by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Mar 12, 2023 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Open Your Heart |
“Physical attraction is not a firm foundation on which to build a relationship, for the simple reason that it is never constant. It sets in motion a cycle of expectation and disillusionment that can go on and on. The person who lives in a world of fantasy will often... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Feb 17, 2019 | Open Your Heart |
This comment on one of my recent blog posts speaks to the very heart of my work on love and attraction: Sheryl’s right – attraction CAN be grown! My husband has the qualities mentioned in today’s post in spades(!) + more… and that’s what... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Feb 7, 2019 | Intrusive Thoughts, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
Anxious people aren’t typically the most easy-going people on the planet. Because our high sensitivity wires us for hypervigilance, which then causes us to scan the horizon for danger, we’re physiologically primed to have a more tightly-wound nervous... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Sep 16, 2018 | Anxiety, Dying/Death, Health anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts |
The Google search terms “how do you know if you’re in love” or “not in love with my partner” are some of the most common ways that people find their way to my work. Because our culture has sold us the bill of goods that romantic love is... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Aug 12, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
There comes a time in a relationship when, if you’ve done your inner work, you see beyond all externals into the essence of a human being. Clients who are struggling with the attraction spike often ask me, “I’m constantly checking to see if I’m... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jul 22, 2018 | 20s, Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Divorce/Calling it Off/Break Up, Highly Sensitive Person, Relationships |
There’s nothing like the first. The first family. The first friend. The first kiss. The first job. The first baby. The first heartbreak. The first time or experience or relationship lays the groove of a blueprint for how we navigate later, similar experiences.... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jul 8, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Intrusive Thoughts Collection |
A coaching client recently said to me, “You talk a lot about doing “the work”, and I wondered for so long what “the work” was. I thought that if I understood anxiety intellectually I would feel better. And the first time I went through... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jun 10, 2018 | Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Relationships, Sexuality |
“This is your body, your greatest gift, pregnant with wisdom you do not hear, grief you thought was forgotten, and joy you have never known.” ― Marion Woodman, Coming Home to Myself: Reflections for Nurturing a Woman’s Body and Soul We’re a neck-up... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | May 13, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
Projection is one of the most important concepts to understand when you’re stuck in relationship anxiety or any manifestation of anxiety. It’s a psychological term that essentially means we’re stuck in a story about someone or something else with the... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Apr 29, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Holidays/Holy Days/Seasons, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships, Transitions - General |
There’s a fundamental loneliness that is part of the fabric of being human. It arrives in the corners of night, when shadows form from curtain folds and the backs of chairs. It seeps in just before twilight, when afternoon exhales its last breath and evening...