by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Sep 1, 2024 | 9-Month |
If there’s one message that runs throughout my work on anxiety it’s this: You are not broken. Anxiety is not evidence of disorder but of exquisite, beautiful sensitivity gone awry. The belief that you’re broken is a core shame belief, and when we can...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Feb 4, 2024 | Anxiety |
There is always going to be something incomplete in this life. There are going to be times of fullness, and many more times of emptiness, boredom, restlessness, and the sense that something is wrong. Some people seek to fill the emptiness through alcohol, drugs, sex,...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Aug 27, 2023 | 9-Month |
We’re living in an extraordinary time on our planet: a time of extraordinary groundlessness and also extraordinary possibility. In our 24/7 media culture designed to light up the amygdala’s fear response, it’s easy to only see the world’s tremulous pain right now, and...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jan 22, 2023 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Health anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Intrusive Thoughts |
At the core of most, if not all, intrusive thoughts and obsessions is the question of enough. It can show up as: • Do I love my partner enough? or • Did I wash my hands enough? But what you’re really trying to answer is: Am I enough? I love what Jon Hershfield...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Dec 26, 2021 | Anxiety, Sexuality |
With the exposure of sexual assault, abuse, and violation in this country in the last couple of years, there can be no doubt that our culture suffers from profound sexual dysfunction and illness. Many of us, especially women, have been privately aware of the toxicity...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Nov 18, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
People often ask me why they’re struggling with relationship anxiety or social anxiety or any other kind of anxiety when other people seem to glide through life more effortlessly. The subtext embedded in the question is, “Is there something wrong with...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Nov 11, 2018 | Anxiety, Dying/Death, Highly Sensitive Person, Holidays/Holy Days/Seasons |
My son and I are driving into town for our weekly Friday morning special time and Suzanne Vega’s song “The World Before Columbus” comes on. It’s a song she wrote for her daughter that I used to sing to Everest when he was a baby, and these...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Oct 14, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Parenthood transitions, Relationships |
Perhaps the area of our lives to suffer most from the increasingly fast pace of the culture is love, for the expectation of immediate results naturally leads to a belief that love should not only be easy, but that when there’s a problem, it should be remediated...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Sep 16, 2018 | Anxiety, Dying/Death, Health anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts |
The Google search terms “how do you know if you’re in love” or “not in love with my partner” are some of the most common ways that people find their way to my work. Because our culture has sold us the bill of goods that romantic love is...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jul 8, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Intrusive Thoughts Collection |
A coaching client recently said to me, “You talk a lot about doing “the work”, and I wondered for so long what “the work” was. I thought that if I understood anxiety intellectually I would feel better. And the first time I went through...
