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When the Witching-Hour Grabs Me by the Throat, This is How I Respond
It's Saturday night. I feel something tighten around my throat, around my soul. I don't name it right away, slipping into the amnesia of "everything's fine" and forgetting to slow down enough to notice the wisdom of my body, the messengers embedded inside even the...
This is the #1 Question I’m Asked about Love and Attraction
I receive a plethora of questions every day through a variety of channels. Questions like, "I know everyone thinks they're the exception, but is what I'm going through really relationship anxiety?" Questions about parenting and self-doubt and career anxiety. The...
Why This is an Essential Time to Open to Your Loving Partner
There are hardly words to describe what we've endured this year as a species. We're exhausted. We're tired of being on high alert. We're at our wits' end trying to take care of our children without enough help. We're tired of sharing too-small spaces with too many...
This is How to Teach Your Body that Secure Attachment is Sexy
If we were raised in a healthy relationship culture - one that held what Jungian analyst Robert Johnson calls “oatmeal love” as the ideal for romantic relationships - if we had grown up ingesting healthy models of romance that held friendship and safety at the core,...
How One Small Moment Can Heal Pain From the Past
This story is for all of my highly sensitive readers who were teased or bullied growing up, which is possibly all of you. It’s a story of neighbors, of friendship, and how just one small daily act of kindness can heal old wounds. Years ago, on a warm summer evening, I...
This Essential Piece Can Help You Heal from Relationship Anxiety
Preface: I wrote this in 2012 and shared it as a pinned post on the Break Free From Relationship Anxiety forum, where it has lived for the past eight years. The main message is the most important piece to breaking free from not only relationship anxiety but from...
Answering this One Question Could Free You From Anxiety
The anxious mind fundamentally asks one question: "Is it enough?" Are my hands clean enough? asks the hand washer. Do I love my partner enough? asks the person who is struggling with relationship anxiety. Did they do enough testing? asks the health anxiety sufferer....
This is One Way to Create Self-Trust in Kids
Parenting news bulletin: Our children are not here to meet our emotional needs and fulfill our dreams. We're here to support theirs. (**see note at the end of the post) This is a sharp left from the parenting path our world has been on for thousands of years, which...
There are Many Ways to Eat, Pray and Love
We live in a world where we are bombarded by other people’s stories, paths, and opinions. Every other day, for example, we hear about another celebrity who comes out of the closet, leaves their long-term spouse, and finally feels free to live their best life. If you...
Something is Broken, But It’s Not You
Let's start here, which is one of the premises of Jungian psychology: Your greatest strength lives within your greatest pain. When you eradicate your symptoms without approaching them with curiosity and compassion, you eradicate a pathway that leads to your true...
Career Anxiety and the Courage to Be You
I've noticed a sharp upsurge lately around the topic of career anxiety. I imagine it has something to do with the pandemic and the fact that our lives have been upended. When we're turned upside-down, as happens with all transitions, we're given an opportunity to...
Relationship Anxiety 101 – Here’s What You Need to Know
As much as I love offering a deep dive into specific topics through my courses, it pleases me enormously to also offer the resource of this blog, where I can freely and regularly share both my personal and psychological musings, insights, and tools. The blog is a way...
This is What Lives at the Very Heart of Anxiety
I was driving into town one evening last week and as I drove down our local highway I flashed on a time over twenty years ago when I drove from Los Angeles to San Diego. As my body sank into the somatic memory, a wave of nostalgia surged up that said, "I miss Los...
There is Not One Prescription for Healing
Piggybacking off the post I shared a few weeks ago, I wanted to expand upon the statement that there are many ways to heal. What I see in the field of psychotherapy, as I see in many other fields and areas in our lives, is that at we've divided the mind, body, and...
This is One Way to Serve the World (and it’s not what you think)
Our earth is calling on us to rise up, to be active, to do our part in making the world a better place. Perhaps our world has always asked this of us, but the call to serve seems more dire and poignant these days. When we think of activism, we tend to think of the...