by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Feb 7, 2019 | Intrusive Thoughts, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
Anxious people aren’t typically the most easy-going people on the planet. Because our high sensitivity wires us for hypervigilance, which then causes us to scan the horizon for danger, we’re physiologically primed to have a more tightly-wound nervous... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jul 29, 2018 | Anxiety, Lack of Attraction Collection, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
Love is a verb. This is one of the great truths about love that our culture fails to teach, one that, even when we understand the principle, we need to remember it and practice it over and over again. I think of marriage or any long-term, committed relationship with a... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jul 8, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Intrusive Thoughts Collection |
A coaching client recently said to me, “You talk a lot about doing “the work”, and I wondered for so long what “the work” was. I thought that if I understood anxiety intellectually I would feel better. And the first time I went through... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jun 24, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person |
Shame is often a placeholder for powerlessness and a protector against grief. Instead of feeling the rawness of grief, the mind latches onto a shame story that says, “I’m broken.” Instead of surrendering to the powerlessness of painful situations... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | May 13, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
Projection is one of the most important concepts to understand when you’re stuck in relationship anxiety or any manifestation of anxiety. It’s a psychological term that essentially means we’re stuck in a story about someone or something else with the... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Apr 1, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Relationships |
Every day that I work with clients struggling with relationship anxiety I find myself saying some version of, “Of course you’re scared. Loving is the scariest thing we do.” As I’ve written about several times on this blog, fear doesn’t... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Mar 18, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Relationships |
When discussing the concept that a root cause of relationship anxiety is the fear of being hurt by love, course members and coaching clients will often say, “I had a good childhood with loving parents. Why would I be so scared of love?” I’ve written... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Nov 26, 2017 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships, Transitions - General |
Fear-mind has a special genius for trying to prove that it’s right. It’s like we all have this aspect of our personality – some call it ego, other call it lower self – that has secretly attended law school and graduated at the top of its class.... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Nov 12, 2017 | Anxiety, Relationships, Transitions - General |
For those of you who are struggling with relationship anxiety, you probably saw the title of this post and wondered if I was going to talk about when to leave a relationship, and perhaps felt nervous that it was going to spike you. But hopefully you have enough faith... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Oct 22, 2017 | 20s, Aging, Holidays and Seasons Collections, Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Holidays/Holy Days/Seasons, HSP, Intrusive Thoughts, Parenthood transitions, Relationships |
We hear and read a lot of fear these days in psychological and spiritual circles. Mostly, fear is painted in a negative way as the energy that we have to wrestle with and overcome in order to live a life of joy. Most of the statements and quotes we read about fear pin...
