first panic attack while driving down the 405 freeway in Los Angeles. That event sent into motion a series of events that would ultimately become my life’s work. You can read the story here.

I’m madly in love with our cat, profoundly devoted to mothering our sons, and deeply in love with my husband. I’m proud of many things in my life, but the one I am most proud of is our marriage, which we’ve worked very hard over decades to hone and carve into the safe, fun, and loving haven it is today. We live on a beautiful piece of land in Colorado with a creek running through it. The creek is my mother, and I sing my prayers to her daily.

Most days I’m powered by a hum of joy, and I bow down in gratitude for the blessings in my life.


Being silly at 12,000 feet. July 2018


Longer version:

As the daughter of two psychotherapists, I grew up with the language and theories of psychology running through my blood. As a young girl, I vacillated between dreaming about one day being a writer, a therapist, or a midwife. Having found the confluence of these three arts through writing about and spiritually midwifing people through life’s transitions, including the transition of transforming anxiety, self-doubt, and depression into serenity, self-trust, and joy, I feel deeply blessed to be living in the heart of my calling.

While my writing and counseling work twenty years ago initially focused on the specific transitions of getting married and becoming a mother, in the last decade I have broadened my framework to include the transition of life in all its beauty and complexity. For whether we’re on the verge of leaping into marriage, getting a divorce, suffering through anxiety or depression, struggling with an addiction, or birthing a new identity as a mother, we find the same issues of self-trust, the fear of loss/death, and control appearing again and again. The story line may change, but the seeker quickly finds that the areas that need attention reappear at deeper layers of the spiral on life’s journey.

In 1997, I graduated from Pacifica Graduate Institute, a depth psychology program founded upon the teachings of Joseph Campbell, Carl Jung, James Hillman, and the study of dreams, archetypes, myths, and the myriad ways that the unconscious manifests in daily and nightly life. As a writer, poet, and epic dreamer, I encourage my audience to explore their own creative outlets as pathways for connecting to their highest selves and finding their own truths.

In 1999, I launched my unique business, Conscious Weddings, and a year later published my first book, The Conscious Bride, which broke the taboo of discussing the underbelly of the wedding transition. In 2003, my second book, The Conscious Bride’s Wedding Planner, was published, and in 2004, I began working with impending and new mothers through Conscious Motherhood.

Since that time, my work evolved away from specific transitions to include the broad transition of life. Through my work with Conscious Transitions, I have guided thousands of people worldwide through my coaching practice, my bestselling books, my Home Study Programs and my blog. I have appeared several times on “The Oprah Winfrey Show”, as well as on “Good Morning America” and other top media shows and publications around the globe. My next book, The Wisdom of Anxiety: How Worry and Intrusive Thoughts are Gifts to Help us Heal, will be published by Sounds True in June 2019.

Lastly, but most importantly, my husband and I live on a creek in Colorado with our two sons and our cat. As of this update (2018), our sons are 14 and 9 years old.

16 comments to About

  • Dear Sheryl, Love you concept and your work! Kudos1 You are the one the world has been waiting for.
    In joy,
    Carrie S. Jacobs

  • Hello Sheryl,
    Your work is wonderful, beautiful and oh so essential! I found your link through our Slow Family Living site. We are grateful for the link and for the work you are doing. Keep up the good work!


    • Thank you, Bernadette. I feel the same way about your work and it seems that our work is closely aligned and complementary. It’s exciting to me that the world – with people like you at the forefront – is, perhaps, recognizing that we’re moving too quickly and that a return to a slower pace is essential for global health and harmony.

  • Natalie

    Hi Sheryl,

    Thank you so much for all your work. I recently got engaged and have been dealing with a lot of emotions. Watching your videos and reading your blog has made me feel better about my feelings. Keep up the good work!

  • I’m so glad you found your way here, Natalie!

  • Kristen

    Is it possible for me to struggle with relationship anxiety when I don’t struggle with any other type of anxiety? Or is all of this just my instinct telling me I’m in the wrong relationship even though he’s a great guy.

    • Helen


      You are not alone.. i’m in the same boat .. i have very little anxiety in the rest of my life but when it comes to relationships.. all bets are off.

      I wonder if it’s because in a relationship requires us to put our hearts in someone else’s hands ?

  • […] gets engaged or on her 30th wedding anniversary. It happens to men too, but it’s not as common.  Sheryl Paul is an accomplished counselor who specializes in life transitions with women.  Her writings in the […]

  • CLG

    Hello Sheryl. I am now working on the break free from relathionship anxiety course. And i just enter the physical realm section. I wonder if you have ever had some one working shift ?
    i work rotating shift work, night, day, afternoon and almost never get enough good sleep. Have you any experience from that, I’m thinking about changing job, and that i might help me some with regular routine ?

    best regards: CLG

  • Kristy

    Hi Sheryl.
    I’ve been married 10 years and throughout that time have had many difficulties of “I’m with the wrong one” and comparing my husband to others who are funnier, etc. I know I love him but these intrusive feelings have been crippling at times especially during life transitions. I am petrified that the truth will be the voices were right all along but I don’t want them to be. There’s nothing wrong with my husband—he’s kind, affectionate and loves me for me. I find myself over analyzing his every movement and comparing it—something I’ve never done with anyone else. We are planning a move in a few months and at first I was ecstatic, but now I am anxious and worried. I’ll be leaving a fantastic job and my entire family and I’m fearful that it won’t work out. In my mind I know it will but there is that part of me that is afraid that no matter how hard I try I will fail—that I can’t love him enough. I hate this feeling and think it is OCD but am unsure. What are your thoughts?

  • Derek


    Firstly, you have been a true hero and inspiration for me during a very tough year of anxiety. I graduated from my degree in psychology, and moved country to be with my long-distance partner. Intrusive thoughts were at the core of everything ‘the not good enough lens’ as you call it definitely hindered me in different ways.

    As I read your latest blog I am smiling and laughing at how much I relate. This morning I woke feeling quite anxious (we are experiencing a heat wave which does not help) and reading here has made me remember to be grateful and enjoy.

    The reason behind this message is: you have a new book coming and I am unbelievably excited.

    Can we pre-order already?

    Sending you love, light and peace.


  • Hello,
    I came across your website this morning for the first time. I have been battling with anxiety for years and somehow I can’t manage to get to the diamond in it. I am very much looking forward to your future book “The Wisdom of Anxiety” as many of the things you write about here I can very easily relate to.
    Thank you for your unique point of view.

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