Break Free From
Relationship Anxiety Course
Do you struggle with doubt that you are not with the “right” partner – that you’re “settling” and that there’s someone “better” for you out there?
Do you worry that you don’t love your partner enough, that you’re not “in love”, not attracted enough, or that something is “missing”?
If so, you’re in the right place. Thousands of people have taken my course and broken free from their relationship anxiety. The same is possible for you. If you’re suffering from relationship anxiety (sign up for the free sampler/assessment in the sign-up box below to find out for sure), whether single, dating, dating after divorce, engaged, or married, this is the best course of action you can take.
Based on over two decades of my work with clients and course members, this comprehensive, self-paced course includes fourteen downloadable lessons of exclusive videos, MP3 interviews, articles, checklists, charts, tools, and exercises that will help you transform your relationship anxiety into clarity and love.
There is no other resource available that guides you step-by-step on how to heal relationship anxiety from the root.
You are far from alone and I assure you that you’re not an extreme case. One of the ways we heal is through stories and learning that we’re not alone. Along these lines, when you sign up for the course you will receive ten MP3 interviews with people who were in the depths of relationship anxiety, suffering from the range of doubt from day one to a two-year honeymoon that ended overnight.
In other words, some never experienced infatuation and lived with years of doubt before they found their way to my work; others were blissfully happy for months or even years until the anxiety and panic blew apart their world overnight. They come from all parts of the world and are in all configurations of relationships, for relationship anxiety is the great equalizer and crosses all boundaries. It can affect you no matter how old you are, where you live, your religious background, or your sexual orientation. These courageous women and men share their struggle in detail and let you know that you’re not alone, crazy, or an extreme case.
You will also gain access to a private, moderated, extremely active forum, where you can connect with people who are struggling with your EXACT issues, and you’ll be privy to the wisdom of those who made it through and are offering their advice to those in the eye of the anxiety storm.
Alanis Morissette
Sheryl’s work was indispensable in helping me soothe and address my fears and anxieties.
Sara
You must receive hundreds of emails a day, so I’m sorry for filling your inbox, but I felt moved to send you a personal thank-you. Sincerely, from the bottom of my heart, I want you to know that you and your e-course have been a gift from heaven for me.
Brent Alexander
There is no other source that I know of for this information and for this method of awakening. Sheryl is the master and her course is worth ten times what you pay for it.
There is no other resource available that guides you step-by-step on how to heal relationship anxiety from the root.
Self-Paced: Paid in Full
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$349
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Self-Paced: Split Payment over Two Months
$190
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Is my doubt about my relationship an offshoot of my own anxiety or is it a warning that I’m with the wrong person?
Many people wonder what “relationship anxiety” is and if they are, indeed, suffering from it. They also desperately want an answer to that million-dollar question.
The answer to this question is contained in the assessment. Fill in your information to receive an immediate answer (and a lot of reassurance just from going through the material).
When You Sign Up For The Program, You Will Receive:
- 14 lessons divided into four sections
- 24 exclusive videos that teach the key principles and practices to help you break free from relationship anxiety.
- 10 exclusive, one-hour podcasts with women and men from all over the worldwide who tell their honest stories of how they broke free from relationship anxiety and found their way through.
- Hundreds of pages of articles to elucidate the various components of this work.
- Specific and essential tools and exercises to help you heal from anxiety and find your clarity.
- Two-month access to a private, moderated, extremely active, live forum where you will have an opportunity to interact with members worldwide who are struggling or have struggled with every aspect of relationship anxiety. There are over 135,000 posts on this very special forum. After the two month period, you’ll have an opportunity to continue forum access through subscription membership.
- 6 MP3 visualizations and poetry to guide you through the process of healing.
- Lifetime access to all of the material
The 14 Lessons are divided into four sections:
The Foundation
Where I will explain in detail the root causes of relationship anxiety, discuss the anxious-sensitive-creative personality type (why is this so hard for me?), explain dark night of the soul, delve into the essential concept of projection, cover red-flag issues, resistance, and answer the million-dollar question (see assessment above).
Break Free From Anxiety
Where I will teach you the essential tools and information that will help you break free from your anxiety. This section includes in-depth videos on topics that are exclusive to this course, like sexuality and the ex.
Intrusive Thoughts
An in-depth course unto itself that will teach you how to heal from intrusive thoughts once and for all.
The Stories
Where you will receive 10, one-hour podcasts with men and women all over the world in all configurations of relationship who share their struggle with relationship anxiety and how they broke free.
Bonus Lesson
A special focus on the anxiety activated by a proposal or impending marriage for anyone in the wedding transition (engaged or newlywed).
"I have been married for a month now, and I can honestly say I would have not had the courage to commit had I not been working with Sheryl and if I did not know the truth about real love and attraction, or have the tools to calm and sooth my anxious mind. Hand on heart, I can highly recommend Sheryl's counselling, coaching and online courses (I have delved into all of them!) for anyone who is committed to healing their anxiety and allowing their heart to break open in order to be free to share and experience the love in your heart."
“I found Sheryl’s work around 8 years ago and at first just spent a while reading her blogs, which I found so rich, comforting and informative, before I decided to have a session with her. I found the work to be deep and difficult but I loved working with Sheryl. Her integrity and depth shone through and I knew there was great wisdom in what she shared, even if I could not always fully integrate it in my life. I also bought many of Sheryl’s online courses, with The Break Free from Anxiety Relationship e-course being my favourite and most transformational course. I just loved the way it was laid out – so clear and practical – easy to dip in and out of or take a deep dive with – so much information at your fingertips that I revisited time and time again. I learn very well with visuals and videos, so this course was excellent for me as I could listen to the videos over and over, and look at the wheel charts at length. I felt like Sheryl had thought of everything – she clearly knows and understands this terrain deeply – and it also really felt like she was right there with me. Sheryl’s approach (in person and online) is unwavering, strong, and compassionate. There is some fierce love in there, telling you in no uncertain terms that fear is a liar, and that we need to take full responsibility, to wake up to it and do the work needed to excavate and move through it, if we want to experience love, which lies on the other side of fear.
“I recently started working with Sheryl again – and wow what divine timing that was. After 8 years of working with her on and off, but never following through on my relationships – by which I mean always dipping in a toe, but ultimately leaving them, it really was time to do the work on a deeper level. I had met a wonderful man and was once again insanely triggered in my fear. This was my time though, I had seen enough (been through 3 relationships repeating the same pattern) to know that the problem was mine, that the anxiety lay inside me, and that I had some strong projection habits going on! Within 6 months of my new relationship, working with Sheryl to steady the way, I was engaged and within a year we married! I have been married for a month now, and I can honestly say I would have not had the courage to commit had I not been working with Sheryl and if I did not know the truth about real love and attraction, or have the tools to calm and sooth my anxious mind. And what an utter travesty it would have been to walk away again… I would have missed out on my life’s greatest adventure, as I have never felt happier and more in love in my life. It really is true that the depth of your anxiety is in direct proportion to your love and your capacity to love. Of course, at times anxiety rears its head still – my old familiar friend – but I know now that this simply means I am misaligned and off centre internally, and I enjoy going inward to see what is calling for my attention inside. This simple, but profound shift means that the anxious feelings never really stay around for long, and my confidence in knowing how to handle anxiety has skyrocketed, as has my confidence in trusting that I know (very well) how to love. My new husband and I are at the start of our marriage journey and I finally feel clear, aligned and very excited about our future, and our capacity to handle what life might throw at us along the way.
“So hand on heart, I can highly recommend Sheryl’s counselling, coaching and online courses (I have delved into all of them!) for anyone who is committed to healing their anxiety and allowing their heart to break open in order to be free to share and experience the love in your heart. It is a true and invaluable reeducation and something that I feel should be taught in schools globally – imagine what a different world that would be!”
Katrina Kerr, London
"I remember vividly the day I experienced relationship anxiety. It was the night before I got married, back in October 2012. I could not sleep or eat. All I could think about was, "Did I make a mistake?", "Am I not in love with him?" "Will we get a divorce?"
“I started searching in the web all the questions in my head, and suddenly, came Sheryl Paul and her amazing work. I immediately purchased the Consciously Wedding E-Course, and started reading through the course and hearing all the stories. I thought I was cured. Little did I know, the road ahead was long and life changing. I admit, I had a lot of resistance, but my heart opened when she launched her course “Breaking Free from Relationship Anxiety”. I did all the work, listened to her audios as well as the stories. For once, I did not feel alone. Her work not only helped me deal with my relationship anxiety, but also showed me to trust myself, not to take my thoughts at face value but to challenge the thoughts. It helped me find the root cause of my anxiety, and for that I thank her every day. I will say, anxiety is part of me and I still experience it from time to time, but having this experience and finding Sheryl to guide me through the process was essential for my healing and growth. I love you, Sheryl.”
Viviana Angulo, Miami, Florida
"I'm sure you get these messages every day, but I needed to thank you for everything you have done for my relationship and my life. Your work gave me clarity in the most anxious and confusing time in my life."
“I’m sure you get these messages every day, but I needed to thank you for everything you have done for my relationship and my life. Your work gave me clarity in the most anxious and confusing time in my life. I feel that I am reaching the end of my relationship anxiety and I couldn’t be more grateful for the Break Free Course, the forum, and the reading list. I know that if I ever reach an anxious point in my life, I can handle my own emotions. That is the greatest gift I’ve ever received. You are doing God’s work and are helping so many people. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.”
Linda, New Jersey
"I’m writing to you first with deep and heartfelt gratitude for creating and sharing your relationship anxiety e-course. My life transformed completely after finding it and I don’t know where I would be today without it."
“Because of you I never have to wonder and can happily say I am recently married to my best friend and have gained innumerable tools to look inward and work on loving myself.
My husband X and I started dating four years ago. At the time I was ending my previous relationship, which had lasted for three years, and the entire time before and during our relationship I had spent filled with anxiety. At the time of the ending of the relationship I thought it was because I had always known deep down that my boyfriend wasn’t the one for me, and while I am sure that was part of it, I realize now that much of the anxiety would follow me everywhere – and it soon did. X’s and my relationship was perfect for about two months, and I thought love was the cure for all anxiety until it came raging back to me. My own issues along with the stress of graduate school were incredibly hard on us – we even briefly broke up, but couldn’t step away from each other.
I had been aware of the term “relationship anxiety” for at least a year before I found your course and had searched many times online for articles and advice for help, but never found more than a few articles that didn’t offer detailed information. When we hit the three and a half year mark I became incredibly frustrated and depressed that I still had such doubts and anxiety about our relationship – surely I thought they must be gone by now if we were really right for each other. Another desperate google search led me to your course, and I couldn’t believe my luck. I knew it was for me and I bought the course right away.
I have been seeing a counselor for years, who I trust and has certainly helped me a lot in taking care of myself and my personal growth, but I never felt like I could make sense of relationship anxiety until I took your course, saw that thousands of people struggle with it, and received tools for understanding and addressing it. I could tell that your approach was the real deal when I could see on your website that you made sure we know that there are no quick fixes, but slow and steady progress is always possible.
I cannot express how incredible and quick the transformation was in me. I found the course in December and bought it just before Christmas. Within a few weeks, I felt the high, then the low, and slowly worked my way up again – and I found myself thinking constantly of engagement. We always knew that we both wanted to propose to each other. Because X had been so patient with me, I surprised him with a proposal in February, and a month later he finished with part two. I know my work is never done and I still have a long way to go, but I get overwhelmed with gratitude thinking of the discrepancy between where I was just seven months ago and where I am today. I love that your approach refuses to see people as “disordered” but rather functioning within a toxic culture that is not designed to meet our needs.
I can’t sing enough praises of your work. Thanks for your time, and thank you from the bottom of my heart for changing my life.”
A, Iowa
"Truly, this work has saved my life. Thank you, Sheryl!"
“I found the Break Free From Relationship Anxiety course about a year and a half after I started having doubts about my relationship and feeling a kind pain that was a mix of anxiety and depression that I had never before experienced. When I found Sheryl’s website while I was, dare I say it, googling, I couldn’t believe that there was a thing called “Relationship Anxiety” but I knew that was exactly what I had. Just knowing that in itself was a huge relief and I knew immediately that I needed to soak up everything the course had to offer.
“It’s been almost 4 years since the first pings of doubt and questioning and subsequent terror took hold of me. I spent a year and a half second guessing if I loved my (now) husband and seeing all these perceived flaws and then another two and a half years reconditioning myself to understand what the heck happened and how to have a healthier take on what was really going on. It was not easy and being disconnected in that way from a person I have loved so deeply the whole time was the worst thing I’ve ever gone through. I held out for an answer because I knew if I didn’t really love him, I wouldn’t have been so desperate to understand what was wrong. Now after this long while, I can say finally that I have truly broken free and not only have I found that “oatmeal love” with my husband, I can understand how the anxiety and undergoing this whole process was a gift. Learning what I learned in the Break Free From Relationship Anxiety Course has helped me in all aspects of my life and I feel better equipped as a human being in this sometimes scary and difficult world.
“I think the most important things that I have learned and finally have engrained in my psyche: I need to learn how to fill my own well (no one else can do that for me), what I water will grow (and I’m holding the watering can), and my husband is a human being with flaws and imperfections just as I am. Also knowing that love can grow and is based on intention and commitment – that has helped put me in the driver’s seat again as well and made me a better partner. Oh oh Oh – and – just because I think something, doesn’t mean it’s true!! (Pair that with “what I water will grow” and that’s a pretty sweet recipe for taking care your own mental health!)
“Now that I have “broken free”, it doesn’t mean I’m perfect and don’t get flares of anxiety, it just means that when those sensations do crop up, I use it as an indicator that it’s time to turn inward and meditate or do something as simple as giving myself a hug. I don’t ever let myself go down the rabbit hole of thought that somehow my husband is somehow responsible, either passively or actively, for my discomfort.
“Truly, this work has saved my life. Thank you, Sheryl!”
Claire Elaine, Doylestown, PA
"It has been two years since I started the Breaking Free course, and I can humbly say that I would not have had such a beautiful engagement, wedding, or marriage so far if I did not find your site through my anxiety-driven Google searching all that time ago. Your course was and still is worth every penny and minute I invested in it, and it is the first thing I recommend when I meet women whose anxiety has distorted the reality of their relationship."
With endless gratitude,”
Gianna Lussier, Portland, OR
"I cannot tell you how much your work has helped me over the past year, Sheryl. It changed my life completely! Your course work and insight has been profoundly important to me. The way you think about love and relationships is revolutionary."
Colette Nothnagel, Johannesburg, South Africa
If you have a question about the course, please submit it below in three brief sentences or less. Due to the volume of emails that I receive, I cannot read and respond to lengthy inquiries, but I’m happy to answer a very specific question to help you determine if the course is right for you. If you write a long inquiry you will not receive a response. Before submitting your question, please be sure to read the Frequently Asked Questions section below to see if it’s already been addressed.
I also offer single coaching sessions, which you can learn more about by clicking here.
Frequently Asked Questions
What if it doesn’t work? What if I go through the Course and I’m still anxious?
The course isn’t a magic pill that takes away your anxiety just by reading the material and watching the videos (I wish I had that magic pill!). You have to work through the exercises and give your fear time to work through. The course will provide you with accurate information to replace your unrealistic expectations. It will provide you with tools and exercises for working with your anxiety, doubt, and intrusive thoughts. It will provide you with comfort from reading about and hearing other people’s stories that are just like yours. But the real work has to come from you and your commitment to taking full responsibility for your well-being. And there are two elements that I can’t include in the course: time and patience. There are six factors in the equation that results in serenity:
accurate information + effective tools for managing anxiety + support + validation through other’s stories and posts + time + patience = serenity
The course offers the first four factors, but there’s no way to package TIME and PATIENCE. However, I will say this: Every single person who has worked with me in some capacity (read my books, frequented the forum, worked through the course, and/or had coaching sessions) and has found the patience to give themselves enough time, has found their serenity. Across the board without exception. The same can be true for you.
What if I'm in a new relationship?
As KD’s story shows above, and as several of the interviewees in the course share, relationship anxiety can hit at any time, including in the first few months, weeks, or even days of a relationship. The culture says, “If you have doubt from day one then you’re in the wrong place,” but my work reveals a vastly differently story.
What if I work through the course and discover that I want to leave?
This is the number one reason why people don’t sign up for the course: They’re terrified that they will discover that their “truth” is that they want to leave. I will tell you this: Of the thousands of people who have gone through the course, very few decide to leave, and for those that do leave it’s usually because there are true red-flag issues (which you will learn about in the course as well). What ends up happening is quite the opposite: When you work through your fear walls and see your partner with clear eyes, you are more available to love and be loved. When fear shrinks, love grows. It’s quite a simple equation.
Do you talk about OCD, ROCD, and HOCD?
Yes. In fact, the entire course addresses what the mainstream culture refers to as ROCD. While I’m not a big fan of diagnoses as they imply that there’s something “disordered” about you, my work addresses the root causes of these very painful yet common experiences. Section Three of the course – Break Free From Intrusive Thoughts – addresses the most common thoughts associated with “OCD”, including “What if I’m gay?” and “What if I don’t love my partner?” Most modalities teach you to work with the thoughts on a surface layer. Working this way may offer short-term relief, but it doesn’t address them at the thoughts at the core, which requires pulling them out by the roots. This is what the course will teach you.
What if I’m a guy?
The course applies equally to men. When I started working in the field of psychology in 1999, my work centered around women and the wedding transition. Since then it has evolved to include anyone who suffers from relationship anxiety at any stage and configuration of relationship.
If you’re a man struggling with relationship anxiety and attraction is your main spike (as it is for many men), please read through this page and sign up for the free, 26-page document contained there.
Is it really worth the expense?
The real question to ask yourself is this: What is the cost of NOT getting the help and support you need? What will happen to you – and your relationship – if you don’t address your anxiety thoroughly and effectively? But to answer the question directly, the course is the synthesis of thousands of hours of my work with clients and course members since 1999, and it offers more information, guidance, support, and tangible tools than I could offer in twenty therapy sessions (and a single coaching session with me is about the same cost as this course).
Furthermore, this is the only course available that addresses relationship anxiety from the root, which means not only will be given tools, information and support for how to break through your relationship anxiety and find your way back to love but you’ll also receive a guide for how to navigate through the rest of your life more successfully.
My anxiety hit during my engagement. Will this course help?
The first version of this course was called the Conscious Weddings E-Course, and thousands of people have taken it and worked through their anxiety successfully. If your anxiety is specific to the wedding transition – meaning it started near the proposal, wedding, or first year of marriage – the Conscious Weddings Course may be for you. However, if you’ve had a lifelong history of anxiety and intrusive thoughts, and your relationship anxiety is pervasive and not specific to the wedding transition, the Break Free From Relationship Anxiety Course is for you.
Is the course religiously affiliated?
The course is not religiously affiliated. However, people of all faiths have taken the course and benefitted enormously from it. In other words, it’s inclusive both of those of faith and those who don’t follow any particular religious or spiritual path.
What if I’m already married?
Relationship anxiety can hit at any time, at any stage of relationship. You can be married for several years and suddenly find yourself questioning whether or not you’re with the “right” partner. Or perhaps the doubt was quietly there all along and then burst into flame seemingly out of the blue. Whatever the specifics of your story, the course will help you make sense of your experience and work through your anxiety so that you don’t have to walk away from a loving, stable relationship.
Can I view the course on an iPad or iPhone? I don't have a computer.
Yes, the course is delivered digitally and is downloadable and viewable on all devices.
What if I'm young? Everyone says I'm too young to commit to one person, so isn't this an anxiety a sign that I'm supposed to leave?
The culture says that you should “play the field” and that if you met in your teens or early 20s, you’re too young to settle down. I hold a different view, as do hundreds of people who have gone through my course and decided to commit or have already committed to their loving partner. Furthermore, if you’ve stumbled upon this work early in your life, you will learn skills and embark on a healing process that will serve you for the rest of your life. You’re one of the lucky ones!
Is the course available in countries outside the United States?
Yes, as long as you can use Paypal you can purchase the course.
I’m already in therapy. How is this different?
This course works beautifully in tandem with good therapy. However, as most therapists aren’t trained in the specifics of relationship anxiety, it’s important to supplement your work in therapy with information and tools that can help you move through this niche area of anxiety. Many people send articles from my site to their therapists, which can support the healing process tremendously. Sadly, I’ve heard countless stories of people’s therapists who respond to the doubt and fear with the dreaded, “Well, maybe that means you shouldn’t be with your partner.” If that’s the case, find a new therapist.
How long do I have access to the course?
You will receive lifetime access to all materials.
How long do I have access to the forum?
You will have two months access to the highly-moderated, highly-populated forum. After two months, you’ll have the option to become a monthly member for $39/mo where you will receive continued access to the forum and a group coaching call with Sheryl (one private session with Sheryl is $295). A great deal of healing occurs in these calls as you connect in real-time with other people struggling with relationship anxiety and have an opportunity to receive guidance directly from Sheryl.