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Exposing the Truth in this Important Intrusive Thought
One of the many challenges of working with intrusive thoughts is that there's often a grain of truth embedded inside the obsession. If we feed that grain by watering it with our attention, it grows into an unwanted weed of mythic proportions, taking over our internal...
read moreDismantling this Offshoot of Anxiety Will Set You Free
"Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom," said Kierkegaard as quoted by Mark Nepo, who continues with, "The truth is that every fresh experience has this dizziness of freedom that we have to move through. Every time we reach beyond what is familiar, there is this...
read moreThis is the #1 Reason Why People are Terrified to Heal
As much as you want to change and heal, as much as you long to feel more fullness, aliveness, calm, and well-being, as much as you deeply desire a way to navigate life with more ease and less attachment to control, there is another part of you that resists the actions...
read moreThis is What Actually Goes on Behind Closed Doors
One of the most common questions I'm asked is, "How come other people don't suffer in this way?" It doesn't matter if we're talking about relationship anxiety, friendship anxiety, social anxiety, or any other hook that anxiety hangs its hat on, when you're the one...
read moreA Roadmap to Break Free From Anxiety at Last
We spend at least fifteen years in school learning the skills that our culture has deemed essential for a certain type of success in the world. We learn how to read. We learn the basics of math. We learn how to write. If we're lucky, there's some art and theater...
read moreThis is How to Overcome the Most Powerful Obstacle to Change
We all know that greens are healthy. We know that meditation can be life-changing. We know that breathwork is deeply healing and that yoga can be a pathway to profound change. We know that exercise is essential. We know that journaling is a powerful tool. We know it,...
read moreThe Fantasies that Most People Have About Love
Because we've all grown up in a relationship culture predicated on the romantic ideal, we enter relationships with the following imprints and fantasies about love, sex, and attraction: Love should be easy. Sex should be effortless, which means simultaneous orgasms...
read moreThe Most Powerful Medicine to Soothe a Rupture of Anxiety
Life moves along in flows and eddies. The more you attend to your inner world and heal the long-standing and deep-seated pain and trauma that live at the root of intrusive thoughts, the longer the stretches of eddies and the time you'll stand amongst the reeds,...
read moreNot attracted? Learn How to Unclog the Blocked Flow of Love
Once again, I turn to the poet and mystic Mark Nepo and The Book of Awakening for gems of wisdom about the stones that block our hearts from fully loving: "It seems this is the never-ending work of relationship, each of us in our own time and way moving the stones...
read moreHow to Harness the Hidden Sexy Ingredient of Marriage
Our culture worships the gods of youth and eternal happiness. If we could bottle and merchandize the elixir of youth, most people in the Western world would purchase it no matter the price. We extol the blemish-and-wrinkle-free face and lay ourselves prostrate at the...
read moreHow to Multiply Your Love and Attraction
What would it be like to throw yourself full-bodied and without restraint into love's arms, to set the fear voices and inherited scripts that say, "Love isn't safe" on the fence of your mind and walk through the tattered gates of your heart that are still trying to...
read moreThis is How I Learned to Love My Husband Well
It took me many years to learn how to love my husband well, and, of course, I'm still learning. Like many people, I didn't grow up witnessing a healthy model of true partnership. My parents, like all parents, did the best they could and they gave me many gifts, but...
read moreRemedies for Eco-Anxiety and Absorbing the Pain of the World
The topic of world and eco-anxiety seems to make the rounds in my practice every few months, and last week was one of those times. Between longterm clients, new clients, and course members, the theme was flooding the room. I'd like to break it down for you using the...
read moreA Love Story is the Medicine for the Fear of Loss
It was one of those moments that I could have easily pushed aside and continued on through my evening wrapped in the spiderweb of distraction. It was a moment so small that I almost missed the worlds of beauty and pain that lived within it, like a monarch butterfly...
read moreThis is Why You Struggle with Relationship Anxiety
“Probably the next important evolution of Western humankind is to find a proper container for religious life so that we do not unrealistically expect another mortal human being to carry this high value. In short: don’t ask a human to be God for you.” * Robert Johnson,...
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