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This is What is Embedded Inside Fear and Regret
This is a story about what happens when we forget to make room for grief around transitions. It's a story that illuminates the heart of a highly sensitive person, and how easy it is to overlook and minimize the tenderness of our hearts. It's a story of remembering my...
read moreThis is One of the Scariest Things Humans Do
Whenever I meet someone new and we talk about how my 15-year old son is a pilot, they look at me sideways and say something like, "You're a brave mom to let him fly." As I've written about in other posts, allowing him to fly does, indeed, drag me into a regular...
read moreI Hid in the Bookstore to Learn About Sex
In response to an email called "Emerging Womanhood" from my Sacred Sexuality course, a member shared the following on the forum. What touches me so deeply about her response is not only the exquisite vulnerability with which she tells her stories of becoming a young...
read moreThis is the Most Common Statement I Hear About Sex
I hear a lot about sex in my work with clients. I hear about their fantasies, their shame, and their shame about their fantasies. I hear about their arousal confusion, their sex anxiety, and their struggle with desire. I hear about the common arc of sexuality in...
read moreHow to Manage Gift Anxiety Through the Holidays
It is with great joy that I share this wise, poetic, and helpful article by Sarah Love, MA, LPC on the deeper underpinnings of gift giving and receiving. Many of you know Sarah from her time as moderator on the Break Free From Relationship Anxiety course forum, and...
read moreHow to Excavate the Hidden Wounds to Help you Heal Shame
"Whatever we have taken from them, the founding story of our lives, imposed on us by a mother and father who in turn inherited a faulty script from their own parents, isn't even ours." - Derren Brown in Happy There is an element of your shame that is not yours. It...
read moreThis is a Powerful Predictor of Your Well-Being
We all have inside of us a well of Self. This is a fluid well that is continuously being drained and refilled by how we spend our time, depleted and nourished by how we move through our inner and outer worlds. When the well is full, we are resourced and regulated,...
read moreGut Health, Anxiety, and the Holidays Made Simple
I'm delighted to share this guest post by Dianne Rishikof, a registered dietician and licensed nutritionist, where she shares her extensive knowledge on the connection between anxiety and gut health. I first read Dianne's incredible book, “Health Takes Guts: Your...
read moreThis is the Most Powerful Hijacker of Your Healing Path
Western culture places a premium on feelings in the form of moods. While we diminish the importance of experiencing difficult emotions like sadness, disappointment, frustration, fear and jealousy, we worship at the altar of moment-by-moment impulses. This sounds like:...
read moreCareer Anxiety And How To Trust Your Path
I receive a lot of questions from course members and clients on the topic of career anxiety: "How do I know if I'm at the right job? How do I know if it's time to change paths? Have I missed my calling?" (If you're struggling the myth of a calling, please read this...
read moreWhat If My Anxiety is Actually Intuition that Something is Wrong?
One of the most common questions I receive in my work is: How do I know the difference between fear that's coming from anxiety and fear that's coming from intuition alerting me to a real problem? It's the million-dollar question, the one that drives people to my site...
read moreThis Simple Mindset Shift is at the Heart of Change
"Much of our anxiety and inner turmoil comes from living in a global culture whose values drive us from the essence of what matters. At the heart of this is the conflict between the outer definition of success and the inner value of peace. "Unfortunately, we are...
read moreWhy this is the Most Powerful Question to Break Through Intrusive Thoughts
Intrusive thoughts can be nothing short of torture. They enter on fear's tail, flicking themselves into the mind like a flame cast from fear's cauldron, and if you don't have enough water in your well of Self, you'll quickly find yourself caught in the wildfire of...
read moreThese Two Banished Emotions Need to be Invited to the Castle
In myths and fairy tales, the banished characters are shadow aspects who represent the inner characters we would like to sequester away in a cloistral tower or banish to the middle of the forest: the virginal maiden representing forbidden chastity, the unattractive...
read moreThese Two Characters are at the Heart of Reparenting
Reparenting is the process of healing through which we access and grow a loving inner parent that can repair the wounds that were left from being raised by caregivers who were incapable of teaching us the fundamental skills and habits necessary for well-being: how to...
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