by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Nov 9, 2025 | Lack of Attraction Collection |
Originally posted in 2017. Updated in 2025. *** The following question is one I often receive from my clients who are struggling with the specific spoke of relationship anxiety that contains the longing to feel more love, connection, and attraction for their partner...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Mar 12, 2023 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Open Your Heart |
“Physical attraction is not a firm foundation on which to build a relationship, for the simple reason that it is never constant. It sets in motion a cycle of expectation and disillusionment that can go on and on. The person who lives in a world of fantasy will often...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Feb 17, 2019 | Open Your Heart |
This comment on one of my recent blog posts speaks to the very heart of my work on love and attraction: Sheryl’s right – attraction CAN be grown! My husband has the qualities mentioned in today’s post in spades(!) + more… and that’s what...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Aug 12, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
There comes a time in a relationship when, if you’ve done your inner work, you see beyond all externals into the essence of a human being. Clients who are struggling with the attraction spike often ask me, “I’m constantly checking to see if I’m...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jul 29, 2018 | Anxiety, Lack of Attraction Collection, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
Love is a verb. This is one of the great truths about love that our culture fails to teach, one that, even when we understand the principle, we need to remember it and practice it over and over again. I think of marriage or any long-term, committed relationship with a...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Mar 4, 2018 | Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
It happens in an instant: your partner comes to you for a kiss or sends a flirty text and your body tightens and recoils. Your habitual, culturally-conditioned mind interprets your physical response as “truth”: “This is my body’s way of telling...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Feb 25, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
When the fear-fog clears, when the projection that has kept him separate from you and sealed a barnacle over your heart finally shatters, you see your partner as if for the first time. Not only do you see her clearly, in all of her sweet and simple splendor, but the...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Feb 18, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Lack of Attraction Collection, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
Among the many misconceptions that people have about love – that it’s only a feeling, that the feeling of being “in love” should exist from day one, that attraction is static and based on external attributes – the faulty belief that...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Aug 20, 2017 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
We long for rapture. We long to be transported to an otherworldly place where the problems that weigh heavily into our souls and the pain that pierces our hearts lift away, if only for a moment. We long to feel profoundly alive and deeply fulfilled. We long for...
by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Aug 13, 2017 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, HSP, Open Your Heart, Uncategorized |
There have been countless times over the many years of my marriage when my husband will say something that makes me feel loved or do something that gets us back on track when we’ve been in a negative feedback loop and I’ll think, “Oh, so that’s...
