by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Mar 19, 2023 | Anxiety, Open Your Heart |
I receive the question below so frequently that I decided it’s time to address it clearly in a post. This version was left as a comment on my blog a while back: Isn’t there such a thing as a bad match between partners, even if neither of them has red... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Feb 12, 2023 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
I was playing a game of solitaire the other night and a memory from childhood floated up to consciousness, followed by a wave of grief. I paused the game and breathed deeply into my heart, allowing tears to arrive and roll down my cheeks. As always with big grief,... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Feb 5, 2023 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
Note: You can watch a video version of this topic here. If you were drowning in the churning waters of relationship anxiety and I held out a rope and said, “Grab hold! This rope will teach you how to lift yourself out of the currents of your suffering. It asks... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jan 8, 2023 | Sexuality |
The way Hollywood sells it, kissing should happen effortlessly. We should long to kiss our loving partner all the time, and we should be in instant ecstasy the minute the kiss begins. When our partner approaches for a kiss, we should tilt up our head like a young... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jan 1, 2023 | Sexuality |
One of the most common statements I hear from women about their sexuality is, “I’m often stuck in my head during sex. Sometimes I’m planning the dinner menu or thinking about what we need from the grocery store. I have a hard time staying in my... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Dec 11, 2022 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Health anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Intrusive Thoughts |
An intrusive or unwanted thought arrives… What if I don’t love my partner enough? What if I’m a different sexual orientation than I thought I was? What if I’m trapped here forever? What if the world ends? What if I don’t love my baby?... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Feb 7, 2019 | Intrusive Thoughts, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
Anxious people aren’t typically the most easy-going people on the planet. Because our high sensitivity wires us for hypervigilance, which then causes us to scan the horizon for danger, we’re physiologically primed to have a more tightly-wound nervous... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jul 29, 2018 | Anxiety, Lack of Attraction Collection, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
Love is a verb. This is one of the great truths about love that our culture fails to teach, one that, even when we understand the principle, we need to remember it and practice it over and over again. I think of marriage or any long-term, committed relationship with a... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jul 8, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Intrusive Thoughts Collection |
A coaching client recently said to me, “You talk a lot about doing “the work”, and I wondered for so long what “the work” was. I thought that if I understood anxiety intellectually I would feel better. And the first time I went through... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jun 24, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person |
Shame is often a placeholder for powerlessness and a protector against grief. Instead of feeling the rawness of grief, the mind latches onto a shame story that says, “I’m broken.” Instead of surrendering to the powerlessness of painful situations...
