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This is the Most Powerful Hijacker of Your Healing Path
Western culture places a premium on feelings in the form of moods. While we diminish the importance of experiencing difficult emotions like sadness, disappointment, frustration, fear and jealousy, we worship at the altar of moment-by-moment impulses. This sounds like:...
read moreCareer Anxiety And How To Trust Your Path
I receive a lot of questions from course members and clients on the topic of career anxiety: "How do I know if I'm at the right job? How do I know if it's time to change paths? Have I missed my calling?" (If you're struggling the myth of a calling, please read this...
read moreWhat If My Anxiety is Actually Intuition that Something is Wrong?
One of the most common questions I receive in my work is: How do I know the difference between fear that's coming from anxiety and fear that's coming from intuition alerting me to a real problem? It's the million-dollar question, the one that drives people to my site...
read moreThis Simple Mindset Shift is at the Heart of Change
"Much of our anxiety and inner turmoil comes from living in a global culture whose values drive us from the essence of what matters. At the heart of this is the conflict between the outer definition of success and the inner value of peace. "Unfortunately, we are...
read moreWhy this is the Most Powerful Question to Break Through Intrusive Thoughts
Intrusive thoughts can be nothing short of torture. They enter on fear's tail, flicking themselves into the mind like a flame cast from fear's cauldron, and if you don't have enough water in your well of Self, you'll quickly find yourself caught in the wildfire of...
read moreThese Two Banished Emotions Need to be Invited to the Castle
In myths and fairy tales, the banished characters are shadow aspects who represent the inner characters we would like to sequester away in a cloistral tower or banish to the middle of the forest: the virginal maiden representing forbidden chastity, the unattractive...
read moreThese Two Characters are at the Heart of Reparenting
Reparenting is the process of healing through which we access and grow a loving inner parent that can repair the wounds that were left from being raised by caregivers who were incapable of teaching us the fundamental skills and habits necessary for well-being: how to...
read moreThe New Pledge of the Highly Sensitive is Life-Changing
A theme has been constellating lately in my professional and personal worlds, and when I see a theme I’m compelled to write about it here as it’s my indicator that we’re tapping down into the realm of the collective unconscious: the invisible realm where we’re all...
read moreExposing the Truth in this Important Intrusive Thought
One of the many challenges of working with intrusive thoughts is that there's often a grain of truth embedded inside the obsession. If we feed that grain by watering it with our attention, it grows into an unwanted weed of mythic proportions, taking over our internal...
read moreDismantling this Offshoot of Anxiety Will Set You Free
"Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom," said Kierkegaard as quoted by Mark Nepo, who continues with, "The truth is that every fresh experience has this dizziness of freedom that we have to move through. Every time we reach beyond what is familiar, there is this...
read moreThis is the #1 Reason Why People are Terrified to Heal
As much as you want to change and heal, as much as you long to feel more fullness, aliveness, calm, and well-being, as much as you deeply desire a way to navigate life with more ease and less attachment to control, there is another part of you that resists the actions...
read moreThis is What Actually Goes on Behind Closed Doors
One of the most common questions I'm asked is, "How come other people don't suffer in this way?" It doesn't matter if we're talking about relationship anxiety, friendship anxiety, social anxiety, or any other hook that anxiety hangs its hat on, when you're the one...
read moreA Roadmap to Break Free From Anxiety at Last
We spend at least fifteen years in school learning the skills that our culture has deemed essential for a certain type of success in the world. We learn how to read. We learn the basics of math. We learn how to write. If we're lucky, there's some art and theater...
read moreThis is How to Overcome the Most Powerful Obstacle to Change
We all know that greens are healthy. We know that meditation can be life-changing. We know that breathwork is deeply healing and that yoga can be a pathway to profound change. We know that exercise is essential. We know that journaling is a powerful tool. We know it,...
read moreThe Fantasies that Most People Have About Love
Because we've all grown up in a relationship culture predicated on the romantic ideal, we enter relationships with the following imprints and fantasies about love, sex, and attraction: Love should be easy. Sex should be effortless, which means simultaneous orgasms...
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