by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Nov 11, 2018 | Anxiety, Dying/Death, Highly Sensitive Person, Holidays/Holy Days/Seasons |
My son and I are driving into town for our weekly Friday morning special time and Suzanne Vega’s song “The World Before Columbus” comes on. It’s a song she wrote for her daughter that I used to sing to Everest when he was a baby, and these... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Aug 26, 2018 | Anxiety, Health anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Loss and Uncertainty Collection, Relationships |
As highly sensitive people we’re physiologically wired to look for what’s wrong or amiss. While this hypervigilence once served us and our community extremely well when we were living in the outback or jungle and we were the first to scan the horizon to... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jul 8, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Intrusive Thoughts Collection |
A coaching client recently said to me, “You talk a lot about doing “the work”, and I wondered for so long what “the work” was. I thought that if I understood anxiety intellectually I would feel better. And the first time I went through... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Apr 1, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Relationships |
Every day that I work with clients struggling with relationship anxiety I find myself saying some version of, “Of course you’re scared. Loving is the scariest thing we do.” As I’ve written about several times on this blog, fear doesn’t... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Mar 18, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Relationships |
When discussing the concept that a root cause of relationship anxiety is the fear of being hurt by love, course members and coaching clients will often say, “I had a good childhood with loving parents. Why would I be so scared of love?” I’ve written... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Feb 25, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
When the fear-fog clears, when the projection that has kept him separate from you and sealed a barnacle over your heart finally shatters, you see your partner as if for the first time. Not only do you see her clearly, in all of her sweet and simple splendor, but the... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Feb 4, 2018 | 20s, Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person |
While flipping through one of my favorite bedside stand-bys, Reflections on the Art of Living: A Joseph Campbell Companion, I came across the following passage and chuckled out loud: “My experience is that I can feel that I’m in the Grail Castle when... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Aug 13, 2017 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, HSP, Open Your Heart, Uncategorized |
There have been countless times over the many years of my marriage when my husband will say something that makes me feel loved or do something that gets us back on track when we’ve been in a negative feedback loop and I’ll think, “Oh, so that’s... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Aug 6, 2017 | Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, HSP, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
In response to one of the assignments in my Sacred Sexuality course to watch the film “Enchanted April”, a member of the forum shared the following. I was so moved by her response that I asked permission to share it here. She wrote: This film touched... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Apr 30, 2017 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
I’ve often written that the essential task of attending to our four realms of Self in order to find wellness and equanimity, and that in order to do this we need to have a loving, competent and clear inner parent at the helm of psyche. Just as kids feel safe...
