Sexuality
Our culture presents a distorted view of sexuality, one based on image, frequency, and outcome. In other words, you’re sold the message that if you’re not have sex multiple times a week and having multiple orgasms, there’s something wrong with you, your partner, or the relationship. Nothing could be further from the truth.
In this collection, you’ll learn about healthy sexuality as we debunk the cultural myths that cause shame and share truths and mindsets about sexuality that will help you reclaim one of your most sacred gifts. Please note: While the course references are directed to those who identify as female, the basic information applies to everyone.
To wade gently into the waters of this hidden realm and receive the roadmap for reclaiming this vital element of self, please see my Sacred Sexuality course.
Sacred Sexuality
We live in a microwave culture, which means we expect everything to happen and arrive quickly. We expect our food to arrive within minutes of ordering it. We expect our communication to arrive within seconds of sending it. We expect our things to arrive within days of...
We Have Forgotten Who We Are
We have forgotten who we are. We have forgotten that we're women of the moon and the sea, women of the tides and the jungles. We have forgotten that we run with the wolves and we swim with the dolphins, that we listen to the wisdom of the trees and we follow the...
Sex Begets Sex
One might think, given how much I write about relationships, that I would write more about sex. I've touched on the subject sporadically - here and here and here - but I haven't delved into the topic in depth for a variety of reasons, the primary being that it's such...
“My Partner Doesn’t Know How To Touch Me”
Clients often say to me, "My partner isn't a great lover. He or she doesn't know how to touch me like past partners have." To which I respond, "Maybe that's true, but if your own anxiety, current life circumstances, and sexual/body history are weighing down on you,...
Debunking Sexual Myths: Genital Response Means Desire
One of the spokes of any anxiety wheel is cognitive distortions: the assumptions, misunderstandings, and expectations we form about love, relationships, romance, parenting, sexuality, and nearly every realm of being human. Because we're not explicitly taught how our...
Eight Touchstones for a Loving Sexual Relationship
Sex is a common source of anxiety for many couples. Plagued by the world of "shoulds" that permeates our mindsets regarding love and relationships, most people carry a host of unrealistic expectations into their sex lives.When sex fails to live up to the impossible...
How to Untie the Link Between Relationship Anxiety, Sex Anxiety, and Shame
We talk about social anxiety. We talk about relationship anxiety. We talk about transition anxiety. Now it's time to talk about sex anxiety: not only how anxiety in general or relationship anxiety in particular kills libido but how much anxiety we carry about sex...