by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Feb 7, 2019 | Intrusive Thoughts, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
Anxious people aren’t typically the most easy-going people on the planet. Because our high sensitivity wires us for hypervigilance, which then causes us to scan the horizon for danger, we’re physiologically primed to have a more tightly-wound nervous...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Aug 12, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
There comes a time in a relationship when, if you’ve done your inner work, you see beyond all externals into the essence of a human being. Clients who are struggling with the attraction spike often ask me, “I’m constantly checking to see if I’m...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jul 22, 2018 | 20s, Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Divorce/Calling it Off/Break Up, Highly Sensitive Person, Relationships |
There’s nothing like the first. The first family. The first friend. The first kiss. The first job. The first baby. The first heartbreak. The first time or experience or relationship lays the groove of a blueprint for how we navigate later, similar experiences....
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jul 8, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Intrusive Thoughts Collection |
A coaching client recently said to me, “You talk a lot about doing “the work”, and I wondered for so long what “the work” was. I thought that if I understood anxiety intellectually I would feel better. And the first time I went through...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jun 24, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person |
Shame is often a placeholder for powerlessness and a protector against grief. Instead of feeling the rawness of grief, the mind latches onto a shame story that says, “I’m broken.” Instead of surrendering to the powerlessness of painful situations...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jun 10, 2018 | Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Relationships, Sexuality |
“This is your body, your greatest gift, pregnant with wisdom you do not hear, grief you thought was forgotten, and joy you have never known.” ― Marion Woodman, Coming Home to Myself: Reflections for Nurturing a Woman’s Body and Soul We’re a neck-up...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | May 13, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
Projection is one of the most important concepts to understand when you’re stuck in relationship anxiety or any manifestation of anxiety. It’s a psychological term that essentially means we’re stuck in a story about someone or something else with the...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | May 6, 2018 | 20s, Anxiety, Dying/Death, Job/Career Change, Moving, Relationships, Transitions - General |
Transitions, as breaking and renewal points, offer choice-points that determine how we unfold into the next stage of our lives. Many people find me during their wedding transition when when they’re broken open not only by relationship anxiety but also by the...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Apr 29, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Holidays/Holy Days/Seasons, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships, Transitions - General |
There’s a fundamental loneliness that is part of the fabric of being human. It arrives in the corners of night, when shadows form from curtain folds and the backs of chairs. It seeps in just before twilight, when afternoon exhales its last breath and evening...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Mar 18, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Relationships |
When discussing the concept that a root cause of relationship anxiety is the fear of being hurt by love, course members and coaching clients will often say, “I had a good childhood with loving parents. Why would I be so scared of love?” I’ve written...
