by Sheryl Paul | May 5, 2019 | Anxiety, Relationships |
It’s a thought that arises frequently for those struggling with relationship anxiety: “I have to be single in order to heal.” Offshoots and extrapolations of this thought sound like: • “I have to backpack by myself across Europe.” •... by Sheryl Paul | Apr 28, 2019 | Anxiety, Relationships |
When I was in graduate school twenty-five years ago, we learned many essential principles and tools for becoming a skilled healer in the counseling arts. We thoroughly covered various modalities, including the depth psychological perspective that informs all of my... by Sheryl Paul | Apr 21, 2019 | Anxiety, Health anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts |
A significant and essential component of any healing process is learning to feel the emotions that were shut down and stuffed away in the dark recesses of childhood long ago: The tears that were squelched under the message of “too sensitive”; the fears... by Sheryl Paul | Apr 14, 2019 | Relationships |
A coaching client recently wrote to me to share the following (shared with permission): Each time of the three times I spoke to you, you told me something that has been a huge lifeline for me: “If two people are willing to make it work, they can make it work.” You... by Sheryl Paul | Apr 7, 2019 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Trust Yourself |
Just as there are no rules for life, there are no rules for relationships. That statement can be triggering for the ego, the part of us that insatiably demands definite answers and craves formulas. “Tell me how to live and how to love and then I’ll know... by Sheryl Paul | Mar 31, 2019 | Trust Yourself |
Our culture entrains us not to know who we are. From the time we’re born and continuing into our early years, we’re conditioned to externalize our sense of self through being told when and how to eat, sleep, play, socialize, learn. Although this may be... by Sheryl Paul | Mar 24, 2019 | Trust Yourself |
As I frequently write about on my site, there are so many ways the mind tries to protect us from the vulnerability, discomfort, and pain of being present, but the one that presents most often in my audience is the defense mechanism of intrusive thoughts. If... by Sheryl Paul | Mar 17, 2019 | Anxiety, Dying/Death |
“Though no one can tell us how, we have to work this great battle again and again: to leave the underworld – not to harden – and to make our back into the land of the living.” – Mark Nepo, The Book of Awakening People often ask me,... by Sheryl Paul | Mar 10, 2019 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Relationships |
The relationship anxiety spike, “My partner is too silly” appears often in my work. On the surface this sounds like, “I feel annoyed when my partner is silly.” However, as I walk alongside my clients while they deconstruct what’s embedded... by Sheryl Paul | Mar 3, 2019 | Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Relationships |
When I was seven years old, my favorite Justice League superheroes were the Wonder Twins. I loved that their magic rings would activate their superpowers. I loved that one shining moment when they locked rings and were transformed into their magical animal and water...
