by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Mar 19, 2023 | Anxiety, Open Your Heart |
I receive the question below so frequently that I decided it’s time to address it clearly in a post. This version was left as a comment on my blog a while back: Isn’t there such a thing as a bad match between partners, even if neither of them has red... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Mar 12, 2023 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Open Your Heart |
“Physical attraction is not a firm foundation on which to build a relationship, for the simple reason that it is never constant. It sets in motion a cycle of expectation and disillusionment that can go on and on. The person who lives in a world of fantasy will often... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Feb 26, 2023 | Intrusive Thoughts |
A significant amount of anxiety would be reduced and would never manifest to begin with if we were taught about our thoughts early in life. Not only would we understand that we all have strange, dark, and wild thoughts, but we would understand that thoughts come in... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Feb 19, 2023 | Alanis Morissette, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Relationships |
Many of you have found your way to my work through the portal of relationship anxiety. From there, we’ve traveled into deeper realms together, including health anxiety, friendship anxiety, parenting anxiety, career anxiety, and generalized anxiety – but... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Feb 12, 2023 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
I was playing a game of solitaire the other night and a memory from childhood floated up to consciousness, followed by a wave of grief. I paused the game and breathed deeply into my heart, allowing tears to arrive and roll down my cheeks. As always with big grief,... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Feb 5, 2023 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
Note: You can watch a video version of this topic here. If you were drowning in the churning waters of relationship anxiety and I held out a rope and said, “Grab hold! This rope will teach you how to lift yourself out of the currents of your suffering. It asks... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jan 29, 2023 | Highly Sensitive Person, HSP, Transitions - General |
Note: I originally posted this on Instagram, and it struck a chord so I’m expanding upon the initial post here with further guidelines for how to work with this potentially challenging aspect of ourselves. Highly sensitive people often struggle with... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jan 22, 2023 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Health anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Intrusive Thoughts |
At the core of most, if not all, intrusive thoughts and obsessions is the question of enough. It can show up as: • Do I love my partner enough? or • Did I wash my hands enough? But what you’re really trying to answer is: Am I enough? I love what Jon Hershfield... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jan 15, 2023 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Relationship Anxiety Collection, Wedding/marriage transition |
Note: I first published this post in 2011 and it remains one of my most popular blog posts. I’m updating it now to include more relevant language and also concepts that have evolved in the last twelve years about relationship anxiety. *** One of the most common... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jan 1, 2023 | Sexuality |
One of the most common statements I hear from women about their sexuality is, “I’m often stuck in my head during sex. Sometimes I’m planning the dinner menu or thinking about what we need from the grocery store. I have a hard time staying in my...
