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This is What I Know About Self-Doubt
Last week, in the introduction of my weekly newsletter, I wrote about the voice of resistance and self-doubt that often arises when we consider sharing ourselves with the world in any way. In response, I received this comment on my blog: Dear Sheryl, My comment is...
This is What I Know About Healing
"It is a terrible punishment to be banished from the web of reciprocity." - Robin Wall Kimmerer, Braiding Sweetgrass When I read this quote in what has become one of the most influential books of my life it took my breath away. I stopped reading, put the book on my...
Why this is the Time to Heal Your Anxiety
Not a day passes when I don't look around at the world we've been living in for the past six months and pause to take in the unreality of it all, the magnitude, the grief. Sometimes I'll think back to that first week after our county announced stay-at-home orders when...
This is the #1 Reason Why People are Terrified to Heal
As much as you want to change and heal, as much as you long to feel more fullness, aliveness, calm, and well-being, as much as you deeply desire a way to navigate life with more ease and less attachment to control, there is another part of you that resists the actions...
This is What Lives Underneath Your Shame and Pain
I often sit in awe as I listen to my clients. For even as they're telling me about the painful abuses that they've suffered, there is a light in their eyes and a brilliance in their smiles that transcends their pain. I sit in awe of the human spirit that not only...
This Is a Roadmap to Break Free From Anxiety at Last
"There are many therapists and coaches out there who are a lot of fluff and flash without a lot of substance – but Sheryl is the real deal! I’m a tough customer (a type A, lawyer, perfectionist), and this class really exceeded my expectations!" - Tracey, Los Angeles ...
How to Navigate Covid-19 – Let Me Count the Ways
Just like there isn't a right way to "do life", so there isn't one right way to navigate covid-19. At the core of my work with anxiety is the recognition that because highly sensitive people have been told their entire lives that they're "too much" - too sensitive,...
This is One Overlooked Root Cause of Anxiety
There is a saying that goes, “An idle mind is the devil’s playground.” If we understand the “devil” as the aspect of our minds that is rooted in fear and prone to anxiety, this saying makes sense, especially for highly sensitive people who are also deeply thinking and...
The Grief and Joy of Letting Go
Our firstborn son turns sixteen tomorrow. I started writing this blog when he was five, and some of you have followed my parenting journey since then. I know it's as cliché as it gets, but honestly... I don't know where the time has gone. Wasn't he just a little boy...
This Is the Expectation that Ruins Relationships
We live in a culture predicated on one basic assumption: I deserve to have everything I want when I want it. It's a "me, myself, and I" mindset with widespread ramifications, including the decimation of our planet. We take and take and take without giving back. We...
This Is The True Definition Of Being In Love
"Are you in love?" is one of the questions that triggers the maelstrom of relationship anxiety that leads people to my virtual doorstep. Alongside, "Are you with "the One"?, "Are you settling?" and "Do you have enough chemistry?", these questions speak to a...
This Is The Gold That Awaits Inside The Fear Of Love
That shimmering feeling of ease that you're longing to feel with your partner... That sense of goodness and, dare I say, rightness, you hoped would accompany committed, healthy partnership... Openings in your body and sweetness in your mind... It's all waiting for you...
Suffering from “Just Right” Anxiety? You’re Not Alone
“Just right” anxiety is a common yet rarely discussed anxiety theme wherein the anxiety sufferer tries to attain a "just right" feeling motivated by a sense of incompleteness. Whereas the need for certainly lives at the center of most anxious themes and intrusive...
A Guide On How To Help Sensitive Kids Thrive
Note: As always with my posts on parenting, if you don't have kids I encourage to read this through two lenses: 1. As a parent to your own inner child and 2. As a springboard to reflect on how your parents were able to attune or not attune to your sensitive nature...
Here Is A Lifeline To Interrupt Health Anxiety
In my early twenties, shortly after my first panic attack unleashed the underworld of everything I had squashed down for the first twenty-one years of my life, I became highly sensitized to every tingle, bump, and ache in my body. At one point, my hyper-focus on a...