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This is How to Overcome the Most Powerful Obstacle to Change
We all know that greens are healthy. We know that meditation can be life-changing. We know that breathwork is deeply healing and that yoga can be a pathway to profound change. We know that exercise is essential. We know that journaling is a powerful tool. We know it,...
read moreThe Fantasies that Most People Have About Love
Because we've all grown up in a relationship culture predicated on the romantic ideal, we enter relationships with the following imprints and fantasies about love, sex, and attraction: Love should be easy. Sex should be effortless, which means simultaneous orgasms...
read moreThe Most Powerful Medicine to Soothe a Rupture of Anxiety
Life moves along in flows and eddies. The more you attend to your inner world and heal the long-standing and deep-seated pain and trauma that live at the root of intrusive thoughts, the longer the stretches of eddies and the time you'll stand amongst the reeds,...
read moreNot attracted? Learn How to Unclog the Blocked Flow of Love
Once again, I turn to the poet and mystic Mark Nepo and The Book of Awakening for gems of wisdom about the stones that block our hearts from fully loving: "It seems this is the never-ending work of relationship, each of us in our own time and way moving the stones...
read moreHow to Harness the Hidden Sexy Ingredient of Marriage
Our culture worships the gods of youth and eternal happiness. If we could bottle and merchandize the elixir of youth, most people in the Western world would purchase it no matter the price. We extol the blemish-and-wrinkle-free face and lay ourselves prostrate at the...
read moreHow to Multiply Your Love and Attraction
What would it be like to throw yourself full-bodied and without restraint into love's arms, to set the fear voices and inherited scripts that say, "Love isn't safe" on the fence of your mind and walk through the tattered gates of your heart that are still trying to...
read moreThis is How I Learned to Love My Husband Well
It took me many years to learn how to love my husband well, and, of course, I'm still learning. Like many people, I didn't grow up witnessing a healthy model of true partnership. My parents, like all parents, did the best they could and they gave me many gifts, but...
read moreRemedies for Eco-Anxiety and Absorbing the Pain of the World
The topic of world and eco-anxiety seems to make the rounds in my practice every few months, and last week was one of those times. Between longterm clients, new clients, and course members, the theme was flooding the room. I'd like to break it down for you using the...
read moreA Love Story is the Medicine for the Fear of Loss
It was one of those moments that I could have easily pushed aside and continued on through my evening wrapped in the spiderweb of distraction. It was a moment so small that I almost missed the worlds of beauty and pain that lived within it, like a monarch butterfly...
read moreThis is Why You Struggle with Relationship Anxiety
“Probably the next important evolution of Western humankind is to find a proper container for religious life so that we do not unrealistically expect another mortal human being to carry this high value. In short: don’t ask a human to be God for you.” * Robert Johnson,...
read moreAnxiety screams, “Danger!” But it’s not what you think.
Anxiety insists, "You don't love your partner!" Anxiety declares, "You have a terminal illness!" Anxiety whispers, "You're going to hurt your baby." (Anxiety doesn't always yell; sometimes it's a quiet, convincing voice.) Your job is to say, "Thank you, anxiety. You...
read moreHow to Break Free from the Mental Addiction of Health Anxiety
Like all forms of anxiety, health anxiety is on the rise. With information about our health more available than ever, the anxious mind that seeks control at all costs can easily latch onto health as a hotbed theme that invites this mind to shift into overdrive. You...
read moreReal Love is Available Love
The first part of this post appeared on Instagram this week. I'm expounding upon it here. Real love is available love. It's not the chase. It’s not drama. It’s not longing. It’s not the kiss at the end of the movie or finally snagging the one who got away. Real love...
read moreJoin Me in the Arena with Brené Brown
Last weekend, I watched Brené Brown's show on Netflix and this line, among many others, took my breath away (and gave it back): “Today I choose courage over comfort.” She talks about the shame-storm she fell into after reading the comments when her TED...
read more“The Wisdom of Anxiety” is Coming Down the Birth Canal
In April 2015, I had a dream while on vacation in Los Angeles: Robert Johnson, the Jungian analyst who has informed so much of my work, came to me and said, "It's time to write another book and it's mostly written." I woke up, faithfully wrote it down as I do with...
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