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How the Anxiety, Grief, and Joy of Autumn Can Lead the Way to Growth
Every autumn, I hear an upsurge of anxiety, grief, longing, groundlessness, and joy among my highly sensitive population. Sometimes it will sound like this: "I've been feeling more anxiety lately and I'm not sure why." Me: "Well, we don't have to know why, but if you...
Feeling Anxiety About the State of the World? You’re Not Alone.
The topic of world and eco-anxiety shows up in my practice every few months, but it currently seems to be at an all-time high. And how could it be otherwise when news of doom and disaster inflames and floods our airwaves daily? One of the byproducts of being a highly...
How Do We Trust Ourselves to Make Good Decisions During Pandemic Flux?
I'm touching down into another layer of self-trust, listening closely to my Yeses and Nos, to the signals in my inner landscapes that let me know which aqueduct valves to close so that the underground waters are redirected from elements of outward service to inner...
If You’re Struggling with Relationship Anxiety, this One is For You
This post is for those of you struggling with relationship anxiety. But it's also for anyone who struggles with anxiety that attaches onto a specific theme - health, parenting, money, friendship, sexuality - and struggles to understand in your cells the concept of...
Healing From Suffering Requires Meeting this One Character with Kindness
It's a character that I meet every day in my work and in my life. It's a character that can feel hot or cold, loud or quiet. It's a character that can slither into psyche expertly, quickly, often without conscious awareness, for it has likely been with you for a long...
Intergenerational Wounds: Healing the Pain that Didn’t Start with You
We're living in an extraordinary time on our planet: a time of extraordinary pain and also extraordinary possibility. In our 24/7 media culture designed to light up the amygdala's fear response, it's easy to only see the world's pain right now, and there's no doubt...
This Is a Roadmap to Break Free From Anxiety at Last
"There are many therapists and coaches out there who are a lot of fluff and flash without a lot of substance – but Sheryl is the real deal! I’m a tough customer (a type A, lawyer, perfectionist), and this course really exceeded my expectations!" - Tracey, Los Angeles ...
This is the First – and Most Essential – Step to Heal your Anxiety
Last weekend I met with one of my two monthly circles of women. This one consists of two other women who I've known since I was a child and who love me as deeply as anyone can be loved. And by this I mean that all parts of me are accepted. I can share my places of...
“Why This Was the Best Investment I Have Ever Made on Myself”
One of the most common questions I’m asked is, “How come other people don’t suffer in this way?” It doesn’t matter if we’re talking about relationship anxiety, friendship anxiety, intrusive thoughts, sexuality anxiety, social anxiety, shame, work struggles, insomnia,...
This is the Most Powerful Tool to Break Free From Intrusive Thoughts
As humans in an uncertain world, we seek certainty in a variety of ways. We ask questions that are fundamentally unanswerable. We ruminate and obsess on a single thought (otherwise known as intrusive thoughts). We Google and text and seek reassurance in a variety of...
And So I Sing at the Intersection of Summer and Autumn
"I hear crickets," my son says as we pull into the driveway. We pause to look up at the stars, as we always do, before entering the house. "Yes, I heard them for the first time a couple of nights ago," I respond. "Oh," he says, with a note of sadness in his voice....
This is What I Can Tell You About the Mother Wound
This is what I can tell you about the mother wound. I can tell you about mother-longing. I can tell you that we never stop longing for a mother to... ... feed us. ... take care of us. ... nurture us in just the right way: not too much and not too little. I can tell...
There’s No Such Thing as a Perfect Mother… and Why That’s Important to Know
There's no such thing as a perfect parent. We enter parenthood with wounds and imperfections that will invariably influence our children in some way, The role of parent is not to parent perfectly but to have enough self-awareness and humility to recognize our...
NEW Course Announcement! Healing the Mother Wound: A 40-Day Course for Daughters
As I've sat in the seat of guide and mentor over the last twenty-five years, I've been privileged to be invited into the deepest recesses of psyche where archetypal material - the pain, wounds, joys, thoughts, compulsions, and anxiety common to all humans - rises to...
The One Essential Question that Lives Inside Relationship Anxiety
One of the most challenging elements of anxiety is to understand is that the anxiety is projection. This means that the parade of intrusive thoughts that tortures the anxious mind and sensitive soul are actually pointing to areas inside of you that are crying out for...