by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Nov 9, 2025 | Lack of Attraction Collection |
Originally posted in 2017. Updated in 2025. *** The following question is one I often receive from my clients who are struggling with the specific spoke of relationship anxiety that contains the longing to feel more love, connection, and attraction for their partner...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | May 19, 2024 | Anxiety, Getting Married Collections, Relationship Anxiety Collection, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
2024 update: This post was originally published in 2013 and addressed one of the most common spikes for those struggling with relationship anxiety: Can I make it work with anyone? An offshoot of this spike is: What if we’re just a bad match? When people find...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Aug 12, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
There comes a time in a relationship when, if you’ve done your inner work, you see beyond all externals into the essence of a human being. Clients who are struggling with the attraction spike often ask me, “I’m constantly checking to see if I’m...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Aug 20, 2017 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
We long for rapture. We long to be transported to an otherworldly place where the problems that weigh heavily into our souls and the pain that pierces our hearts lift away, if only for a moment. We long to feel profoundly alive and deeply fulfilled. We long for...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Mar 5, 2017 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationship Anxiety Collection, Relationships, Transitions - General |
One of the common fear-lines that arises when the ego is trying to deconstruct the idea of relationship anxiety and convince you that your truth is that you’re just with the wrong person is: “If what Sheryl says is true, why don’t more people talk...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jun 7, 2015 | Intrusive Thoughts, Open Your Heart, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
I’ll always remember when my younger son broke through one of his major fears. The year before, after a fateful trip to Disneyland, he developed a severe case of separation anxiety. If my husband or I left him alone for even a minute to take out the trash or get...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Dec 29, 2014 | Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
On our way home from a lovely Christmas day with my family who lives about an hour away from us it started to snow. At first it was a wet sleet, but within a few minutes it thickened to a snow storm, and before we knew it we were driving through a white-out. The...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Dec 15, 2014 | Anxiety, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
We live in a culture that chases the light. We worship the happy face and plaster on smiles when we venture into the world. Smiley babies statistically receive more praise than fussy babies, and bubbly teens garner the attention. In a culture that upholds the...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Aug 31, 2014 | Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
A few weeks ago I met with two women from my spirituality group. They had never been to my home, and as we stepped onto the deck to begin our meeting they both remarked on the beauty of our land. I found myself qualifying and explaining about the dirt and weeds:...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Apr 27, 2014 | Anxiety, Getting Married Collections, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
One of the defining characteristics of relationship anxiety is the propensity to perseverate on a “what if” question regarding the amount or legitimacy of your love for your partner. “What if I don’t love him enough?” or “What if...
