Healing the Mother Wound: A 40-Day Course for Daughters
The next round of Healing the Mother Wound will begin in Spring 2023. This course fills to capacity, so if you would like to be in the first group to be notified when registration is open, fill in your information below.
Do you struggle with not feeling good enough and a deep, abiding sense of shame?
Do you long for a female figure to nourish you, take care of you, and accept you unconditionally?
Do you feel enmeshed with your mother, struggling to know where she ends and you begin?
Growing up, were you a parentified child, and now do you feel like you’re the adult and your mother is the child at times?
Are you afraid that if you say no to your mother, express a difference of opinion, or set a boundary with her that she’ll reject you, punish you, or abandon you?
Do you struggle with self-trust?
Do you feel like you have to be a good girl and good daughter, and that even perfect isn’t good enough?
If so, you may be suffering from a mother wound.
Over the years of working with women all around the world, I’ve noticed a common source of pain and wounding around their relationship with their mother.
For some women, this shows up as the feeling of being enmeshed: not knowing where your mother ends and you begin.
For other women, it shows up for as a fear of abandonment, especially if you express a difference of opinion or try to establish boundaries and separateness.
For most women, it shows up as a combination of both.
And for all women it leads to a disruption in self-trust and a deep, abiding sense of shame – the feeling of not being good enough – not beautiful enough, not smart enough, not successful enough, not worthy of love and belonging.
What exactly is a mother wound?
A mother wound is a rupture of attunement where a mother, due to her own unmet needs, lack of fulfillment/sense of self, and/or narcissistic and judgmental tendencies is unable to meet the emotional needs of her child. The mother’s expectations and needs become paramount and the daughter learns to orient around those needs.
This isn’t about hating mothers or blaming for mothers for all our pain. The bottom line is that our parents will always fail us in some way; it’s the nature of being human. Just like there’s no such thing as a perfect partner or friend, there’s also no such thing as a perfect parent.
Many daughters are afraid to name and see the wound clearly because they’re afraid that they’re betraying their mother and are bound by an unwritten loyalty contract.
But we must name and see our wounds clearly so that we can heal them. And healing the mother wound is one of the most empowering and liberating journeys we can take for when we name the wound and allow our mothers to be fallible and human we can examine the old contracts, write new ones, and set ourselves on a trajectory that allows us to chart our own path, regrow self-trust, step into intrinsic worthiness and the fullness of our light, and receive nourishment from other sources of mothering.
In this 40-day course, I offer a roadmap for healing this wound. It’s a personal course and a collective course, for when we heal the mother wound we do so not only for ourselves, but also for the generations that come after us and before us.
It’s also collective in the sense that when you gather with a group of women from around the world and learn that your pain and struggles are not unique, several layers of shame fall away. We heal best in community.
I’m so excited to offering this roadmap to you. Like all of my courses, this one has been gestating inside of me for many years. And now it’s ready to be birthed.
Are you ready to heal from your mother wound? If so, take my hand and the hands of many other women as we sit in a circle in a sacred grove together and spiral into several layers of healing. I look forward to seeing you there.
The May 2022 round of this course is now full and registration is closed. I’ll be running it again in 2023, and I’ll look forward to meeting you there.
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Responses From Past Participants
"With this course I found the path towards courage to transform how I relate to my own mother. A month after the course ended I can say that our relationship feels lighter to me and I have ways to work with feelings of anger and guilt. I have regained the hope and confidence that my mother and I heal our relationship from the inside out."
I have long had an inkling that my personal evolution lives in the age-old saying “ when the student is ready, the teacher will appear” . Upon discovering and experiencing Sheryl’s gifts and her most profound work, I can confirm that this is true. And what a teacher (spiritual midwife/mother/friend/guide/sister) Sheryl is! Every course of hers has come at an ideal time when a piece of my inner world was ripe and ready for the wisdom, space, expansion and ultimately return to my essence that these courses impart and facilitate.
The Healing The Mother Wound course came down from the heavens at a time when I was at a true loss of how to relate to my mother in a more healthy manner. My inner relationship to her was pained, enraged, helpless, fraught and frozen in inertia. This course helped me gently enter this fragile landscape, with great care and guidance. Each of the 40 emails, every video, all of the MP3s, the beautiful group calls and the consciously led forum in community with other daughters gifted me an opportunity. Many opportunities in fact to starkly look at my past, hold the pain, behold the beauty, realize I have always been mothered and guided by forces greater than the mother who gave birth to me.
What I also valued highly was Sheryl’s approach of aiding me in seeing my mother’s limitations, their effects on my life but all without entering the blame and shame game. Her ability to return to our common denominator of being human and working towards compassion towards ourselves and hence others is such a great and essential skill. Using metaphor, historical examples and teachings from realms I was unacquainted with, Sheryl also opened new worlds to me that contribute to this healing. Her ability to teach us to hold the past with care, breathe into the present with love and inch towards the future with hope is a rare gift. A juggling act of supreme uniqueness, made accessible in Sheryl’s teachings.
With this course I found comfort and new tools to mother myself while healing deep, wild and untended wounds. I am learning to accept mothering from other sources. Most importantly for me I found the path towards courage to transform how I relate to my own mother. A month after the course ended I can say that our relationship feels lighter to me and I have ways to work with feelings of anger and guilt. I have regained the hope and confidence that my mother and I heal our relationship from the inside out. Most importantly, I have been able to assess how I was mothered while consciously deciding how I want to mother myself and in turn mother my own children.
A deepest and most grateful thank you, Sheryl, for creating this course, pouring countless hours into it and, once again, giving us the gift of love, compassion, understanding and hope.
– Regina, Frankfurt, Germany
"I've been wanting to write to you to tell you that Healing the Mother Wound has been my favorite course that I have taken from you."
"I loved this course!"
I loved this course! The part I connected to the most is my great mother. I have been so busy with life/mom life, and have felt disconnected from her. You really helped me stop and listen to the music of Mother Nature. To connect again. I have been taking these walks at my work in the mornings (plant nursery) now ritually. I have been graced with a Great horned owl (visited for 2 weeks), hawks, hawk taunting a blue heron are a few of the gifts of my great mother – nature.
Some other things I loved about this course was the support on the forum. I didn’t write, however, I read through a lot of it. The support is inspiring! The support came from so many angles, which I love. You, Ashley, other forum members. My small group still meets from the recent Break Through Anxiety course and 3 of the 5 of us took the Healing the Mother Wound course. This also felt comforting and beyond blessed to have such amazing support.
Thank you for all you do, Sheryl!
– Elizabeth Sperry, Palm Beach, FL
"It’s been such a wonderful safe container for letting go and listening in to the feelings of grief, loss and abandonment that can be held inside for far too long without a place to go or release into. "
"You remain one of my greatest teachers and I am so grateful."
"I did this course right before a trip I had planned to visit my mother. I stayed with her for two weeks."
“I did this course right before a trip I had planned to visit my mother. I stayed with her for two weeks. I could notice and appreciate the things that she did that were nurturing. I also noticed the things that were not nurturing. I saw her more as a person with good and bad qualities and that was okay.
“It was a great trip then halfway through she did something that upset me and I was able to support myself through those feelings. I asked the tree for support in the moment. Later, I journaled. I shook the angry energy from my body and showered. I was able to mother myself in the moment. Now that I have the imaginal mother to hold all the archetypal mother qualities for me I don’t need to expect it from her and be disappointed.
“The course was filled to the brim with helpful information and tools. I could probably take a year working through that course with the amount of content in it and how big the topics of each email were. I liked that numbers-wise it was small and intimate.
“THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR ALL THAT YOU DO!”
– Morgan, Los Angeles, CA
Frequently Asked Questions
My mother is no longer in my life, either because of estrangement or because she’s deceased. Is this course still applicable?
I’ve done a lot of work around this wound through therapy and other places. Should I still take the course?
I don’t live in the U.S. Will I still be able to access the group calls?
I have more of a distant relationship with my mother than an enmeshed one. Could the course still be helpful?
Yes. While many daughters grew up enmeshed with their mothers, many other daughters grew up feeling pushed to the side, neglected and ignored. In either case, there’s a rupture of attunement where the daughter’s needs aren’t acknowledged and tended to, and this is how a mother wound is formed. If you look closely enough, there’s often a fear of engulfment and abandonment in both types of relationships.
Is the content geared toward repairing my relationship with my mother, who I know is toxic?
No, the content is NOT geared toward repairing a relationship with a toxic mother. The course is about healing the mother wound, which for some daughters means staying in relationship with their mother and for others means severing ties. I acknowledge throughout the course that if your mother is abusive in any way and on the far end of the Borderline/Narcissistic spectrum, it’s probably not loving for anyone to continue the relationship. However, some daughters with Borderline/Narcissistic mothers do find healthy ways to remain in relationship with their mother. As always, there are no formulas; there’s only what’s most loving for you.