by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Mar 19, 2023 | Anxiety, Open Your Heart |
I receive the question below so frequently that I decided it’s time to address it clearly in a post. This version was left as a comment on my blog a while back: Isn’t there such a thing as a bad match between partners, even if neither of them has red... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Feb 12, 2023 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
I was playing a game of solitaire the other night and a memory from childhood floated up to consciousness, followed by a wave of grief. I paused the game and breathed deeply into my heart, allowing tears to arrive and roll down my cheeks. As always with big grief,... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Feb 5, 2023 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships |
Note: You can watch a video version of this topic here. If you were drowning in the churning waters of relationship anxiety and I held out a rope and said, “Grab hold! This rope will teach you how to lift yourself out of the currents of your suffering. It asks... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jan 22, 2023 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Health anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Intrusive Thoughts |
At the core of most, if not all, intrusive thoughts and obsessions is the question of enough. It can show up as: • Do I love my partner enough? or • Did I wash my hands enough? But what you’re really trying to answer is: Am I enough? I love what Jon Hershfield... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Dec 18, 2022 | Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts |
Continuing from last week’s post where I talked about the most important part of working with intrusive thoughts is to separate the content from the underneath layers that need attention, I wanted to give some direction about what the three most common emotions... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Nov 13, 2022 | Anxiety, Parenthood transitions, Pregnancy and Parenting Collections |
Note: I wrote this post when Everest was nine years old. He’s now eighteen. Of course, we’re long past the time when we would stay with him while he fell asleep at night, but I’m happy to share that we still value connected time before bed. And... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Oct 16, 2022 | 20s, Anxiety, Trust Yourself |
Many years ago, when my boys were learning how to write, they would freeze in their tracks for fear of making a spelling mistake. Their perfectionist tendencies were not a surprise to us – after all, the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree – and it... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Sep 4, 2022 | Anxiety, HSP, Intrusive Thoughts, Shame |
Following up on my post from a few weeks ago where I talked about how intrusive thoughts both originate from shame and cause shame, I’d like to explore some of the root causes of shame. As I wrote about in the post: Intrusive thoughts also arise from shame as... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Aug 28, 2022 | 9-Month, Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Relationships, Trust Yourself |
As much as you want to change and heal, as much as you long to feel more fullness, aliveness, calm, and well-being, as much as you deeply desire a way to navigate life with more ease and less attachment to control, as much as you ache to break free from your intrusive... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Aug 21, 2022 | 9-Month, Anxiety |
One of the misconceptions about the journey of mental health is that once you “heal” (as if healing is a linear process and a final destination; it’s not), you’ll never feel uncomfortable symptoms again. This isn’t the case. No matter how...