by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jan 8, 2023 | Sexuality |
The way Hollywood sells it, kissing should happen effortlessly. We should long to kiss our loving partner all the time, and we should be in instant ecstasy the minute the kiss begins. When our partner approaches for a kiss, we should tilt up our head like a young... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Nov 27, 2022 | Intrusive Thoughts, Parenthood transitions |
Ever since our son, Everest, earned his private pilot’s power-plane license a few months ago I’ve been wanting to fly with him. Maybe “wanting” isn’t quite the right word; it’s more like I’ve been wanting to want to fly with... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Feb 20, 2022 | 20s, Anxiety, Relationships, Self Trust Collection, Transitions - General, Trust Yourself, Wedding/marriage transition |
Oh, the what-ifs… I’ve received hundreds of queries over the years that reflect some version of the same question: “What if I learn to trust myself and then I realize that my truth is that I have to leave my partner?” or “What if I turn... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Oct 31, 2021 | 20s, Self Trust Collection, Trust Yourself |
On a recent group call, a participant asked one of the most common questions for those struggling with anxiety and intrusive thoughts is: “So if I don’t trust these anxious thoughts then what can I trust? If my truth is really that we are not right for... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jul 4, 2021 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Dying/Death, Highly Sensitive Person, Relationship Anxiety Collection, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
One of the most challenging elements of anxiety is to understand is that the anxiety is projection. This means that the parade of intrusive thoughts that tortures the anxious mind and sensitive soul are actually pointing to areas inside of you that are crying out for... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Nov 11, 2018 | Anxiety, Dying/Death, Highly Sensitive Person, Holidays/Holy Days/Seasons |
My son and I are driving into town for our weekly Friday morning special time and Suzanne Vega’s song “The World Before Columbus” comes on. It’s a song she wrote for her daughter that I used to sing to Everest when he was a baby, and these... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jul 22, 2018 | 20s, Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Divorce/Calling it Off/Break Up, Highly Sensitive Person, Relationships |
There’s nothing like the first. The first family. The first friend. The first kiss. The first job. The first baby. The first heartbreak. The first time or experience or relationship lays the groove of a blueprint for how we navigate later, similar experiences.... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jul 8, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Intrusive Thoughts Collection |
A coaching client recently said to me, “You talk a lot about doing “the work”, and I wondered for so long what “the work” was. I thought that if I understood anxiety intellectually I would feel better. And the first time I went through... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | May 27, 2018 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Relationship Anxiety Collection, Relationships |
One of the most common questions I’m asked during a coaching session is, “What are red flags? You say that if I’m suffering from relationship anxiety and I’m in a healthy and secure relationship without red flags then the anxiety is a... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Apr 1, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Relationships |
Every day that I work with clients struggling with relationship anxiety I find myself saying some version of, “Of course you’re scared. Loving is the scariest thing we do.” As I’ve written about several times on this blog, fear doesn’t...
