by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Dec 11, 2022 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Health anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Intrusive Thoughts |
An intrusive or unwanted thought arrives… What if I don’t love my partner enough? What if I’m a different sexual orientation than I thought I was? What if I’m trapped here forever? What if the world ends? What if I don’t love my baby?... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Oct 23, 2022 | Intrusive Thoughts, Trust Yourself |
When I was a kid growing up in the 70s, there wasn’t much that we worried about on the global scale. Yes, there was the threat of nuclear war (which we protested on the streets of Los Angeles), but, ignorant about the effects of human consumption and greed, we... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Dec 12, 2021 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
There is often a predictable arc to relationship anxiety that includes three stages.* The first stage is characterized by typical symptoms of anxiety and panic: Trouble sleeping Difficulty eating Tearful Depressed Bolting awake in the middle of the night Difficulty... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Oct 31, 2021 | 20s, Self Trust Collection, Trust Yourself |
On a recent group call, a participant asked one of the most common questions for those struggling with anxiety and intrusive thoughts is: “So if I don’t trust these anxious thoughts then what can I trust? If my truth is really that we are not right for... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Aug 15, 2021 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Relationships, Trust Yourself |
As humans in an uncertain world, we seek certainty in a variety of ways. We ask questions that are fundamentally unanswerable. We ruminate and obsess on a single thought (otherwise known as intrusive thoughts). We Google and text and seek reassurance in a variety of... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Nov 11, 2018 | Anxiety, Dying/Death, Highly Sensitive Person, Holidays/Holy Days/Seasons |
My son and I are driving into town for our weekly Friday morning special time and Suzanne Vega’s song “The World Before Columbus” comes on. It’s a song she wrote for her daughter that I used to sing to Everest when he was a baby, and these... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jul 29, 2018 | Anxiety, Lack of Attraction Collection, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
Love is a verb. This is one of the great truths about love that our culture fails to teach, one that, even when we understand the principle, we need to remember it and practice it over and over again. I think of marriage or any long-term, committed relationship with a... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jul 8, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Intrusive Thoughts Collection |
A coaching client recently said to me, “You talk a lot about doing “the work”, and I wondered for so long what “the work” was. I thought that if I understood anxiety intellectually I would feel better. And the first time I went through... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jun 24, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person |
Shame is often a placeholder for powerlessness and a protector against grief. Instead of feeling the rawness of grief, the mind latches onto a shame story that says, “I’m broken.” Instead of surrendering to the powerlessness of painful situations... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | May 13, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
Projection is one of the most important concepts to understand when you’re stuck in relationship anxiety or any manifestation of anxiety. It’s a psychological term that essentially means we’re stuck in a story about someone or something else with the...