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What Autumn Knows About Grief, Love, and Time
Does every beautiful thing also carry a certain sadness? Does love always contain loss? Because change and death are part of life I’m going to have to say yes. I look out the bedroom window and see the magnificent Maple dotted in red leaves - this sweet being who we...
When Seas are Stormy, Look for the Lighthouses
We’re living in turbulent times. We’re also living in beautiful times, but the beauty and light seem less apparent these days. That doesn’t mean it’s not here, but it’s quieter, more subtle. What we’re feeling and sensing as seers and seekers is the turbulence: the...
The Best Antidote to Shame
I attended one of my closest friend Lisa's Rosh Hashanah Zoom services on Friday night and Saturday. Lisa and I met as teenagers, and she became a rabbi several years ago. I love attending her services not only because she's a font of wisdom and inspiration but also...
How to be a Seer and a Seeker in a Shallow World
Small talk, chit-chat, sports and weather conversations... these aren't what float the boat of people who find their way here. We swim in deep waters. We thrive on conversations that plumb the depths of the human experience. We want to talk about what is real and...
Hominid Major: Do We Deserve to Exist?
Sheryl's note: The other night at dinner I mused aloud, “I wonder what I’ll write for my blog this week.” And then, in a flash of inspiration, I said, “Asher, do you want to write a guest post?” Not only is Asher a gifted writer, but he’s a profoundly thoughtful and...
How Ai Altered How I Work (for the better)
Like many people who work in online spaces, a few years ago I noticed a dramatic difference in my reach and engagement. From Instagram to my blog to our podcast, the numbers started declining. This was most apparent on Instagram, but I saw it in my other spaces as...
Unrequited Love and the Wisdom of Longing
In our most recent Gathering Gold episode, Victoria and I unpacked a beautiful piece of writing by David Whyte that one of our recent retreat participants brought to a post-retreat Zoom gathering. The piece begins with the line: “Unrequited love is the love human...
And So I Write: A Poet’s Journey with Relationship Anxiety
My name is Joshua Seigal. I am professional poet, based in London, UK. I am currently very happily married. My wife and I have been together for eleven years, and married for eight. I have had Relationship Anxiety (AKA ROCD) in every romantic relationship I have ever...
Unveiling a Hidden Gem in the Passage of Time
I'm overjoyed to share this beautiful piece of writing from Zoe, one of our long-time Patreon members. Zoe shared this in our recent summer solstice Gathering Gold Zoom meeting, and I was so touched by it that I asked if she'd be willing to plant it in our community...
Even in the Darkest Night, Light will Always Bloom
Asher and I were walking in the backyard the other day and he said, "It's amazing how many bunnies we have in our yard this summer since Tashi isn't here." It's been about a year since we lost our beloved cat, and not a day passes when a wave of grief doesn't surge...
One of the Most Important Parts of Romantic Love to Understand
When my husband and I started watching The Four Seasons television series, we laughed at the following scene between husband and wife Jack and Kate where Jack is making a toast to their friends who have been married for 25 years. Jack: It is rare in this life to find...
How to Cool Down Internet Inflamed Relationship Anxiety
We're living in a time when paradigms and systems are being exploded. We finally understand that there are many ways to love and be in a body and identify oneself. And, as deeply entrenched mindsets shatter, the pendulum of cultural discourse often swings between two...
After 22 Years of Mothering, This is What I’ve Learned
Over the years many people have asked me if I was planning to write a book about parenting and my response was always: I will never write that book because nobody is an expert on your child. I maintain that stance today. And yet, while I don’t have answers, I do have...
Snakes without Skin: The Middle School Years
The following is a transcript of a segment of our recent Gathering Gold episode on The Middle School Years. Victoria and I highlight and expound upon many of the themes I wrote about in this blog post on the link between the middle school years and anxiety. ***...
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An Essential Quality for Healthy Relationships
One of the basic precepts of both psychological and spiritual work is that in order to experience healthy union we must first experience separation. Just as we had to be expelled from the mythic Garden of Eden to know ourselves as separate from the divine before...
This is What I Can Tell You About the Mother Wound
This is what I can tell you about the mother wound. I can tell you about mother-longing. I can tell you that we never stop longing for a mother to... ... feed us. ... take care of us. ... nurture us in just the right way: not too much and not too little. I can tell...
This is One of the Hallmarks of a Mother Wound
I define a mother wound as: A rupture of attunement where a mother, due to her own unmet needs, lack of fulfillment/sense of self, and/or narcissistic and judgmental tendencies is unable to meet the emotional needs of her child. The mother’s expectations and needs...
Here’s a New Layer of Relationship Anxiety to Discuss
One of the aspects of psychology I love most is that there are endless layers to explore about every topic. Because psychology is a relatively new field, there's still a lot we don't know. And because the mind and soul are as vast as the universe, there will always be...
“Eternity” Review – Finally Hollywood Tells the Truth about Love
Note: Proceed at your own risk if you don't want spoilers! Once a week my husband and I have a home date night where we watch a show or film, and our film-buff son is often our source of recommendations. While my husband will watch a wide range of media from horror to...
