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Suffering from “Just Right” Anxiety? You’re Not Alone
“Just right” anxiety is a common yet rarely discussed anxiety theme wherein the anxiety sufferer tries to attain a "just right" feeling motivated by a sense of incompleteness. Whereas the need for certainly lives at the center of most anxious themes and intrusive...
A Guide On How To Help Sensitive Kids Thrive
Note: As always with my posts on parenting, if you don't have kids I encourage to read this through two lenses: 1. As a parent to your own inner child and 2. As a springboard to reflect on how your parents were able to attune or not attune to your sensitive nature...
Here Is A Lifeline To Interrupt Health Anxiety
In my early twenties, shortly after my first panic attack unleashed the underworld of everything I had squashed down for the first twenty-one years of my life, I became highly sensitized to every tingle, bump, and ache in my body. At one point, my hyper-focus on a...
How To Find Freedom From the Ritual Of “Checking”
As I recently wrote about on my blog, I approach what we refer to as obsessions and compulsions (OCD) from a different, more depth-oriented model than is currently seen in psychological culture. Mental obsessions arise from anxiety and compulsions erupt as a misguided...
How to Find Your Anchors During Difficult Times
As a nation, as a world, as individuals, we're coming unmoored. Our familiar tethers are dissolving. Our anchors are rising to the surface. We're in a new sea, and it's a tumultuous one. As I wrote about when covid-19 first hit, we're in a time of Great Transition, a...
This is a Piece That Many Therapists Miss
"Our minds work very hard to make something out of nothing. We can perceive silence as rejection in an instant, and then build a cold castle on that tiny imagined brick. They only release from the tensions we weave around nothing is to remain a creature of the heart....
This Is the #1 Belief That Keeps Love Out
We are one body. We are one mind. We are one human family. Whatever inner struggles you've endured have been shared by millions of people, not only now but across time. Crossing over the chasms of heartbreak, trying to find your way through the cracks in your heart as...
This Is What It Means To Break Free From Anxiety
We live in a culture that seeks to eradicate symptoms. Instead of viewing anxiety and its cohort of cousins, including intrusive thoughts, insomnia, obsessions, and compulsions, as evidence of an internal system that is working in order, our culture sees it as...
This is the #1 Reason Why People are Scared of Inner Work
If you were drowning in the churning waters of relationship anxiety and I held out a rope and said, "Grab hold! This rope will teach you how to lift yourself out of the currents of your suffering. It asks only one thing of you: the willingness to look square in the...
How to Unveil the True Definition of Mother’s Day
Much of my work is devoted to exploding the constrictive boundaries that define our modern life. I explode our definitions of romantic love from the limited understanding that love is only “a feeling” or “a knowing” into a much broader conceptualization that...
Comparative Suffering and “First World Problems”
When I hear a theme appear in my group calls, workshops, and with my clients, I know we're in the realm of the archetypal collective consciousness and it's time to write about it here. Such has been the case these last few weeks around the idea of comparative...
There is a River of Light Inside Your Intrusive Thoughts
“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” ― Joseph Campbell We run from the bear chasing us in the dream. We run from the panic that rattles the doors of psyche. We run from the thoughts in our heads. But when we turn to face them, and can reach into...
This Simple Formula Can Free You From Perfectionism
How would you life be different if you weren't caught in the stronghold of your perfectionist and fear of failure? What would unfold if you weren't addicted to other people's opinions and approval, and buffeted around by their stories like a leaf in the wind? What...
How to Protect Your Inner World During Coronavirus
Transitions are ruptures, and through the fissure we're given an opportunity to see ourselves more clearly. We see both our gifts and our challenges. We see where we shine and where we struggle. We see where we go when anxiety is high and the ground beneath our feet...
This is What Anxiety, Fear, and Anger Protect Against
There is a healthy place for anxiety, fear and anger. Fear alerts us to real-and-present danger. Anxiety, when approached through the lens of compassion, is a wise messenger alerting us to needs and wounds that are asking for attention. And righteous anger, which I've...