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Our Fast-Paced Culture is Leaving Us Breathless but There is a Remedy
It's the theme of the week, the month, the year, these past two years. It's one of the messages embedded in covid. We're moving too fast. We can't catch our breath. We can't drop into our bodies. We can't find center. Everyone I talk to says the same thing, "I'm so...
3 Ways That High Sensitivity Shows Up (that few people talk about)
Over the years of working closely with highly sensitive people and raising our two beautifully sensitive sons, I've noticed three primary areas where the sensitivity shows up that are rarely talked about. What is not discussed tends to get tamped down into the dark...
This is One of the Most Healing Experiences We Can Have
I posted this short piece on Instagram a couple of weeks ago but wanted to share it here as well for those of you who not on social media, especially as a follow-up on last week's post on shame. *** Being understood is one of the most healing experiences we can have....
Is This the Leading Cause of Your Intrusive Pain? I’d Love Your Thoughts!
I'm endlessly fascinated by our inner world, and have been called to this path of helping highly sensitive people who struggle with intrusive thoughts to heal at the root. As always with inner exploration, it's a never-ending process of discovery; just when I think...
Intrusive Images Caught Me In Their Grip and This is How I Responded
June 29th, 2022 It’s 4:30am. My alarm is set for 5:00 but my body-psyche always knows when my son is going to fly early and I wake up well before my alarm goes off; it’s that built-in mom alarm that knows almost everything about our children. Everest has been training...
Anxiety screams, “Danger!” But it’s not what you think.
Anxiety insists, "You don't love your partner!" Anxiety declares, "You have a terminal illness!" Anxiety whispers, "You're going to hurt your baby." (Anxiety doesn't always yell; sometimes it's a quiet, convincing voice.) Your job is to say, "Thank you, anxiety. You...
The Time is Now to Learn How to Find More Grace Through Uncertainty
If there was ever a time to grow practices that help us become more comfortable with uncertainty, it's now. As we stand on this threshold of transition in our human and global history, we all feel the teetering, the crumbling of what we've known as we stand in this...
How to Engage Responsibly with the News When You’re a Highly Sensitive Person
2022 update on this post: This morning our younger son, who is 13 years, old told me about a headline he read on Apple news about the weather. We're having a very hot week here in the Denver/Boulder area and the headline caught his eye because it mentioned Denver. I...
Is it Possible that the World is Only Asking this One Thing of You?
At the intersection of global pain, midlife, children not so little anymore, work and marriage and friendship in more flow than blockage (for which I'm endlessly grateful), I find myself drawn more to slowness, to spaciousness, to real life and local connections, to...
When the World Weeps, I Carry the Tears in the Cups of my Hands
When the world‘s heart shatters again and again and again, I find myself carrying the tears in the cups of my hands, palms upturned like a lotus flower floating on a lake. It’s a serene image, much too serene for the horrors that continue to befall our world, that...
There’s No Such Thing as a Perfect Mother… and Why That’s Important to Know
There's no such thing as a perfect parent. We enter parenthood with wounds and imperfections that will invariably influence our children in some way, The role of parent is not to parent perfectly but to have enough self-awareness and humility to recognize our...
This is What I Can Tell You About the Mother Wound
This is what I can tell you about the mother wound. I can tell you about mother-longing. I can tell you that we never stop longing for a mother to... ... feed us. ... take care of us. ... nurture us in just the right way: not too much and not too little. I can tell...
I Offer This to You In Anticipation of Mother’s Day
“Your children are not your children They are the sons and daughters of life’s longing for itself They come through you but not from you And though they are with you yet they belong not to you…” — from “On Children” by Khalil Gibran Like all manufactured holidays,...
Healing the Mother Wound
As I've sat in the seat of guide and mentor over the last twenty-five years, I've been privileged to be invited into the deepest recesses of psyche where archetypal material - the pain, wounds, joys, thoughts, compulsions, and anxiety common to all humans - rises to...
Anxiety Sneakily Grabbed Me Last Week, and This is How I Responded
The winds are blowing... again. It's dry and hot... too hot and dry for April. We need rain. We needed moisture desperately in December before the fires blew through South Boulder. My heart aches every day for my friends who lost their homes. There was a fire up the...