by Sheryl Paul | May 31, 2020 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
We are one body. We are one mind. We are one human family. Whatever inner struggles you’ve endured have been shared by millions of people, not only now but across time. Crossing over the chasms of heartbreak, trying to find your way through the cracks in your... by Sheryl Paul | May 24, 2020 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Relationships |
We live in a culture that seeks to eradicate symptoms. Instead of viewing anxiety and its cohort of cousins, including intrusive thoughts, insomnia, obsessions, and compulsions, as evidence of an internal system that is working in order, our culture sees it as... by Sheryl Paul | May 17, 2020 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
If you were drowning in the churning waters of relationship anxiety and I held out a rope and said, “Grab hold! This rope will teach you how to lift yourself out of the currents of your suffering. It asks only one thing of you: the willingness to look square in... by Sheryl Paul | Mar 29, 2020 | Anxiety, Relationships |
The title of Gabriel Garcia Marquez’s book Love in the Time of Cholera keeps popping into my head. It’s been years since I’ve read the book and it likely bears little resemblance to what is currently sweeping the globe, but nevertheless when a title... by Sheryl Paul | Feb 23, 2020 | Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
We’ve all been sold the same bill of goods: Real love is infatuation. Real love is a drug-like feeling that sweeps you off your feet. Real love is the elixir that lifts you out of the pain of life. When you’re really in love, you’ll just... by Sheryl Paul | Sep 15, 2019 | Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
“Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom,” said Kierkegaard as quoted by Mark Nepo, who continues with, “The truth is that every fresh experience has this dizziness of freedom that we have to move through. Every time we reach beyond what is familiar,... by Sheryl Paul | Aug 11, 2019 | Anxiety, Relationships, Sexuality |
Because we’ve all grown up in a relationship culture predicated on the romantic ideal, we enter relationships with the following imprints and fantasies about love, sex, and attraction: Love should be easy. Sex should be effortless, which means simultaneous... by Sheryl Paul | Jul 28, 2019 | Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
Once again, I turn to the poet and mystic Mark Nepo and The Book of Awakening for gems of wisdom about the stones that block our hearts from fully loving: “It seems this is the never-ending work of relationship, each of us in our own time and way moving the... by Sheryl Paul | Jul 21, 2019 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
Our culture worships the gods of youth and eternal happiness. If we could bottle and merchandize the elixir of youth, most people in the Western world would purchase it no matter the price. We extol the blemish-and-wrinkle-free face and lay ourselves prostrate at the... by Sheryl Paul | Jul 14, 2019 | Open Your Heart, Relationships |
What would it be like to throw yourself full-bodied and without restraint into love’s arms, to set the fear voices and inherited scripts that say, “Love isn’t safe” on the fence of your mind and walk through the tattered gates of your heart...
