by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Dec 12, 2021 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
There is often a predictable arc to relationship anxiety that includes three stages.* The first stage is characterized by typical symptoms of anxiety and panic: Trouble sleeping Difficulty eating Tearful Depressed Bolting awake in the middle of the night Difficulty... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Oct 7, 2018 | Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Relationships |
“Love is one of the great enlargers of the person because it requires us to ‘take in’ the stranger and to understand him, and to exercise restraint and tolerance as well as imagination to make the relationship work.” – May Sarton, Journal... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Aug 20, 2017 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
We long for rapture. We long to be transported to an otherworldly place where the problems that weigh heavily into our souls and the pain that pierces our hearts lift away, if only for a moment. We long to feel profoundly alive and deeply fulfilled. We long for... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jun 25, 2017 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationship Anxiety Collection, Relationships |
At least once a week, a client asks, “I know that love isn’t all butterflies and fireworks, but what should it feel like? Since I’ve never seen a healthy relationship and I’ve never been in one, I have no idea what it should be like.” I... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Feb 5, 2017 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Dying/Death, Highly Sensitive Person, Holidays/Holy Days/Seasons, Relationships, Transitions - General |
My favorite fairy tale when I was a child was Rumpelstiltskin, the story of a girl who makes a bargain with an imp-like creature in exchange for saving her life from being executed by the king. First she gives the imp a necklace, then a ring, then promises her... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jan 22, 2017 | Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
“Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jan 15, 2017 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Open Your Heart |
Our hearts are encased in protection, layers of materials like iron or brick that create a fortress around our most sensitive selves. When these material first arrived, they came as friends, for our hearts as young people didn’t know how to rest undefended. We... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Aug 14, 2016 | 20s, Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
There’s a common concept in our culture – one that I’ve adopted myself at times – that fear is our enemy. When we’re caught in fear’s offspring of anxiety and panic, it certainly feels like we’re been taken into enemy... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Feb 28, 2016 | Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
“I love him but I don’t desire him” is a statement I often hear from clients and course members. Our culture teaches us to be turned on by mystery. Desire and longing are so intimately linked that it’s often when a relationship becomes solid... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Feb 21, 2016 | 20s, Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, HSP, Open Your Heart |
It’s 2:20 am. We’re on a red-eye flight on our way back from a family vacation when the captain announces, in a very calm but urgent voice, that all passengers must fasten their seatbelt. Nearly everyone is asleep anyway. For the past three hours...