by Sheryl Paul | May 26, 2019 | Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
The first part of this post appeared on Instagram this week. I’m expounding upon it here. Real love is available love. It’s not the chase. It’s not drama. It’s not longing. It’s not the kiss at the end of the movie or finally snagging the one who got... by Sheryl Paul | Aug 5, 2018 | Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Holidays/Holy Days/Seasons, Parenthood transitions, Wedding/marriage transition |
Our older son will turn fourteen this week, and as part of the Jewish tradition he will be walking through the rite of passage of a Bar Mitzvah. Given that my husband was raised Catholic and now connects most deeply to Source through art and nature and the fact that... by Sheryl Paul | May 20, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Inspiration Collections, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
There are moments in my marriage that take my breath away. Last Sunday on Mother’s Day, the four of us spent several hours working on my garden. My garden is one of my sanctuaries, but every year the grass from the lawn finds its way into my vegetable beds and... by Sheryl Paul | Jul 9, 2017 | 20s, Aging, Holidays and Seasons Collections, Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Holidays/Holy Days/Seasons, HSP, Parenthood transitions, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
It’s the season of the fallen flower. It’s the season of heat when the rising temperatures cause the petals, so vibrant and alive just a few weeks ago, to wilt. It’s the season of paradox: we bask in summer light and longer days yet the hands of... by Sheryl Paul | May 28, 2017 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Dying/Death, Highly Sensitive Person, Relationship Anxiety Collection, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
One of the most challenging elements of relationship anxiety to understand is that, if you’re in a healthy, loving relationship with no red flags, the anxiety is projection. This means that the parade of intrusive thoughts that tortures the anxious mind and... by Sheryl Paul | May 21, 2017 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Relationship Anxiety Collection, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
One of the spokes of the relationship anxiety wheel – or any type of anxiety, for that matter – is the question of where were we hurt. Psychology has done an excellent job of attributing the majority of this hurt to our primary caregivers (usually... by Sheryl Paul | Apr 9, 2017 | Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
One of the biggest obstacles to finding more wellness and equanimity is the belief that we shouldn’t be feeling what we’re feeling; that if we were more evolved or healed or with a different partner we wouldn’t feel so ________ (anxious, depressed,... by Sheryl Paul | Feb 26, 2017 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
There is often a predictable arc to relationship anxiety that includes three stages.* The first stage is characterized by typical symptoms of anxiety and panic: Can’t sleep Can’t eat Tearful Depressed Bolting awake in the middle of the night Difficulty... by Sheryl Paul | Feb 12, 2017 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Holidays/Holy Days/Seasons, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships, Transitions - General, Wedding/marriage transition |
When you’re neck-deep and soul-soaked in anxiety, when you’re having trouble eating, sleeping, and basically functioning, when the love you formally felt for your partner has been eclipsed by indifference, doubt, or numbness, when intrusive thoughts invade... by Sheryl Paul | Jan 8, 2017 | Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Intrusive Thoughts, Intrusive Thoughts Collection, Wedding/marriage transition |
Our stories form a crystal cave of stalactites and stalagmites in our minds, a cool chamber that seduces us with the promise that if we spend enough time there we will divine our answers. How beautiful this cave looks! How many promises it offers! And how familiar...
