Welcome to Conscious Motherhood! Whether you’re thinking about trying to conceive, pregnant, or are in the first year of motherhood, you’ve found a place where you can begin to explore and express the exhilarating, terrifying, joyous, exhausting, and life-affirming journey of becoming a mother. While there are hundreds of web sites, books, and articles to assist women in understanding the physical aspects of pregnancy and new motherhood – the symptoms in each trimester, the baby’s growth, the foreign ground of diaper changing, newborn sleep patterns, and breastfeeding – this is the only site that is exclusively devoted to helping a woman understand the stages of transition that comprise the building blocks of her new identity as mother.
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When a woman approaches each stage of her transition into motherhood consciously – allowing herself to listen to her body’s wisdom and slow down enough during pregnancy to express her fears, talk about her expectations, grieve the loss of the old life, and prepare spiritually for labor – she naturally finds that the shock that greets the vast majority of women during the first months of motherhood is tempered or non-existent and she can embrace her new identity and, more importantly, her new baby, with gratitude and presence. And if you are one of the 20% of women who is suffering from postpartum depression or the 80% who is struggling through the confusion of baby blues, this site will help you review your transition and do the necessary work that will allow you to understand your feelings enough to move through them and become the mother you are meant to be.
If you are pregnant, you are housing the miracle of a baby’s creation and if you’re a new mother you are witnessing the actualization of this miracle daily. But the birth of your identity as a mother is also a miracle! And miracles aren’t created without hard work, grace, and consciousness. In order to create this brand new identity, you must shed the old life, you must allow your other identities of work-self, wife-self, friend-self, daughter-self, and essential-self to hibernate for a season, you must face your expectations about how you thought you would feel and act as a mother and then, within the extraordinary mother-baby dyad, your new identity as a mother is born.
Motherhood is one of the most important transitions a woman endures. The degree to which a new mother can embrace her identity and lifestyle directly affects the degree to which she embraces her new baby. At present, 10-15% of women to suffer from postpartum depression and 50-80% of women to suffer through the confusion of “baby blues” with no roadmap or context to help them through this transition. When a new mother spends her first year of motherhood in shock and depression instead of the acceptance, gratitude and joy that emerge from a conscious transition, she deprives both herself and her baby of a present, emotionally available experience.
As a culture, we owe it to impending and new mothers and to their vulnerable offspring to facilitate their preparation for the monumental changes inherent to this transition. Our culture commits a grave disservice by encouraging a pregnant woman to focus exclusively on the baby’s development and the preparation of the nursery when she should be following the lead of her body and using the challenges of pregnancy to help prepare her for the birth of her identity as mother. Deprived of a essential information, most women have no idea that they are supposed to be following their bodies or how to do that. They don’t realize that there is, in fact, a roadmap that women’s bodies follow.
Conscious Motherhood was created to offer women this roadmap and information so they can complete the transition into motherhood with confidence and joy. Instead of spending her pregnancy focused exclusively on the physical growth of her baby and preparing the nursery, when a woman approaches each stage of pregnancy, birth and new motherhood consciously, she develops the resources of endurance, patience, tolerance, faith, and self-trust that allow her to blossom into the mother – and person – she’s meant to be.
For specific articles on the transition into motherhood, click on the “parenthood transitions” tab in the drop-down categories menu to the right.