by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Nov 9, 2025 | Lack of Attraction Collection |
Originally posted in 2017. Updated in 2025. *** The following question is one I often receive from my clients who are struggling with the specific spoke of relationship anxiety that contains the longing to feel more love, connection, and attraction for their partner...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Nov 18, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
People often ask me why they’re struggling with relationship anxiety or social anxiety or any other kind of anxiety when other people seem to glide through life more effortlessly. The subtext embedded in the question is, “Is there something wrong with...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jul 29, 2018 | Anxiety, Lack of Attraction Collection, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
Love is a verb. This is one of the great truths about love that our culture fails to teach, one that, even when we understand the principle, we need to remember it and practice it over and over again. I think of marriage or any long-term, committed relationship with a...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Aug 13, 2017 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, HSP, Open Your Heart, Uncategorized |
There have been countless times over the many years of my marriage when my husband will say something that makes me feel loved or do something that gets us back on track when we’ve been in a negative feedback loop and I’ll think, “Oh, so that’s...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Aug 8, 2016 | Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
Alongside the adolescent view of love we hold in this culture that says that love is a feeling, we also believe that love should be easy. Of course, this attitude of effortlessness and ease extends far beyond the bounds of love; more and more, people seem to believe...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Feb 28, 2016 | Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
“I love him but I don’t desire him” is a statement I often hear from clients and course members. Our culture teaches us to be turned on by mystery. Desire and longing are so intimately linked that it’s often when a relationship becomes solid...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Oct 18, 2015 | Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
Left to it’s own devices, the mind will gravitate toward its most well-worn thought-groove, which, for many people, is fear and anxiety. The heart, following suit, will gravitate toward its basic defensive posture of fear: it hardens off to protect against the...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Sep 20, 2015 | Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
A client sent me a link to a brilliant article by the wonderful Brené Brown, where she clearly illustrates how it’s the stories we tell ourselves more than actual events that create our anxiety and negative reactions. She relates the story of a couple busily...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jun 7, 2015 | Intrusive Thoughts, Open Your Heart, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
I’ll always remember when my younger son broke through one of his major fears. The year before, after a fateful trip to Disneyland, he developed a severe case of separation anxiety. If my husband or I left him alone for even a minute to take out the trash or get...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jan 11, 2015 | Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
Love cannot be measured. It cannot be placed in test tubes in a science laboratory or placed on the great scale of life to determine whether or not there’s enough. The anxious/sensitive mind longs for a definite answer to the questions that swirl through its...
