Self-Trust
Lack of self-trust is at the core of intrusive thoughts and many symptoms of anxiety. This often manifests as valuing others’ opinions more than your own, caring what others think, perfectionism, difficulty making decisions, pervasive self-doubt, and equating your self-worth with externals like achievement, culturally-sanctioned definitions of success, and even your choice of partner. In order to heal self-trust from the root you must learn what it means to fill your well of Self from the inside out, which many of these articles teach.
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The Imposter Syndrome
"When I do something well and have success, I feel like it's a fluke." "I walk around feeling like a fraud. I don't trust that I'm honestly capable of doing the things that I do." "I have this nagging sense that I'm going to be found out, like I'm a fake." A fluke. A...
The Fear of Making a Mistake
The fear of making a mistake and the fear of failure live at the heart of what keeps many people stuck. Whether you're struggling with relationship anxiety, career stagnation, depression, or generalized anxiety, the fear of making a mistake creates a debilitating and...
Leaf in the Wind Syndrome
"I'm always comparing my relationship to other people's relationships. Why does everyone else look like they're so in love?" "I have such a hard time making decisions. Sometimes I can't even decide what to order at a restaurant!" "I worry about whether or not my...
World Anxiety
One of the byproducts of being a highly sensitive person prone to anxiety is that you tend to take on others' pain and stories. This is particularly true if you had an enmeshed relationship with a parent growing up and didn't learn to solidify the borders of your skin...
How do I Know the Difference Between Intuition and Fear?
On a recent group call, a participant asked one of the most common questions for those struggling with anxiety and intrusive thoughts is: "So if I don't trust these anxious thoughts then what can I trust? If my truth is really that we are not right for each other [or...
A Psychic Told Me To Leave My Relationship
I can't tell you how many times I've heard or read some version of the following email that I recently received (published here with permission): I am in a loving relationship and engaged. A psychic woman told me very specifically that I will definitely not marry this...
The Art of Making Decisions
Our culture fails to teach us the essential skills we need to navigate through life successfully in so many ways. As I discuss often on this site, it fails to teach us about healthy, real love. It fails to teach us about how to feel our feelings and work with our...
What Is the “Right” Choice?
One of the root causes of anxiety is falling prey to the ego's tendency to divide life into polarities - good/evil, right/wrong, black/white - in an attempt to control the outcome of our choices and find a guarantee. In other words, your ego believes that if it could...