by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jan 15, 2023 | Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Relationship Anxiety Collection, Wedding/marriage transition |
Note: I first published this post in 2011 and it remains one of my most popular blog posts. I’m updating it now to include more relevant language and also concepts that have evolved in the last twelve years about relationship anxiety. *** One of the most common... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Feb 20, 2022 | 20s, Anxiety, Relationships, Self Trust Collection, Transitions - General, Trust Yourself, Wedding/marriage transition |
Oh, the what-ifs… I’ve received hundreds of queries over the years that reflect some version of the same question: “What if I learn to trust myself and then I realize that my truth is that I have to leave my partner?” or “What if I turn... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Dec 12, 2021 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
There is often a predictable arc to relationship anxiety that includes three stages.* The first stage is characterized by typical symptoms of anxiety and panic: Trouble sleeping Difficulty eating Tearful Depressed Bolting awake in the middle of the night Difficulty... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jul 4, 2021 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Dying/Death, Highly Sensitive Person, Relationship Anxiety Collection, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
One of the most challenging elements of anxiety is to understand is that the anxiety is projection. This means that the parade of intrusive thoughts that tortures the anxious mind and sensitive soul are actually pointing to areas inside of you that are crying out for... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | May 26, 2019 | Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
The first part of this post appeared on Instagram this week. I’m expounding upon it here. Real love is available love. It’s not the chase. It’s not drama. It’s not longing. It’s not the kiss at the end of the movie or finally snagging the one who got... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Aug 5, 2018 | Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Holidays/Holy Days/Seasons, Parenthood transitions, Wedding/marriage transition |
Our older son will turn fourteen this week, and as part of the Jewish tradition he will be walking through the rite of passage of a Bar Mitzvah. Given that my husband was raised Catholic and now connects most deeply to Source through art and nature and the fact that... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | May 20, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Inspiration Collections, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
There are moments in my marriage that take my breath away. Last Sunday on Mother’s Day, the four of us spent several hours working on my garden. My garden is one of my sanctuaries, but every year the grass from the lawn finds its way into my vegetable beds and... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jul 9, 2017 | 20s, Aging, Holidays and Seasons Collections, Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Holidays/Holy Days/Seasons, HSP, Parenthood transitions, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
It’s the season of the fallen flower. It’s the season of heat when the rising temperatures cause the petals, so vibrant and alive just a few weeks ago, to wilt. It’s the season of paradox: we bask in summer light and longer days yet the hands of... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | May 21, 2017 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Relationship Anxiety Collection, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
One of the spokes of the relationship anxiety wheel – or any type of anxiety, for that matter – is the question of where were we hurt. Psychology has done an excellent job of attributing the majority of this hurt to our primary caregivers (usually... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Apr 9, 2017 | Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
One of the biggest obstacles to finding more wellness and equanimity is the belief that we shouldn’t be feeling what we’re feeling; that if we were more evolved or healed or with a different partner we wouldn’t feel so ________ (anxious, depressed,...