by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Dec 31, 2023 | Sexuality |
Most people carry some shame or uncertainty about their sexuality. While we may have learned the basics about the birds and the bees in school, we weren’t given the roadmap that would help us embrace this potentially joyful aspect of being human. Instead, we receive... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Oct 1, 2023 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety |
September 2023 update: If there is one blog post I refer to more than any other when someone asks about relationship anxiety, it’s this one. Why? Because at the core of relationship anxiety lives this one abiding question, and when we can address anxiety at the... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jul 9, 2023 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety |
When I had Covid last year, I watched several episodes of Indian Matchmaking. I’m always interested in shows about relationships (for obvious reasons), and I’m especially interested in how non-American cultures approach romantic love. Arranged marriages... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | May 28, 2023 | OCD |
As I wrote about recently, at the core of anxiety and OCD lives the fear of death: either literal death or social death (humiliation, being shunned, rejected, losing your place of belonging). If we’re going to address anxiety at the root, we have to talk about... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Mar 12, 2023 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Open Your Heart |
“Physical attraction is not a firm foundation on which to build a relationship, for the simple reason that it is never constant. It sets in motion a cycle of expectation and disillusionment that can go on and on. The person who lives in a world of fantasy will often... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Feb 12, 2023 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
I was playing a game of solitaire the other night and a memory from childhood floated up to consciousness, followed by a wave of grief. I paused the game and breathed deeply into my heart, allowing tears to arrive and roll down my cheeks. As always with big grief,... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Feb 5, 2023 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
Note: You can watch a video version of this topic here. If you were drowning in the churning waters of relationship anxiety and I held out a rope and said, “Grab hold! This rope will teach you how to lift yourself out of the currents of your suffering. It asks... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Dec 25, 2022 | Sexuality |
On the last round of Sacred Sexuality, we had a Zoom call that dropped us into a space of such tenderness and vulnerability that there were many tears coming from the Zoom squares. This happens sometimes, especially around the topic of sexuality. It’s what... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Feb 17, 2019 | Open Your Heart |
This comment on one of my recent blog posts speaks to the very heart of my work on love and attraction: Sheryl’s right – attraction CAN be grown! My husband has the qualities mentioned in today’s post in spades(!) + more… and that’s what... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Feb 7, 2019 | Intrusive Thoughts, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
Anxious people aren’t typically the most easy-going people on the planet. Because our high sensitivity wires us for hypervigilance, which then causes us to scan the horizon for danger, we’re physiologically primed to have a more tightly-wound nervous...