Open Your Heart: A 30 Day Program to Feel More Love and Attraction for Your Partner
Are you longing to feel more love and attraction for your partner?
Do you wish there was more connection and intimacy between you?
Do you often worry that there’s something missing in your relationship?
Whether you're in a new relationship or a longterm marriage, you can grow your love and cultivate your connection!
Most people who find me are in loving, healthy relationships but are struggling because the aliveness that was so strong in the beginning has faded OR it was never there to begin with.
And because our culture tells you that you’re EITHER
in love or out of love
attracted or not attracted
connected or disconnected
when these positive states fade as they always will many people panic thinking that those feelings are gone forever and that there’s something wrong with their relationships.
And if they were never there in the beginning the anxiety can be even worse.
As with so many aspects of love and attraction, our culture doesn’t tell us the truth, which is that:
Love can be grown
Attraction can be cultivated
Intimacy can be nurtured
If you only know which love laws to follow!
In this 30 day program called “Open Your Heart” I will be teaching you these love laws – the loving actions that, when practiced, will grow your love and attraction for your partner and help you feel more connected to each other. These love laws have been thoroughly tested with my clients, my friends and in my own marriage. They’re the secrets that happily married couples naturally live by but are not always able to articulate. I’ve articulated them for you now in a way that is clearly and easily accessible.
I’m so excited to be offering this information as I know how deep the longing is to feel more love, connection and attraction. And I’m delighted to be offering it in a personal format where I will be interacting with you directly. When you sign up for the program, you will receive:
• One email from me every day which will contain an article about one of the love laws and a loving action that you can take
• At least one video or MP3 each week that will provide an overview of what you will be learning that week
• Weekly group coaching calls where you will have the chance to ask your questions and bring your concerns directly to me
• Access to a private forum specifically for this program. My private forums are exceptionally supportive communities where people feel safe enough to be vulnerable and do very deep work, and I’m sure this forum will be the same.
Space will be limited, so don’t delay, give yourself the gift of learning these love laws and allow me to lead you into a level of contentment in your relationship that you’ve only dreamed possible. It’s not Hollywood and it’s the stuff of fairy tales; it’s even better. Take my hand and let’s begin!
The next program will begin in March 2014. You can register here to hold your spot. Please note that there are no refunds.
If you're struggling with relationship anxiety, whether single, dating, engaged, or married, I STRONGLY encourage you to consider my Conscious Weddings E-Course. Learn more here.
Some responses from my May 2013 program participants:
“With utmost respect and sincerity, I cannot thank you enough… for who you are, how you are, and ultimately for how the Open Your Heart Program has contributed to my healing. Open Your Heart has helped me see that the source of my anxiety is not my partner or the imperfections in our relationship, but the fact that I have become disconnected from my Self. The course was a reminder that I can choose to love by honoring the amazing man in front of me and celebrating the wonder and gift of our relationship. More important, I can choose to recognize the beauty of my own soul and reconnect with ways to celebrate myself.
The course helped me identify the sometimes unconscious things I have been doing to close my heart, and gave me real skills to work on opening it back up. It was done lovingly, with compassion and gentleness, and with reminders that the only limitation to experiencing my version of a big love story is how my small, fear-based, wounded mind wants to control everything just so she doesn’t have to hurt. Ironically, this only suffocates my spirit, starves my relationship, and makes me hurt even more.
"Open Your Heart reminded me that the sometimes subtle and soft voice in my head that says “I am not enough” has rather loud repercussions. I have judged that voice with no compassion, but it only spoke louder. I thought I could outsmart that voice by ignoring it, but ignoring it only meant I didn’t hear it….not that it wasn’t still there. The program exposed the fact that it was the voice that was in control, wreaking havoc on my relationship. So I must tend to my place of not-enough-ness. When I am enough, my partner is enough. My relationship is enough. Acceptance creates change. Pressure does not. I am capable of acceptance because I am enough."
If you are tired of altitude sickness from being on your high horse, join Sheryl as she gently feeds you small doses of Humble Pie while you acclimate to your new reality of "Holy Shit, you mean it's me not him?"
- Grace, Boulder, CO, May 2013
"Your course is just what the world needs! Truly!
"I must honestly say that, for us personally, it was a reflection of all the amazing work that we have done and are doing. It was like each day, something that we had practiced during that day would be exactly what you were offering as an action item on the course. It became quite funny how aligned we were with the whole entire course, how it spoke our language and how much it brought to our relationship just to take the time and read the texts every night. We apologize for not being more active in the group, we figured the best way was to work together, free from distraction. The way you are communicating this information and the way you structured the work, we feel, is spot on. Thank you!
"We truly honor you for standing up in this work, work that I feel is the most important of our time. If people cannot find a way to make it in their personal relationships, well, the whole rest of life really doesn't work either. So keep shining on, developing you work and I am sure, one day soon, we will stand side by side in this movement as we too feel it is one of the most important topics for all of us in our lives. We surely will reflect back as reminders and will pass on your work, as we already do, to many! ”
-Daniel Tyler Pohnke, Los Angeles, May 2013
"Some programs like this promise some kind of miracle transformation - and deliver very little. This program does not promise a superficial 'miracle' as such but delivers SO much more: actual tools to help any person become more connected to themselves first and then their partner. Sheryl's emails and phone conferences contain so much more than you could absorb all at once which makes it more of a program for a lifetime. For anyone who is looking for a relationships course there is no better guide than Sheryl Paul! Her sensitivity and wisdom will be guiding you gently as well as having the support of many other like-minded people to connect to whenever you need to on the forums."
From an Open Your Heart participant the day after the program ended:
"For the longest time, I couldn't figure out why when I touch my husband, I soften, literally almost melt. (After 8 years it's still like that.) Or why he's the one person that makes me glow more than any other person on the planet. Or why can making love to him make me feel so safe, connected, vulnerable and sexy? Or why he is the one person that when I'm around and open, the true purity, innocence, and love in my soul just comes out. BUT then why, if this person and I share this unique bond and connection with, do I think I might leave? Do I think he isn't 'attractive'?
"It's been throwing me through some serious anxiety...
"I read something in a response that Sheryl wrote in the Redefining Attraction thread on the Open Your Heart forum. She asked someone that if they sunk down, deep inside themselves, is the lack of physical attraction a deal breaker. (not her exact words to this member, but that was the jist.) And it spiked me, because I was like 'What if it that is a deal breaker for me?', but I was instantly countered with a voice in my head that said 'No, it's not. The amount of love you have for this person will never be trumped by looks.' But still... I was left confused, and didn't understand why these two dichotomies exist within me?
"I finally realized that what I have with this person isn't now, or has it ever been, about looks. I kept wanting to associate attraction with the externals because that's easy to define.
"The word attraction defined: When one object is drawn to another.
"That's why it's been so confusing... For 3 years, I've been trying to give definition to something that can't be defined. What I can define is that I am drawn to him, I'm ATTRACTED to his essence. I'm attracted to something you can't touch or see. It just is.
"So, I say this loud and clear to anyone wanting to listen:
"There are no specifics we need to follow when it comes to the people we choose to love. We may all have the false belief engrained so deep within us that says we should only love beauty, but it's not true. When there was, is, or has been a 'magnetic pull', for any reason, for any length or time, towards you and your partner, BELIEVE THAT. REMEMBER THAT. If something in you keeps fighting for your relationship, but you don't know why because you can't articulate it but you know there's a reason, BELIEVE THAT. REMEMBER THAT.
"That's all I got."
- Amy, Detroit, MI, May 2013
"Open Your Heart was a truly enjoyable program. I learned many simple (not always easy) ways to combat a closed, fearful heart and to instead connect to myself and to my partner. For that reason alone, I feel that the program was worth it. It was worth the investment of time and cost, and worth the vulnerability it took to really practice the love laws.
"I’ve taken the Conscious Weddings E-Course and one difference I found is that I felt more engaged with Sheryl, and because of that, I was more committed to working on the material regularly. The daily e-mails, the daily exercises, posting on set topics on the forum, weekly phone calls--these all created a "program" environment where I felt like we (program participants and Sheryl) were all in it together at the same time, and that I needed to show up.
"Overall, this was a great program, a good complement to the Conscious Weddings E-course and counseling, good for where I'm at in my journey...wonderful. Thanks for your hard work in putting it together and teaching it."
- Stephanie, Minnesota, May 2013
"I am very grateful to have been a part of Open Your Heart. Over the course of the program, I grew from feeling empty and detached from my partner to taking responsibility for my own openness. This has translated into a feeling of more connection, and although I haven't fully completed the process of opening my heart, I feel confident that it is possible and that I have the tools to do so. More importantly, I feel that I can do this with my current partner, whom I love very much. I know that opening your heart is a process, and I would not be at this point if it wasn't for Sheryl's work.
"My favorite thing about this program was absolutely the conference calls. Getting the opportunity to interact with Sheryl personally and have questions answered directly set this program apart from other online courses. I did not feel like a number or a username on the forum.
"If anyone is on the fence about Sheryl's work and Open Your Heart, I can say only this: there is truly nothing to loose and everything to gain. All of this work is taken as an experiment, a chance to try new things and see what works for you. And the only way to discover this is to try."
- Emily, New York City, May 2013
“I loved the Open Your Heart program, and have recommended it to a number of friends. I loved all the guidance and all the information that dropped daily into my inbox with its wisdom, gentle reminders, thoughtful suggestions and solid actions to be taken.
"It was well paced, enough content to challenge you and encourage you to step up and more content to go back to over time.
"It is great to know that I now have this resource at my fingertips to refer to as I am sure I will many times. I plan to go over it again and again.
"I feel reassured that there is no shame around this issue for me knowing there are others who also struggle in this area. I understand better where the fear comes from and understand the tools and principals around moving through it.
"As a result I feel more solid within myself, more compassionate and understanding of what the fear means. I feel braver and more able to feel that fear and square up to it, acknowledging it but taking a different action anyway. This has allowed me to be more able to open my heart, stay in my heart and be the love and light I know I am in my essence, bringing that to my relationship and everywhere.
"My boyfriend says he can really feel the difference in me when I am in this state, so it feels like a choice and I can tangibly see and feel the difference this course has made for me which is exciting.
"I am so grateful to Sheryl for this powerful work. Her message is compassionate and gentle – you truly know that she genuinely and passionately cares about this work and about each client’s understanding and integration of the message.
"I find Sheryl a beacon of light – she is both strong and gentle as she guides you through what she so aptly calls the dark underbelly of relationship anxiety."
- Katrina, London, May 2013
I absolutely loved every second of the Open Your Heart Program. Your work is simply incredible and I feel so lucky to have stumbled onto it, ironically 10 years ago and then again when I needed your work the most! Thank you!"
- T. Allen, San Diego, CA, May 2013
"For years I fantasized about meeting "the one" and imagined how perfect our life would be together. I hated being single and was eager to meet a nice guy. I would look at friends’ relationships with envy. I thought, "If only I could meet a nice guy, that is the only thing stopping me from being completely happy". Then it happened, I met a nice guy! I prayed to get married someday. Eventually he proposed-cue the joy, right? I now had exactly what I wanted. Shockingly, instead of feeling "happier than I ever felt", by the next morning, I felt sick. I couldn't sleep or eat. I was filled with anxiety and crying all the time. I had a panic attack each morning for 2 weeks. I thought, "Surely, this must mean I'm making a mistake". My feelings were the polar opposite of how I thought I should feel and I didn’t know what to do. In a desperate google search I found Sheryl's Conscious Weddings E-course and signed up. I was skeptical at first and even googled one of the participant’s names to make sure she was a real person! The E-course was exactly what I needed. It helped me learn why I was feeling the way that I was and helped me understand how transitions affect people differently. The forum provided is a valuable tool because it allows you to connect with people who are experiencing, and have experienced what you are going through. It feels good to know that you're not alone and you can get through this challenging time of transition and fear. The course helped me manage my anxious thoughts and learn a lot of about my own personality and pattern of thinking. Now I'm married, in part thanks to all that I have learned from the e-course! The Conscious Weddings E-course helped me understand and manage all the fearing and anxiety that encompassed my wedding transition.
After the wedding I thought, "I'm married, now what?". I knew that even though I'd completed the Conscious Weddings E-course my work was not done. While I was completing the weddings E-course, I initially thought, "Okay, I will do this and then be 'cured' of my anxiety". I know now that it doesn't work that way. I knew that as a newlywed I wanted to continue to work on my relationship. That's when I heard about the Open Your Heart Program. I approached the Open Your Heart program as an experiment to see if it would help me develop an even stronger relationship with my husband. I did not focus on the outcome, as with the first E-course.
This program was easy to complete. Participants receive one email per day containing an article and a single task, which I could do at my own convenience. The Loving Actions, which are detailed in the OYH course, can become part of a person's daily life. In completing this course, I felt a greater sense of peace within my marriage and about myself. The emails of a daily article and task seemed to arrive in the perfect order! For example, just as I was starting to feel some resistance, I received an email about feeling resistance! Sheryl has perfectly structured the course so that it has a natural flow. I would recommend both courses to anyone dealing with relationship anxiety or who wants to strengthen their relationship."
47 comments to Open Your Heart: A 30 Day Program to Feel More Love and Attraction for Your Partner
Interested in finding out when the next ecourse begins after the 5/29 course on Open Your Heart 30 Days
Likely in October. If you’d like to be added to the interested people list, please email me.
Is there anyway I can pay with cash?
Please add me to the list of interested people in the October 2013 course.
I am interested in this class. How can I sign up for the next session? I already took your Conscious Wedding course and was pleased with that.
I’ll email you directly, Myriam, to give you more information.
I’m interested in this course!
I’ll add you to the list, Sarah, so that you’ll receive an email for early registration that will allow you to secure your spot.
Hi, I would like to be notified when your next course comes up in September. Thanks!
Hi Sheryl ,
Just read all the testimonials and I know that the course you are running to open your heart in 30 days would be something I would greatly benefit from. Could you please notify me when your next course commences in September. Thank you!
I’ll email you directly, Jeannette, so you can get on the Early Bird list and register before the spots fill up.
can you add me to the list? is this for October? Thank you
The program begins September 7th and I just opened registration today! Check your inbox : ).
I am very confused with my relationship, because lately I have realized my feelings of love are actually not there. Don’t feel as attracted as before, as patient and not even sure if I love him. This has brought me great anxiety. As you might suspect, I am in a relationship with a great partner. No red flags. I was wondering if taking the “Open your Heart” course would help me get through this confusing times. If so, could you please add me to the list for the September program? All I want is for our relationship to work out. Thanks in advance!
Emailing you now : ).
Hi Sheryl, is my name already added to the list?
Just have to say that this is exactly what I wanted… I remember during the chaos of my anxiety only 2 months ago I said to my friend “all i want is for my heart to be open” and to which he replied “how do you know if it’s open? and if it’s not open maybe that means you don’t love him…”. As you can imagine this sent me over the edge, and I started to believe this despite the pain I felt. Deep down I guess I knew what I needed, just wish i trusted myself and my feelings at the time to be able to speak up. Anways…i’m here now.
Sheryl, I just got married 3 month ago and I’m falling apart now. I have the same qualms as Chrissy above. I’m not feeling the same way and it’s freaking me out. Will this course help me? Can I please sign up?
Absolutely, Rain. Simply click on the big purple “BUY NOW” button above and you’ll be directed through the purchasing/registration process.
Hi;) How to purchase your e- course from abroad? I don’t have the bank account in your currency…
Paypal can convert from your currency to US dollars.
I really feel like I need this. Will there be another course offered after the one that starts in September?
Please send me any info you have.
Yes, I’ll be offering it again in early Spring.
Is this course something you have to do with your spouse, or can I go thru it without him being involved? I’m a little afraid for him to know I’m not feeling attracted to him…it just seems like it would hurt his feelings terribly and if it’s something I can solve without him ever knowing I feel this way, it would just make things easier.
You can go through it alone or with your partner, Ana.
Sheryl, I am wondering if this program might be right for me. When I read the program description, something in me reacted with “Stop forcing me to love my husband. I don’t want to be more intimate.” That comes to me like a big kick in my chest.
At the same time, I am finally getting how tangled up I am in our crazymaking dynamics, and I only have a vague sense of what is going on in me that is contributing to that. I want to understand that better. It is very scary to think of letting go of the way I have been and I think I need some modelling and support to change my behaviour. I want to feel love, peace, and warmth in my body instead of the hard and empty and scared feeling I have now.
Do you think this program could help or is it maybe not quite the right place for me right now?
Kim in Halifax
Hi Kim: It sounds like the program would be a great match for you right now, especially since your resistance is coming up so strongly! I encourage you to take the leap as Open Your Heart is designed to address the exact issues that you’re struggling with.
I totally relate to those hard, empty and scared feelings and I feel so disconnected from my partner because of it.
I too am wondering whether to start the 30 day course…..
P.s Are you in Halifax, England?
Hi Louisa….I am on the east coast of Canada. Glad to hear I am not alone with this!
You’re certainly not alone, I soon realised that when I found this website. The articles seem to help make sense of these very heavy and unwanted feelings. The difficult thing I suppose is learning how to work through them without over-reacting and making decisions based from the wounded self….
P.S Halifax in England is very close to where I live, so that’s why I asked……Halifax on the east coast of Canada is slightly further away
So, Sheryl, just to clarify — Will the course help me find the “right” relationship with my husband, even if that is not necessarily a marriage relationship? My resistance to loving my husband, and my impulse to get away from him is so strong that I want to be sure I have the space to uncover the meaning of that, whatever it may be. I don’t want to go into it with a preconceived idea of the outcome of our relationship. Does that make sense?
Well, Kim, the program is not designed to help you determine if your husband is “right” for you or not. It’s about learning loving laws and actions that will help you move toward him, which includes discovering your fear walls and learning how to work with them effectively. I hope that helps.
Hi Sheryl,I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and have never had an orgasm. When I met him, there was an incredible click, I just felt so close to him and wanted to be around him all the time like I’ve never felt with anyone else. However, when we first kissed, there was no real spark for me and still to this day I dont get anything out of kissing him and obviously the sex isn’t much better. I mostly enjoy being in his arms and hugging him and I know that I do love him deeply so its kind of a really weird situation. I’ve ignored it up until now, being completely happy with him regardless, but sometimes I cant help but think surely sometimes wrong. I’m not much of a sexual person in general but if my thoughts would stay that way, he wouldn’t be the one I’d fantasise about. I haven’t spoken to him about it as I know he definitely finds me very attractive so it’d be really hard to explain this to him and he surely would not understand the complete picture as conventionally when someone says they are not actually attracted to you and haven’t actually ever been, then that throws “love” out the window and raises major issues. I do feel guilty about it all though and so I normally just push any negative thoughts away. Would your course have anything to do with my messed up situation Sheryl or would you just call that a write off? Because if nothing was there to start with then there’s not much really to work on. I just don’t understand what makes me feel to close to him at the same time though. I thought that maybe I got my friendship/lover senses mixed up but I wouldn’t want to be friends with him either as no one goes around spending days in bed in their friends arms and feeling like the world was now complete :/ I’d appreciate more than you can imagine if you got time to spare a few words on this for me and let me know if the course is honestly suited for my kind of situation.
The course would help for sure, although I would probably need to know more about your history before I could offer a solid recommendation. I will say, however, that you’re situation is more common than you think, and when you start to work through your fear-walls, the natural sexuality will begin to flow in. That’s what the Open Your Heart program is about.
I’m interested in the program but have some questions about the structure…is it homework/exercise work? What are the coaching calls like – check-ins from the group or teaching from you? What day and time (EST) are the calls going to be?
I’m also not sure about the scope, if I’m in the right place for this, although I have no doubt it can always be helpful to people. Is there an intake type of form where I can feel this out before committing to the wole month..?
Thanks for any info.
Yes it’s daily exercises which take from 5-20 minutes, but I wouldn’t consider it homework : ). On the coaching calls, I begin with a teaching and then I interact with the participants answering their questions. The calls will be on Mondays at 8:15pm EST, but if you can’t make them you can write your questions on the forum and download the recording for 24 hours after the call. I hope that helps!
I’m interested in the October class. Could you email me the info, please?
Sheryl, are you having an “open your heart” program in october, and if so, is it too late to register? please add me to the email list if it is not too late. thx
I have just signed up for your e-course, and then came across this one! Much like Chrissy above, I have had feelings like perhaps I don’t love my partner of 1.5 years anymore, and my sexual drive towards him has drastically dropped. He is a great man, treats me impeccably, and willing to totally work and transform whatever he needs to for our relationship. We have really worked through some early issues, and things seem to be going in the right direction. I just don’t know if he’s the one anymore, and its causing me GREAT anxiety! Just wondering if this may be the course for me, or should I stay with the e-course? HELP!
I would like to be put on the list for octobers session! How much does it cost?
This is something I am interested in, however it is not available until Spring 2014 because it is full. Is there any way I can find the information elsewhere or through this website on another program? It is VERY important to me and would be beneficial to start learning this information now.
Yes the current program is full and more then halfway over, but I strongly suggest that you consider my Conscious Weddings E-Course. You can learn more here:
After reading through your website I feel as though your courses may be something I should look in to. Please keep me posted on your future Course dates, as I would love to be included.
Hi Rose: I won’t be offering this program again until Feb/March. In the meantime you may want to consider my Conscious Weddings E-Course.
Hi, I really want to do this course would you be able to email me when you’re next taking people on?
Hi Kayla: The February 2014 program is now open for registration : ).
Your website and articles have been a godsend. Like so many on your site I have found a truly wonderful guy. I am drawn to things in his essence that are beyond my rational understanding. It just “is”. And the sex is truly a loving and exciting reflection of that. He is the first man I have ever felt I could truly trust. But the externals – his employment situation, some of our differences have sent me into a desperate and anxious tailspin. The negative voices are obsessive as I deal with how he is not the “Prince” I held in my imagination my whole life. Its agonizing. Heres my question: i signed up for the Conscious Bride course but we are not yet close to engaged. I really feel I need your Open Your Heart course but it doesnt start till February. Is there any crossover between the courses? I NEED THOSE HEART OPENING EXERCISES! Any suggestions snd THANK YOU for all you do!
Yes, there is a LOT of crossover between the courses, and starting with the Conscious Weddings E-Course, even if you’re not in the wedding transition, is the ideal place to begin to do this work. Keep going through the course. Ignore the parts that are related to being engaged, and you’ll start to peel back the layers of your projection that are keeping your heart closed. You’re in the right place!
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