by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Mar 30, 2025 | Relationships |
It seems that we’re wired for perfection – and by “we” I mean highly sensitive people prone to anxiety. There are many sources that drive this need for perfection: Sometimes it emerges from a child’s belief that if they can be perfect they can...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Feb 16, 2025 | Relationships |
We grow up absorbing many slogans about romantic love, most of which I’ve unpacked on my blog and in my course. Among the most common are: “You will just know when you meet the One.” “Don’t settle.” “If you don’t have...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jul 1, 2024 | Relationships |
Everest is home for the summer (hooray!). We’ve been having very interesting conversations about life, love, fear, and death. One morning, on our way back from a hike, he was talking about his career path and his hopes to become a Naval aviator, and I said,...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Mar 31, 2024 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Relationship Anxiety Collection |
We carry so many faulty beliefs and expectations about romantic love. Thanks to Hollywood and Disney, we carry an expectation that love should be easy. We think we should meet, fall in love, and live happily ever after. We think that arguing is a red flag and evidence...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Mar 19, 2023 | Anxiety, Open Your Heart |
I receive the question below so frequently that I decided it’s time to address it clearly in a post. This version was left as a comment on my blog a while back: Isn’t there such a thing as a bad match between partners, even if neither of them has red...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Feb 12, 2023 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
I was playing a game of solitaire the other night and a memory from childhood floated up to consciousness, followed by a wave of grief. I paused the game and breathed deeply into my heart, allowing tears to arrive and roll down my cheeks. As always with big grief,...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Feb 5, 2023 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
Note: You can watch a video version of this topic here. If you were drowning in the churning waters of relationship anxiety and I held out a rope and said, “Grab hold! This rope will teach you how to lift yourself out of the currents of your suffering. It asks...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jan 8, 2023 | Sexuality |
The way Hollywood sells it, kissing should happen effortlessly. We should long to kiss our loving partner all the time, and we should be in instant ecstasy the minute the kiss begins. When our partner approaches for a kiss, we should tilt up our head like a young...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jan 1, 2023 | Sexuality |
One of the most common statements I hear from women about their sexuality is, “I’m often stuck in my head during sex. Sometimes I’m planning the dinner menu or thinking about what we need from the grocery store. I have a hard time staying in my...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Dec 11, 2022 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Health anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Intrusive Thoughts |
An intrusive or unwanted thought arrives… What if I don’t love my partner enough? What if I’m a different sexual orientation than I thought I was? What if I’m trapped here forever? What if the world ends? What if I don’t love my baby?...
