by Sheryl Lisa Finn | May 19, 2024 | Anxiety, Getting Married Collections, Relationship Anxiety Collection, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
2024 update: This post was originally published in 2013 and addressed one of the most common spikes for those struggling with relationship anxiety: Can I make it work with anyone? An offshoot of this spike is: What if we’re just a bad match? When people find...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | May 28, 2023 | OCD |
As I wrote about recently, at the core of anxiety and OCD lives the fear of death: either literal death or social death (humiliation, being shunned, rejected, losing your place of belonging). If we’re going to address anxiety at the root, we have to talk about...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jan 22, 2023 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Health anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Intrusive Thoughts |
At the core of most, if not all, intrusive thoughts and obsessions is the question of enough. It can show up as: • Do I love my partner enough? or • Did I wash my hands enough? But what you’re really trying to answer is: Am I enough? I love what Jon Hershfield...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jan 1, 2023 | Sexuality |
One of the most common statements I hear from women about their sexuality is, “I’m often stuck in my head during sex. Sometimes I’m planning the dinner menu or thinking about what we need from the grocery store. I have a hard time staying in my...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Nov 27, 2022 | Intrusive Thoughts, Parenthood transitions |
Ever since our son, Everest, earned his private pilot’s power-plane license a few months ago I’ve been wanting to fly with him. Maybe “wanting” isn’t quite the right word; it’s more like I’ve been wanting to want to fly with...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Nov 11, 2018 | Anxiety, Dying/Death, Highly Sensitive Person, Holidays/Holy Days/Seasons |
My son and I are driving into town for our weekly Friday morning special time and Suzanne Vega’s song “The World Before Columbus” comes on. It’s a song she wrote for her daughter that I used to sing to Everest when he was a baby, and these...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Aug 26, 2018 | Anxiety, Health anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Loss and Uncertainty Collection, Relationships |
As highly sensitive people we’re physiologically wired to look for what’s wrong or amiss. While this hypervigilence once served us and our community extremely well when we were living in the outback or jungle and we were the first to scan the horizon to...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jul 8, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Intrusive Thoughts Collection |
A coaching client recently said to me, “You talk a lot about doing “the work”, and I wondered for so long what “the work” was. I thought that if I understood anxiety intellectually I would feel better. And the first time I went through...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Apr 1, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Relationships |
Every day that I work with clients struggling with relationship anxiety I find myself saying some version of, “Of course you’re scared. Loving is the scariest thing we do.” As I’ve written about several times on this blog, fear doesn’t...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Mar 18, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Relationships |
When discussing the concept that a root cause of relationship anxiety is the fear of being hurt by love, course members and coaching clients will often say, “I had a good childhood with loving parents. Why would I be so scared of love?” I’ve written...
