by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jan 29, 2017 | Anxiety, Lack of Attraction Collection, Open Your Heart |
The following question is one I often receive from my clients who are struggling with the specific spoke of relationship anxiety that contains the longing to feel more love, connection, and attraction for their partner (and let’s remember that I use attraction... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jan 22, 2017 | Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
“Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jan 15, 2017 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Open Your Heart |
Our hearts are encased in protection, layers of materials like iron or brick that create a fortress around our most sensitive selves. When these material first arrived, they came as friends, for our hearts as young people didn’t know how to rest undefended. We... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Aug 14, 2016 | 20s, Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
There’s a common concept in our culture – one that I’ve adopted myself at times – that fear is our enemy. When we’re caught in fear’s offspring of anxiety and panic, it certainly feels like we’re been taken into enemy... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Aug 8, 2016 | Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
Alongside the adolescent view of love we hold in this culture that says that love is a feeling, we also believe that love should be easy. Of course, this attitude of effortlessness and ease extends far beyond the bounds of love; more and more, people seem to believe... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Mar 6, 2016 | 20s, Anxiety, Open Your Heart |
We’re not meant to travel life’s pathways alone. In other times and other places, a culture’s members are guided through life’s transitions and trials by the elders who have already traveled that terrain. Girls are ushered through the tangle of... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Feb 28, 2016 | Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
“I love him but I don’t desire him” is a statement I often hear from clients and course members. Our culture teaches us to be turned on by mystery. Desire and longing are so intimately linked that it’s often when a relationship becomes solid... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Oct 18, 2015 | Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
Left to it’s own devices, the mind will gravitate toward its most well-worn thought-groove, which, for many people, is fear and anxiety. The heart, following suit, will gravitate toward its basic defensive posture of fear: it hardens off to protect against the... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jun 7, 2015 | Intrusive Thoughts, Open Your Heart, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
I’ll always remember when my younger son broke through one of his major fears. The year before, after a fateful trip to Disneyland, he developed a severe case of separation anxiety. If my husband or I left him alone for even a minute to take out the trash or get... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | May 31, 2015 | Open Your Heart, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
A term appeared on my e-course forum several years ago: infatuation junkie. Forum members were using it to describe the phenomena of chasing after the feeling that arises during the infatuation stage of a relationship, what our culture calls being “head over...