by Sheryl Paul | May 24, 2020 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Relationships |
We live in a culture that seeks to eradicate symptoms. Instead of viewing anxiety and its cohort of cousins, including intrusive thoughts, insomnia, obsessions, and compulsions, as evidence of an internal system that is working in order, our culture sees it as...
by Sheryl Paul | May 17, 2020 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
If you were drowning in the churning waters of relationship anxiety and I held out a rope and said, “Grab hold! This rope will teach you how to lift yourself out of the currents of your suffering. It asks only one thing of you: the willingness to look square in...
by Sheryl Paul | Jul 21, 2019 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
Our culture worships the gods of youth and eternal happiness. If we could bottle and merchandize the elixir of youth, most people in the Western world would purchase it no matter the price. We extol the blemish-and-wrinkle-free face and lay ourselves prostrate at the...
by Sheryl Paul | Jul 7, 2019 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Relationships |
It took me many years to learn how to love my husband well, and, of course, I’m still learning. Like many people, I didn’t grow up witnessing a healthy model of true partnership. My parents, like all parents, did the best they could and they gave me many...
by Sheryl Paul | Jun 16, 2019 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Health anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts |
“Probably the next important evolution of Western humankind is to find a proper container for religious life so that we do not unrealistically expect another mortal human being to carry this high value. In short: don’t ask a human to be God for you.” * Robert Johnson,...
by Sheryl Paul | Apr 7, 2019 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Trust Yourself |
Just as there are no rules for life, there are no rules for relationships. That statement can be triggering for the ego, the part of us that insatiably demands definite answers and craves formulas. “Tell me how to live and how to love and then I’ll know...
by Sheryl Paul | Mar 10, 2019 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Relationships |
The relationship anxiety spike, “My partner is too silly” appears often in my work. On the surface this sounds like, “I feel annoyed when my partner is silly.” However, as I walk alongside my clients while they deconstruct what’s embedded...
by Sheryl Paul | Jan 20, 2019 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety |
As evidenced by our high divorce rate and, even more disheartening, how few long-term marriages are thriving and fulfilling, it’s clear that our culture has it all wrong when it comes to love. Not only do we project our gold and gods onto our partners instead of...
by Sheryl Paul | Jan 13, 2019 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Health anxiety, Parenthood transitions, Relationships |
When addressing anxiety effectively, we must attend to all four realms of self: physical, emotional, cognitive, and soul – or body, heart, mind, and soul. Attending only to one of the four realms is helpful, but it won’t help you heal anxiety from the...
by Sheryl Paul | Dec 16, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety |
I spend a lot of time thinking about our culture, and it’s a topic I bring up almost every week in my blog and courses in some form. Lately, I’ve been thinking about how terribly sad and actually tragic it is that culture should support its members into...
