by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jan 8, 2023 | Sexuality |
The way Hollywood sells it, kissing should happen effortlessly. We should long to kiss our loving partner all the time, and we should be in instant ecstasy the minute the kiss begins. When our partner approaches for a kiss, we should tilt up our head like a young... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jan 1, 2023 | Sexuality |
One of the most common statements I hear from women about their sexuality is, “I’m often stuck in my head during sex. Sometimes I’m planning the dinner menu or thinking about what we need from the grocery store. I have a hard time staying in my... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Mar 26, 2017 | Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships, Self Trust Collection, Transitions - General, Trust Yourself |
“I’m always comparing my relationship to other people’s relationships. Why does everyone else look like they’re so in love?” “I have such a hard time making decisions. Sometimes I can’t even decide what to order at a... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Mar 20, 2016 | Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships, Transitions - General |
As many of you know who follow my blog, Carrie and I met in graduate school over twenty years ago, and we both agree that our friendship was the best gift to come out of that program. We have grown together as friends, wives, and colleagues, shaping each other in... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Feb 8, 2016 | Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Intrusive Thoughts, Intrusive Thoughts Collection, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
As much as I talk about intrusive thoughts on this site and in my courses, I’ve never formally defined them. And, truthfully, in all of my training over the years I’ve never come across a precise definition of intrusive thoughts. Furthermore, despite the... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Nov 15, 2015 | 20s, Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Conscious Weddings Message Board Posts, Intrusive Thoughts, Intrusive Thoughts Collection, Relationships |
“There is nothing more important to true growth than realizing that you are not the voice of the mind – you are the one who hears it. If you don’t understand this, you will try to figure out which of the many things the voice says is really... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Sep 27, 2015 | Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationship Anxiety Collection, Relationships |
Alongside the thoughts, “Maybe I’m just trying to convince myself to stay”, “I don’t know if I love my partner enough”, and “Do we have a strong enough connection?”, the question of finding a “better match”... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Aug 31, 2015 | Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationship Anxiety Collection, Relationships |
A client told me a few weeks ago that she’s been feeling irritated with her husband. Then, in the hushed tones I’ve come to identify immediately as shame, she asked, “Is that normal?” At which point I told her that my post entitled “When... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jul 26, 2015 | 20s, Anxiety, Relationships, Self Trust Collection, Trust Yourself |
The fear of making a mistake and the fear of failure live at the heart of what keeps many people stuck. Whether you’re struggling with relationship anxiety, career stagnation, depression, or generalized anxiety, the fear of making a mistake creates a... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Mar 12, 2015 | 20s, Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships, Self Trust Collection, Trust Yourself |
One of the root causes of anxiety is falling prey to the ego’s tendency to divide life into polarities – good/evil, right/wrong, black/white – in an attempt to control the outcome of our choices and find a guarantee. In other words, your ego believes...
