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And So I Sing at the Intersection of Summer and Autumn
"I hear crickets," my son says as we pull into the driveway. We pause to look up at the stars, as we always do, before entering the house. "Yes, I heard them for the first time a couple of nights ago," I respond. "Oh," he says, with a note of sadness in his voice....
This is What I Can Tell You About the Mother Wound
This is what I can tell you about the mother wound. I can tell you about mother-longing. I can tell you that we never stop longing for a mother to... ... feed us. ... take care of us. ... nurture us in just the right way: not too much and not too little. I can tell...
There’s No Such Thing as a Perfect Mother… and Why That’s Important to Know
There's no such thing as a perfect parent. We enter parenthood with wounds and imperfections that will invariably influence our children in some way, The role of parent is not to parent perfectly but to have enough self-awareness and humility to recognize our...
NEW Course Announcement! Healing the Mother Wound: A 40-Day Course for Daughters
As I've sat in the seat of guide and mentor over the last twenty-five years, I've been privileged to be invited into the deepest recesses of psyche where archetypal material - the pain, wounds, joys, thoughts, compulsions, and anxiety common to all humans - rises to...
The One Essential Question that Lives Inside Relationship Anxiety
One of the most challenging elements of anxiety is to understand is that the anxiety is projection. This means that the parade of intrusive thoughts that tortures the anxious mind and sensitive soul are actually pointing to areas inside of you that are crying out for...
Oh, Let us Tell You About the Joy AND Grief of Summer!
Episode 5 of the Gathering Gold podcast is now available and, like peaches and watermelon, it's a juicy one! In this episode, we’re talking about summer, the season of “nothing lasts forever.” We talk about the gifts and opportunities that lie waiting in this season,...
Is It Possible to Feel Joyful When Things Are Falling Apart?
Highly sensitive people are highly aware of the state of our worlds, both inner and outer. As such, when it feels like things are falling apart - as it's felt like for a while but has been amplified and accelerated since covid began last year - we can veer toward...
This is How to Take an Intrusive Thought and Spin It Into Gold
As I wrote about a few weeks ago, our son was recently away on a canoe trip for eleven days. Throughout his trip, my anxious mind sent me several worst case scenarios and I had to work with all of them. These days, "working with anxiety" means that I catch the...
This is the Best Way I Know for How to Soothe the Fear of Loss
Our older son is off today on another adventure, this time one that requires traveling by air. Those of you who have been following me for a while know that Everest is an aviator, got his pilot's license at 16, and literally lives for aviation and space, so today is...
Falling in Love Depends on this One Quality
I've been thinking a lot about vulnerability lately and its connection to anxiety, gratitude, and the experience of being in love. Thanks to the brilliant work of Brené Brown, the word vulnerability has entered the mainstream and has led to an unprecedented level of...
Gathering Gold: Episode 2
Victoria and I are delighted to share Episode 2 of the Gathering Gold podcast - and, yes, we changed the name! Here's the description: In Episode 2, we’ve got news: we changed the podcast name! In the spirit of this shift, we’re talking about course-correcting,...
This is How I See One of the Most Important Tasks of Motherhood
Our older son left for a 10-day canoe trip on Wednesday morning. The group of eleven 9th and 10th grade kids and three instructors will be following the Lewis & Clark route on the Missouri river in Montana as they learn about history, keep journals in the spirit...
This is How My Husband and I are Like Ducks in the Creek
My husband and I sitting on the bench at the creek that he made for me many years ago for Mother's Day. I'm feeling tired, and I lay my head in his lap. Spring has finally arrived in Colorado, and the sun is dancing on the water, kissing our skin, holding us in golden...
A New Birth: Announcing the “Roots and Crown” Podcast
Nine months ago I dreamed that I was pregnant and would give birth in the spring, around the end of April. At the time, I had no idea what the new birth would be: another book? A new course? Starting a PhD program? I should say... consciously I had no idea. But my...
This is One of the Essential Pieces to Healing from Relationship Anxiety
If I could reach out across time and sit beside you... If I could cross the vast spaces that separate us and place a note into your pocket... If I could gather us together - all of the sweet, sensitive, highly moral, responsible and conscientious souls who find their...