by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Mar 17, 2024 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Relationships |
After twenty-five years of working with the theme of relationship anxiety, it’s still the most common way that people find their way to my work. Luckily, I’m still endlessly fascinated by the underlying drivers of this particular anxiety theme, as well as... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Oct 1, 2023 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety |
September 2023 update: If there is one blog post I refer to more than any other when someone asks about relationship anxiety, it’s this one. Why? Because at the core of relationship anxiety lives this one abiding question, and when we can address anxiety at the... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Sep 17, 2023 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety |
Contrary to what our culture teaches, the most important quality to look for in a long-term partner is not… …common interests, physical attraction, sense of humor, chemistry, level of education, or confidence. The #1 quality to look for in a partner... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jul 23, 2023 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety |
As many of you know, if you’re struggling with relationship anxiety one of my first and strongest pieces of advice is to go on a media diet. Why? Because most of our broken and toxic messages about love, sex, and marriage come from popular culture: Disney,... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jul 9, 2023 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety |
When I had Covid last year, I watched several episodes of Indian Matchmaking. I’m always interested in shows about relationships (for obvious reasons), and I’m especially interested in how non-American cultures approach romantic love. Arranged marriages... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Apr 9, 2023 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Relationships |
It seems we have forgotten one essential truth about love. We’re told that love should only feel like love, which means good and pristine and holy and alive and erotic – and, most of all, certain. We’re raised to believe that romantic love is the... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Mar 12, 2023 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Open Your Heart |
“Physical attraction is not a firm foundation on which to build a relationship, for the simple reason that it is never constant. It sets in motion a cycle of expectation and disillusionment that can go on and on. The person who lives in a world of fantasy will often... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Feb 19, 2023 | Alanis Morissette, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Relationships |
Many of you have found your way to my work through the portal of relationship anxiety. From there, we’ve traveled into deeper realms together, including health anxiety, friendship anxiety, parenting anxiety, career anxiety, and generalized anxiety – but... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Feb 12, 2023 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
I was playing a game of solitaire the other night and a memory from childhood floated up to consciousness, followed by a wave of grief. I paused the game and breathed deeply into my heart, allowing tears to arrive and roll down my cheeks. As always with big grief,... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Feb 5, 2023 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
Note: You can watch a video version of this topic here. If you were drowning in the churning waters of relationship anxiety and I held out a rope and said, “Grab hold! This rope will teach you how to lift yourself out of the currents of your suffering. It asks...