Are You Scared You're Making a Mistake? Or That You've Already Made A Mistake?
Do you worry that you don’t love your partner enough – that he or she isn’t “the one”?
This E-Course is the anti-anxiety medication for your soul. If you’re suffering from relationship anxiety, whether single, partnered, engaged, or married, this is the best course of action you can take. Give yourself this gift today!
It’s an instant download of comfort, inspiration, and practical tools for managing your anxiety and realizing your clarity and love. This is the only e-course available to help you transform your relationship anxiety and marriage fear into clarity and serenity. It includes seven downloadable lessons of exclusive videos, MP3 interviews, articles, checklists, and exercises.
“Sheryl’s work was indispensable in helping me soothe and address my fears and anxieties around my engagement and approaching wedding day. Without her guidance, wisdom and assurances, my overwhelm may have clouded what turned out to be one of the calmest and most incredible days of my life.”
∼ Alanis Morissette
Watch and read more below…
Do you think you have an extreme case of engagement or relationship anxiety?
Do you feel alone with your experience, like no one understands?
You are far from alone and I assure you that you’re not an extreme case. But you don’t have to take my word for it. When you purchase the E-Course, you gain access to hundreds of pages of posts from the now-closed Conscious Weddings Message Board. Here you’ll read about women and men who were struggling with your EXACT issues, and you’ll be privy to the wisdom of those who made it through and are offering their advice to those in the eye of the anxiety storm.
“The e-course was a gift and an answer to a prayer. I felt so lost when all this started, but after working through the e-course and interacting on the forum I feel like there is actually a purpose in all this. I feel this sense of peace now. I might still get little blips of anxiety and I can only assume that there will continue to be ups and downs on this journey, but what I have learned is that it's not my fiancé. It's not anyone else. It's an internal struggle, an inner part of myself that needs attention.
I would encourage every single bride and groom to work through the e-course. I feel like it was such an eye-opening experience that everyone and anyone can benefit from. I learned so much about myself and I can truly say that I learned how to really fall in love with my fiance. Not a "fireworks and butterflies" type of love, but a real, safe, healthy love. I didn't even know what real love was until I started on this journey; I had a very skewed belief in a fairy tale. I didn't even realize that until the anxiety hit me and I found Sheryl's work. I am 100% certain that anyone who is experiencing anxiety over marriage will benefit from Sheryl's work. It has definitely changed my life and, if you are ready and willing, it can change your life for the better, too!
One of the best ways I can assure you that you're not alone is by offering you a FREE Sampler of the E-Course. Simply fill in your information below and you'll see that this information will apply to you whether you're single (yes, single!), dating, engaged, or married:
And once you purchase the E-Course, you will gain access to the NEW password-protected E-Course Forum where you can connect with other people who are struggling through the relationship anxiety and receive support from a group of very wise women and men who are now happily married, many of whom come back to the forum to offer lifelines to those still in the trenches. One of these "conscious marrieds" said of her experience with the Message Board:
“When I was going through all my anxiety, I couldn't sleep or eat, and I would just search the internet for answers all night long. When I finally found your site, I was in tears after seeing other people were going through this and I was not alone. That message board was my lifeline for months.
I truly can't thank you enough for making me work through all the thoughts that were going through my head. I really married such a wonderful person . We are expecting our first child in July, so new adventure here we come!"
- Anna Minzel, Seattle, WA
Along these lines, you'll also receive four MP3 interviews with women who were anxiously engaged and have now been happily married for several years. They share their struggle in detail and let you know that you’re not alone, crazy, or an extreme case! Many of these women are part of the conversation on the new E-Course Forum. As Leisha in Lesson 4 shares (who had a glorious wedding day and has been happily married since 2006):
“All of a sudden I felt overwhelming sickness which I later realized was a panic attack. After that I couldn't function. I couldn't eat and lost a ton of weight. I couldn't sleep and when I did I would wake up crying. I could not function. It took about five months to get to the point that I wasn't panicky."
- Leisha Clenenden, Riverside, CA
Do you worry that you'll feel this way on your wedding day?
Here's the short answer: If you work through the E-Course and give yourself enough time to address your fear and grief, you won't! Every client I've worked with has had a beautiful wedding day and, more importantly, felt prepared to enter marriage. Furthermore, as you'll hear in the MP3 interviews in the E-Course, everyone who goes through this transition consciously is actually grateful for their struggle with anxiety! Don't believe me? When you get to the other side, you'll say the same thing.
“ I got married on July 23, 2011, so I am now a wife and newlywed... wow! Something I wasn't quite sure I could pull off in the throes of anxiety! I have been with my husband for 5 years; we got engaged in February 2011, something I had been wanting for a year or so. Almost immediately I started to panic. Since I didn't think that response was appropriate, I went into a tailspin from there. The first few months of engagement were so hard (no sleeping, no eating, sobbing, feeling alone, etc.) and then I found this course, which was the best thing that could have ever happened! It allowed me to feel my feelings, to address them directly, to hear stories to make me know I wasn't alone and to start working on myself. I had the most amazing wedding day of my life... We have been married for almost 6 weeks and it's been lovely."
What you learn through the challenges cannot be measured in money or expressed in words but will help you become a happier, more stable person for the rest of your life. Because if you fit the profile that I describe in detail in Lesson 1, this isn't the first time you've felt anxious and had difficulty making a major life decision. Wouldn't it be life-changing to learn the information and tools that will help you navigate every transition you'll ever go through? It starts now.
“When I got engaged to my long-term boyfriend, I almost immediately started to panic. My mind knew that he was an honest, kind, truly good man that I trusted and felt safe with, but fear completely took over. I felt unsure that he was "the one" or "the right one." Growing up, I never had many examples of happy marriages around me, and as an adult I've watched marriages fall apart. I didn't have a lot of confidence in marriage in general, and I wasn't sure if I was ready to commit.
"These unsure feelings caused me so much stress that I stopped sleeping through the night and felt very closed off from my fiance. For months, I couldn't bring myself to talk to any of my friends about my "cold feet" because I was sure that these feelings meant something bad. I held it inside to the point of almost breaking down. I avoided wedding planning and panicked when it came time to send our save-the-date cards.
"As a last-resort, I decided to sign up for the e-course. Almost immediately, I started to feel little sparks of hope. It forced me to spend time on understanding myself more fully, recognizing which feelings were normal and which had to be worked through. I realized that I was not the only person in the whole world experiencing engagement anxiety. Through the course, I came to understand a lot about myself and fear.
"The e-course is a study of becoming more conscious of your thoughts. It is not a quick fix; instead, it's a self-paced, rebuilding of the way you understand your feelings and thoughts. The more you understand about your self and your anxiety, the more power you feel over your anxiety. Because of the e-course, I was emotionally ready to experience all of the love I felt on my wedding day, without panic. I'm so grateful for Sheryl and I recommend this course to anyone who is on their engagement journey.”
11 exclusive videos totaling over 2 hours of information
4 exclusive one hour podcasts from women who were anxiously engaged and are now happily married and 1 podcast from a man married 29 years
Three email sessions with two different clients
Access to the NEW Password-Protected Message Board and hundreds of pages of posts from the Conscious Weddings Message Board Archives (which many happily married women credit is the single most influential reason why they didn’t run)
18 articles (9 exclusive articles)
Checklists to help you identify the areas of this transition that are most affecting you
Notecards for the anxiously engaged with positive, truthful statements that you can print and cut out to keep handy in your bag or pocket
Exercises from The Conscious Bride’s Wedding Planner
A Wedding Day Meditation MP3 to help prepare you for your wedding day
“The most helpful thing about the eCourse was reading that most other people were going through the same thing. The hardest part about this transition is feeling alone and when I learned that I wasn’t alone, I felt less guilty for my feelings. I was anxious for ten months leading to my wedding day, but the wedding day was great. I was very calm (I had listened to the meditation from the eCourse a few days before and the morning of). In fact, I was so calm everyone commented on it. People would say WOW you don't look nervous at all, you look so calm, no jitters? I laughed inside thinking I've had wedding jitters the past 10 months.... today I feel good.
Part of me started wondering if I was just disconnecting myself and that's why I didn't feel nerves. Then when we got to church it hit me. I felt LUCKY AND LOVED. It was supposed to be a rainy weekend and the sky opened up when we got to church. Being the way I am and always thinking the worst is going to happen and stressing about all the bad things and what ifs, at that moment I started to cry because I felt so lucky that everything was going great. I also felt so much love. At one point LOVE is all I could think. Thank you for everything."
- Giuliana Montenegro, Union City, NJ
From a client who's email session is included in Lesson 2:
“I got married! Successfully! Consciously! I was very impressed with myself! I owe every bit of my being on that day to YOU AND YOUR WORK! I don’t even want to know how I would be now if I didn’t google “is it normal to be scared of marriage?”! I can’t thank you enough! Best wedding present! I hope my [email session] helps someone like me!”
Frequently Asked Questions:
1. What if it doesn’t work? What if I go through the E-Course and I’m still anxious?
The E-Course isn’t a magic pill that takes away your anxiety just by reading the material and watching the videos (I wish I had that magic pill!). You have to work through the exercises and give your fear time to work through. The E-Course will provide you with accurate information to replace your false beliefs. It will provide you with tools and exercises for working with your fear. It will provide you with comfort from reading about and hearing other women’s and men's stories that are just like yours. But the real work has to come from you and your commitment to taking full responsibility for your well-being. And there are two factors that I can't include in the Course: time and patience. There are six factors in the equation that result in serenity:
accurate information + effective tools for managing anxiety + support + validation through other's stories and posts + time + patience = serenity
The E-Course offers the first four factors, but there's no way to package TIME and PATIENCE. However, I will say this: Every single person who has worked with me in some capacity (read my books, frequented the message board, worked through the e-course, and/or had counseling sessions) and has found the patience to give themselves enough time, has found their serenity. Across the board without exception. With the E-Course and Time, you will find your answers, too.
2. What if I work through the E-Course and discover that I don’t want to get married?
Then you’ll have found your clarity and serenity. Serenity doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ll avoid difficult feelings; it means that you’re at peace with your decision, whatever you decide. And better to find out that you don’t want to get married now than after you’re married. And just in case that statement spikes your anxiety, of the hundreds of people who have gone through the e-course, not a single one has left their partner.
“Three weeks before my wedding, I was furiously searching the web, looking for an answer to why I was feeling sick - literally sick: I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep, I couldn't function. And I had a wedding to plan. A therapist and a few friends told me, "Well, if you feel this way, it can't be right - don't do it." But the thought of canceling the wedding made me more anxious than the thought of going through with it. I knew that the root of what I was experiencing was far deeper and more complex than finding a solution by simply canceling the wedding. It wasn't cold feet; I knew it was something more.
"After finding Sheryl’s web site, my instincts were validated: these feelings were more than cold feet. I immediately signed up for the e-course. It was the best gift I could have given myself. This course is not designed to tell you whether or not you are marrying the right person – no course and no one can tell someone that. What the course does, and did for me, is give you the tools to wade through all the noise: the noise in your head, the noise in the media, and even the “noise” from some well-intended loved ones. The tools in the e-course are not only tools that you can use to help you with the transition of marriage – they are tools for life. I highly recommend giving yourself this life-long gift.”
∼ Sophie, Nova Scotia
3. What if I’m a guy?
The E-Course applies to men, too. Some of the language is gender-biased, but don’t let that stop you. More and more men are finding their way to my work and realizing that they have a boatload of fears that need to be addressed before they can marry without anxiety, like A.G. from North of England:
“Two months before my wedding I started to fall apart with fear and anxiety. I remember coming to the decision that I didn't have any love for her. 'She's not the one', I thought. I couldn't believe what I'd done. How could I have been so stupid to let things get so out of hand so quickly? There was nothing else for it. Imminent though the wedding was, I couldn't go through with it. I went home to break the news to her. I said that for some reason, I was having to let go of the best thing that had ever happened to me, but I didn't know why. As I spoke those words, I knew that to end it was not what I really wanted. Within half an hour, we'd patched things up to the extent that we were re-engaged but I knew that I had a lot of work to do. I still felt as though I didn't love her, but I couldn't find any real reason why.
I spent a huge amount of time searching the internet for advice on cold feet and general wedding anxiety, none of which was helpful. 'Doubt means don't', they all yelled at me. Two weeks before the wedding I found the Conscious Weddings website. I couldn't believe what I was reading. Every account, every story, every emotion, they were all just like mind. I learned so much about myself. About how my perceptions and expectations of marriage had been shaped by the media in the form of romantic comedies and how if your stomach doesn't do somersaults every time they walk into a room, it means you don't love that person. I realised, although it seems obvious now, that if that's the way it is, then there isn't anyone who has been with the same person for more than two years who can claim to be in love.
It's taken a long time, but I can say without any shadow of a doubt that I love my wife and I love being married. If you're reading this now after searching the internet for reassurance then, as cliched as it may sound, I know how you're feeling. Trust me. Do the work on this e-course and you'll be more than fine. You'll find your way to a kind of love that you didn't know existed. - A.G, North of England
The beauty of transitions is that it’s never too late to complete an unfinished transition. If you’ve found yourself here it’s probably because you’re struggling with post-wedding anxiety or depression. You might be thinking, “Shoot. I wish I had found this information before I got married.” Don’t worry! It’s not too late! The sooner you address your fear and grief and learn the information and tools that will help you work it through, the sooner you will find your serenity around your marriage transition.
"My husband proposed with all of my family around us. My first thought was, 'Oh my God, what have I done, we can't get married, I don't love him enough. I can't believe I led him on for 7 years, I'm a horrible person.' What I didn't realize is that those thoughts were completely normal. I believed the thoughts because I had the thoughts so they must be the truth. This was NOT the case at all but I couldn't see it at the time. I was normally such a happy, loving person. What in the world was going on? I was now the girl that wasn't eating, wasn't sleeping, didn't want to be around anyone or anything. I couldn't get out of bed, I sobbed many, many times a day. Where did this amazing person go? What was happening to my relationship? Was I going to run, break my husband's heart, and not marry him after all we had been through? I went into a deep, dark depression. I was depressed throughout my entire engagement. I had never been depressed before in my life! Now, I was at the doctor getting medicine for anxiety? I was completely different from everyone else, this is horrible. This had to be wrong, this had to be a bad choice. Right?
"I found the E-Course after I had been married for several months. After I spoke with Sheryl and all of the people on the message board. I realized that this wasn't wrong. My reaction was completely normal. I dealt with extreme anxiety my entire engagement. After I got married, I still dealt with mild anxiety for quite some time. However, I used many tools that were provided for me through the e-course. I have now been married over a year and I get anxiety very rarely."
Most therapists aren’t trained in the specifics of going through a transition in general and the wedding transition in particular. Sadly, I’ve heard countless stories of people’s therapists who respond to the doubt and fear with the dreaded, “Well, maybe that means you shouldn’t be getting married.” And even the best of therapist don’t have the information and tools at their fingertips that can help you through your engagement or newlywed anxiety. This e-course isn’t therapy, but it works beautifully in tandem with a good therapist (please see my counseling page for more information on my sessions and unique approach to working with anxiety).
“I met the man of my dreams after a few failed relationships and many heartaches. There was so many times I had to pinch myself as the guy who swept me off my feet seemed too good to be true. He is handsome, funny, smart, loyal, and genuine and every other amazing word you can think of. I couldn’t believe it when after Chris proposed to me I fell into a pit of depression and serious anxiety. It was debilitating and for a few weeks I was an emotional mess; I couldn’t sleep, I couldn’t eat, I cried and constantly felt sick. I couldn’t understand why I was feeling the way I felt when Chris was everything I wanted and more and I wanted to get married for a while. The only explanation I could come up with for my feelings were ‘maybe I’m feeling this way because he isn’t the right one’ or ‘maybe I don’t love him enough’ ‘maybe we aren’t meant to be’. These thoughts tormented me for quite some time and I tried to push them away. Sometimes when I ignored them I would feel better for a little while but then they would creep back to me and drop me in a pit of depression all over again.
"We set our wedding day for 28th April 2012 so I had 2 years to get my feelings in order. I decided to take action: I started seeing a therapist to deal with the actual physical anxiety and I started researching online. A few websites I found flared my anxiety up big time but then I found Conscious Weddings – Sheryl Paul's work and the first blog I read I cried with relief. My feelings were felt by others all over the world, I wasn’t alone and also there wasn’t anything wrong with my feelings. I signed up for the e-course almost immediately and got straight on with the lessons. I read and read and read. I spoke to my fiancé about it and I showed him some of Sheryl’s videos so he could really understand how I was feeling (even though he was so supportive anyway despite being slightly confused at times), I frequented the forums and read as much as I could. I come from a family and past of much anxiety and stress and it was time for me to break the cycle...
"Marriage so far has been amazing; I have made such a great decision with such an amazing person. I would encourage anyone who has visited this website looking for help to do this e-course and join our community. There is so much help here and so many people who feel exactly the same as what you feel. We don’t all have the exact same story or history and we don’t all have the exact same thoughts but we all searched for the same things which lead us to this website and I guarantee you that this is the place to be. Hang in there, be strong and don’t give up.”
Without a doubt, the e-course would be immensely helpful to you. It's the best course of action anyone struggling with relationship anxiety can take, whether single, partnered, engaged, or married. The sooner you take action, the sooner you'll experience the relief that hundreds of e-course members have experienced. Through the private, password-protected e-course forum, you'll also "meet" others in your exact situation: not engaged but struggling with relationship anxiety with such severity that its threatening to break apart their loving, solid relationship. You've found your way to the right place and help is on the way!
7. I’ve read “The Conscious Bride” and all of your articles. How is this different?
This E-Course begins where “The Conscious Bride” left off. I starting writing “The Conscious Bride” fourteen years ago and it was published ten years ago in 2000. Since then, I’ve counseled and advised thousands of women and men through relationship anxiety, and the evolution and expansion of my understanding is reflected in this E-Course. Where “The Conscious Bride” focuses more on helping people through the grief, loneliness, and archetypal fear, the E-Course focuses on how to understand and ultimately resolve relationship anxiety.
8. What are the seven lessons? What if they don't apply to me?
Each of the seven lessons is based on one of the most common questions that I’m asked, so chances are high that the majority of them will apply to you. These questions are:
1. What’s Wrong With Me? or Understanding Your Personality Type and An Overview of Transitions: Here you’ll learn about the profile of those prone to anxiety, why some people seem so happy in their relationship, and an overview of transitions.
2. Why Is My Partner Driving Me Crazy? or Understanding Projection: Here you’ll understand projection and the breakdown of the fantasy of the perfect partner that begins when you the relationship turns "real".
3. What If I Don’t Love Him or Her Enough?or Understanding Real Love: Here you’ll learn about the difference between real love and infatuation.
A few days after starting the course:
I cannot begin to tell you how my level of anxiety has just plummeted since I found this website and ecourse. Knowing that I am normal and not alone has quite honestly cut my anxiety in half! When I first had a little anxiety attack, I began to have more and more anxiety, simply about the fact that I was anxious -- my gut must be trying to tell me not to get married, I thought. Now that I know it's okay to be anxious (and sad and lonely) I feel better. Really since my fiance and I met I've worried I don't love him enough, or that I'm settling, because we don't have the infatuation I had with previous relationships. But we do have the strong, steady, reliable comfort of the kind of healthy relationship I never had before. Also, the way he eats drives me CRAZY and I'm glad to know that's not unusual. This experience of being on the forums and working through the lessons have turned a light back on inside me I had forgotten about. Thank you!
Three weeks after her wedding:
I have now been married almost 3 weeks (yay!), and I am just happy as a clam (even his eating habits bug me less). By the time the wedding arrived I was in a state of calm I could not have dreamed of when I was up in the middle of the night searching the internet and came upon your website. My wedding day was amazing - I just got the photos back today, actually, and there is a giant grin on my face in every single shot! I have settled into a contentedness I've never experienced before, and I am so grateful for what I learned working through your lessons and the forum. Thank you. -Newlywed, Memphis, Tennessee (May 2012) To read this complete testimonial, click here
4. What If These Feelings Mean That I’m Making A Mistake? or Accepting Uncertainty: Here you will learn to distinguish between real fear resulting from a red-flag issue in the relationship, anxious fear and healthy transition fear and you’ll be offered a relieving perspective on the word “mistake”.
5. How Do I Manage My Anxiety?Here you’ll learn highly effective tools for handling the anxiety both in the moment and for the rest of your life.
“Before I found the E-Course, I was very lost and very scared. I have described it as feeling like I was in a very dark, deep forest without a flashlight. Once I embarked on the course, I realized I actually had a flashlight, I just had to learn how to turn it on. With a lot of practice, I learned how to take care of my feelings centered around my fears. The moment when I knew something was working came around the time when I had built up enough courage from working through the lessons, journaling, and the support of the forum when I knew that this had nothing to do with my partner but was fear trying to protect me from getting hurt by love.”
Ashley's MP3 interview is in the free E-Course Sampler
6. What If I Feel Like This On My Wedding Day? Here you’ll receive practical tools to support all of the emotional work you’ve done to support your wedding day serenity.
7. What Does Marriage Mean Today? Here you’ll learn to dismantle the idea that there’s one way to have a marriage and explore the most common reason why marriages fail today You’ll receive seven lessons that will guide you to the clarity and joy that you seek. And unlike having a counseling session, you’ll be able to listen to the videos and podcasts as many times as you need to until you start to absorb the truth. A lot of the anxiety that emerges during the wedding transition is a result of the lies and unrealistic expectations that our culture disseminates and that you’ve absorbed from the time you were old enough to absorb information. The more you understand the truth, the more you’ll be able to battle the fear-based lies that you’ve been telling yourself ever since the anxiety began.
9. Is it really worth the expense?
The average cost of a wedding in the U.S. is $26,000. So, yes, it’s worth the expense : ) But the real question to ask yourself is this: What is the cost of NOT getting the help and support you need? What will happen to you - and your relationship - if you don't address your anxiety thoroughly and effectively?
10. I'm still uncertain. Do you offer any free consultations? Yes, if you're uncertain about whether or not the E-Course is right for you, simply contact me directly using the contact form at the bottom of this page and ask me any questions you have about the course.
From a woman who worked through her pre-engagement anxiety:
I got engaged last week! Your e-course really helped me answer my questions so I could say "yes" with joy when he proposed! This is a miracle as I'm 38 and thought I'd never get to this point! I'm still trying to work through and feel the fear when it comes up. The latest voice says, "How do you know you really know him and he's not going to be this different person someday?" But now I can see where that comes from and can talk to my fiancé about it to dispel the fear. I don't feel happy all the time in my engagement; it's stressful too. But I'm so thankful for your eCourse! We're getting married this fall (2011) and I'm looking forward to the journey.
- Julia H.
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35 comments to Are You Scared You’re Making a Mistake? Or That You’ve Already Made A Mistake?
Sheryl’s e-course has taught me so much about myself and therefore about my relationship. Just a month ago I thought that my only option to feel better was to leave. Now, as I go through the process, I realize that would have been the biggest mistake I could have made. Once I learned where my feelings were really stemming from, I learned that I would be this way in any relationship and leaving would not have fixed my feelings. This e-course made me learn more about myself than I ever have. Choosing love feels right. This e-course is worth looking into for anyone having doubts about their relationship!
This e-course has been one of the most beneficial decisions I have ever made. As a young girl in college, I didn’t think it would be worth the payment–however, i continue to receive wisdom and encouragement from the other women involved in the e-course daily. I have never once regretted my purchase. The e-course forum is a SURE way to know that you are NOT alone in this tough time and really the only reason I have a hope of making it through this WITH my partner still by my side. I would recommend this to ANYONE if ANY of the above anxiety-provoking questions have entered your mind. Thank you Sheryl!!!!
Before I found this e-course, I was in total despair. I had just packed up my things and left my boyfriend because I felt the familiar pang of deep, fearful anxiety in my stomach and believed that meant that I “just knew” things wouldn’t work out, and therefore I “had” to leave. A few days later, I googled “relationship anxiety” and found Sheryl’s work. I cried and cried– how perfectly she described exactly what I was feeling! For the first time, I felt hope. I knew I had a lot of work ahead of me, and I ruminated for a few weeks before deciding to purchase the e-course, and I am so glad that I finally went for it. I felt immediate relief as I went through the lessons, still knowing that I was making a big commitment to examine myself and work on my anxiety in all its forms. But with Sheryl’s warmth and insight, and in such an open and loving place as the forum, I wasn’t afraid. I’ve now been working on my core issues for several months, and while there is still a long way to go, I am perpetually grateful to have found Sheryl’s work and the support in the forum. I finally feel like I am moving towards the life that I want for myself. I would recommend this e-course to anyone who is dating, engaged, or married and dealing with relationship anxiety. It is worth it a million times over, and there is nothing else like it out there!
Thank you, hopeful, trustingandpraying, and Lydia. You’ve all done such incredible work on yourselves since joining the course! It’s clear that the pieces are falling into place.
Echoing Lydia’s experience, finding Sheryl’ work was life changing for me. Though I’d done a lot of work on my anxiety, over a number of year- I’d never had an explanation for the often intense and painful ruminations I’d go through about my boyfriend then fiancé. After 6 years together, 3 in the pit of hell, I found This website in a desperate googling session after sharing my latest round of anxiety with my new fiance. He had heard it before from me, and told me we could not spend the reat of our lives going around in circles. and though i agrees with him, and so desperately wanted to be able to enjoy what was so clearly sitting in front of me again. But i had no idea how to get myself out of it. I was afraid to talk to anyone about it, for fear they would say my thoughts were true and ‘doubt means dont’.
Although i dont remember the exact article, i still remember what it was like to first read Sheryl’s work. Tears of relief, recognising all of myself in the articles, validation that I wasn’t mad and DID love my fiancé. Respite and a grounded response to the horrible and unrelenting thoughts.
Sheryl has an incredibly eloquent way of supporting those of us who have an increased sensitivity and awareness of transitions, and she has harnessed a beautifully supportive and kind community on the forums.
Whilst life is not now ‘fixed’ after my time here, I’m married to a man I love and am grateful for and mostly can laugh of the ruminations about him (on the much rarer occasions they show up) But, moreso Sheryl’s work has changed me because its given me a deeper looking glass through which to view and under stand my life and I am richer for that.
i am honoured to be able to recommend sheryls work and the e-course, i am certain that if i hadnt i would have left my fantastic relationship ages ago and would probably be still searching for something i had all along. Not only has the e-course enhanced my understanding and expectations regarding my intimate relationships but it has also allowed me to grow as an individaul. Having found Sherlys site in the throes of anxiety and reading through her archive of posts it was almost as if she had written about me , i felt immense relief. This was the start of an amazing journey, on which i am still travelling. i am 13 weeks out from my wedding and because of the e-course i know my truth is with my fiance , i am still working hard on myself and breaking down many false beliefs i have stored over my 37 years, however i can say with certainty if i hadnt found this site i would have never had my eyes opened to this fantastic learning and personanal deveopment opportunity. i am excited yet nervous, happy and sometimes sad but what ive learnt is all this is not anything to do with my relationship, this is the ebb and flow of life highly recommended xx
I’m really thankful to have found Sheryl’s wedding e-course. I’m neither married nor engaged, but I’ve struggled with relationship anxiety for a long time. The week that I found Conscious Transitions, I had gone through a very difficult week of panic attacks and intense anxiety regarding my relationship. The questions, doubts, and fears that I had previously suppressed came to a head, and I had no idea how to handle it and felt so alone! The wedding e-course has brought me relief, support, and growth that I have not found elsewhere. The lessons have helped me to uncover unrealistic expectations that I had for relationships and has also given me tools to address the reoccurring fear and anxiety that I’ve felt throughout my relationship. The course has shown me that anxiety is normal. (What a relief.) Doubt doesn’t mean that you’re in the wrong relationship. Feeling in love isn’t the basis for a relationship. Relearning healthy expectations for relationships and dealing with the anxiety is difficult to work through, but I’m so so thankful to find that I don’t have to be a victim to it. Lastly, I just wanted to say that the forums is such a great place to receive support from other members.
This e-course helped me to understand where my anxiety came from. I am still working on it but I am doing way better! And it’s a real learning experience! You will grow thanks to this e-course! I was so lucky to find this website!
This course was a God send for me! I was in a serious relationship with a wonderful man when my anxiety really started. I am now happily married and I am so thankful I worked through my anxiety. This course has taught me so much about myself and life. I learned so much and I am still learning. I thank God everyday for the work he has been doing and continues to do in my life. I also thank God all the time for people like Sheryl who are so selfless and giving when it comes to helping and guiding others! Sheryl and this course really were a life line for me during many difficult moments during this past year! My wedding day was one of the most special and amazing days of my life thanks to this course and the things Sheryl has taught me. I can’t thank her enough!!
Thank you, Leah. It was a privilege to guide you through the tricky terrain of transitions and all that it activates.
I have to say this e-course has saved my relationship. I truly believe it can help you too without a doubt. I have been suffering from anxiety most of my life. I always felt lost, confused and miserable. Now I feel like a new woman after reading the lessons. It honestly works! Putting the time into doing the e-course is so worth the time and money. Nothing is more important than your health and happiness. As Sheryl has helped so many men and women, I like to do the same by sharing my positive experience.
Thank you, Angela! I’m so glad that the e-course has had such a profound effect on your life. Thank you for taking the time to share your experience.
The e-course is worth every. single. penny. It’s the best wedding present I could have gotten myself. I struggled so much with “what if” thoughts. I was beside myself. And while Sheryl’s blog is helpful, the e-course provides constant access to not only the lessons you need to educate yourself, but tools to manage what you’re going through, so that you’re able to get to a mental space where you can dialogue and confront your feelings. And because we’re not always “cured” – it’s a great resource for the times when you’re just having an anxious few days. I’ve been engaged for 10 months now, and can say proudly: I’m so happy and so excited to get married, and so much of that is the work I did here.
This course has radically changed my engagement experience. I have only been through the lessons once so far over four weeks, but within the first week my anxiety eased significantly and the relief that came with the insight was enormous. The course has given me the space and ‘permission’ to feel the difficult and painful feelings, learn to accept them, examine them, and understand them, in order to move through and past them. I am infinitely grateful to Sheryl that I do really feel like I am moving through them. Having been in a state of despair and depression beforehand, I am now starting to tap into a sense of deep calm, with glimpses of potential for joy & excitement, and love! Truly, had I not found this, I think our engagement journey would have continued to be very difficult and I don’t know how it would have changed; and although this journey is only really just beginning for me, the difference now is that I understand the context, and am gaining the tools to allow me to move through this in as comfortable and conscious a way as possible. This course provides such an enlightened and important education – not only for marriage but for life. Thank you so much!
Sheryl, is this a course that a couple could go through together? My wife and I have been happily (I thought) married for five years, and now she is questioning whether I am the one for her or not. I found you through your “The Grass is Always Greener Syndrome” article on Huffington Post, and I think my wife is feeling similar to the woman you described in the article, although I’m not sure an ex is at the root of it or not. She’s willing to work on this, and I’m willing to try anything. Thanks.
Hi John: It’s not intended to be worked through as a couple but for the person who’s experiencing anxiety. Your wife would have to be motivated to work through her anxiety in order for the material to have a positive effect. You could certainly view the ecourse material as well as it will only help you understand what she’s going through, but it’s not a couples’ course.
This ecourse has provided me with a valuable way to work through not only my relationship anxiety, but my general anxiety. I’m still new to the process, but I no longer have panic attacks, my relationship has improved and continues to improve, and I no longer feel alone. I’ve even had the benefit of meeting some of the wonderful conscious women on the forum. Thank you, Sheryl !
This post is amazing to hear even though I am not engaged. I have been in a relationship with my wonderful boyfriend for 4 years now and we are both in college. We are currently in a long distance relationship and it is really hard to not be able to see each other as much as we would like. One morning after I spent a long weekend with him I woke and all I could think was “I have to break up with him” there was no reason behind any of this and it scared me so much I couldn’t eat, or sleep, or pay attention in class. We have been through a lot in our relationship but all of it has been on the outside and not problems with our relationship. I had a rough start to college and ended up dropping out and coming home. Upon returning home my step grandmother passed away from cancer. During this time my uncle fell very sick and remained in ICU for 1 month until he passed away as well. Also, during all of this time my other grandmother who I was very very close to and did everything for slowly began to die of old age and dementia. Through all of this my boyfriend was so supportive and caring and there for not just me but my whole family. After returning to school close to semester break my boyfriend’s grandmother passed away and this was very hard for him because she was like a mother to him. I had grown close to her as well and this was such a hard time for his whole family. She was a woman I would only aspire to be. After typing all of this I am beginning to see clear and not fear again and that is relieving. I know I never grieved as I should through all of this and I pent up a lot of emotions I should have let out. I realize I am so fearful of losing the one person in my life who has been there through it all. I can right now feel how lucky and blessed I am to have found a man who is so supportive and caring and shares all the same values. He is everything I have ever wanted and more and having this anxiety for the past month and a half has killed me inside. I have pulled away from everyone who loves me and I know now that is not fair. Upon returning home for summer break I also found out my dog who we had had since I was very little passed away and I had not even got to see him. I know now I have to grieve in the right times and not let it affect everything else I have going good in my life. My boyfriend has been through hell and back witnessing and supporting me through this whole situation. I just want to thank you and whoever wrote this blog because it gave me hope I will be able to be happy and not have fear guiding me in life and in my relationship. I haven’t felt like myself through out this entire thing and when I have those dialogues in my head and I am talking to God is telling me this has nothing to do with my relationship and everything to do with taking care of myself. It tells me everything will be okay and things will be happy again and my relationship will make it. My fear voice is just so strong.
Caitlin- I feel that your post resonated with me! I have been in a wonderful and beautiful relationship with my boyfriend for six years and I have had the same anxiety as you! I just graduated from college so I feel that it’s nice to see someone that is young like me! Let me know if you ever want to talk about this- or even just supporting each other is so wonderful as well! Email: firstname.lastname@example.org <3
This e-course has been such an incredible gift and it is well worth the money. Not only did it help ease my intense anxiety about getting married, it also has been a profund learning experience in the art of just being human. I am so much more compassionate toward myself and my fiancé after having completed this. And I’m so excited to be getting married again. Every lesson, article, interview, etc. was applicable and helpful. This is a course that can change the course if your life and be the catalyst for growth in many areas. I now have such a much healthier relationship with fear, and I know this is just the beginning. I’m so grateful that my engagement anxiety led me to Sheryl’s work for so many reasons, and particularly because my engagement experience and my outlook on life are so much better as a result. Thank you so much Sheryl!
Thank you, Caitlin. Your gratitude shines through and touches my heart. I’m so glad you’ve found your way here as well and I look forward to hearing about your wedding!
So I have been reading through this site and a lot of light bulbs have gone off! I’m considering purchasing this eCourse but I’m not engaged yet, so some of the marriage exercises/lessons will not be beneficial. Is it still worth it even though I’m not engaged? Ive just arrived at the “do you really love him” torrment point of my relationship.
Thanks for the advice!
Erin: About half the members of the e-course aren’t engaged yet, so the answer is YES, it’s extremely beneficial if you’re not engaged and at any stage of a relationship.
I am SO GLAD I finally signed up for the e-course. I had been reading Sheryl’s blog posts for a few weeks before signing up, but was on the fence. The anxiety persisted, so I gave it a shot. I can’t believe how much I’ve learned about myself (and love!) in the two weeks since starting the course. It’s been a real blessing, and I can’t believe I’m saying this… but I’m actually grateful for the anxiety. I truly thought that it meant I had to leave my amazing boyfriend (I’m not engaged yet), and I am only now discovering that it’s actually a sign that I have a whole schwack of false beliefs buried inside me that need to be addressed. And I’m more than happy to do the work, even if I’m unsure of what things will look like on the other side of the work. At least I will learn more about myself!
Two weeks ago I thought I was the only woman on the planet who was feeling the things I was feeling – and I thought they meant impending doom for my relationship. Thank you, Sheryl, for setting the course up in such a comprehensive way, and for guiding me to learn more about myself as a woman and as a girlfriend. It’s been a blessing.
Is the price per couple or for each individual?
This course isn’t actually for couples, Vincent; it’s for the person in the relationship that may be struggling with relationship anxiety. If you’re looking for a couples’ course, you may want to consider my Premarital Course, which you can learn more about here:
I am not sure if I am a good candidate for this… I have a huuuuuuge anxiety but the problem is that unlike most of the girls here I feel really relieved when I think of breaking up. Maybe I am one of those who really are not in a “right” relationship and it’s not worth fighting for? I keep thinking and “planning” what my life would be without him…
I am just so tired of this bad feeling that I cannot go on any more and prefer to quit…
Most people who are suffering from relationship anxiety feel relieved when they think about breaking up. That’s the surest sign that your wounded self is in the driver’s seat and trying to convince you to leave.
Been trying to find information on such a similar situation. Would you say that many men have experienced the same? Benefited from your course? I’ve been dating my girlfriend for the past 8 months and she is the most amazing girl. I had no doubt I loved her. I had even planned on getting engaged very soon…. I don’t make decisions lightly either. I was head over heals for her until the anxiety hit me about a month ago and now it has me doubting whether to continue or not with the relationship. She has not changed anything about herself. I long to go back to the confidence I had with myself and the direction the relationship was going in. It has created moments of complete inner turmoil within me. I know I will never find a girl like this again. Any direction you might have is great! Thanks.
Yes, I’ve had dozens of men go through the course and have benefitted enormously. If you sign up for the free sampler you can read an interview with “Leo”, a man who was transformed by the course.
30days to my wedding, but I am really scared. My mind is really telling me that I did not love my fiancé, we have been dating for six years, but from the time of our engagement till now, I have not really have peace of mind, I cant work well and stay focus.
Every girl I see around the street now looks prettier than her, and my mind always thinks negative things about her, like she is not as pretty as she should be, I can’t figure out the cause of this feeling.
The worst thing is that I don’t have a good reason to explain these feelings because she is really a very nice girl who can make a good wife to any man and she loves me so much and shows it.
Friends and family always tell me that I am lucky to have her but they don’t know what I am passing through.
As the wedding gets close, I am getting more scared of living a single life and getting committed to just her. I am 33 years now and I am OK financially, but this is the worst feeling I have experienced throughout my life. You think I can get over this and be happy after our wedding?
You can get through this but not without the proper information, tools, and support.
Hello Sheryl, i am just curious, is the ecourse applicable for someone who is just dating, not on marrying stage, not yet engage?
Hi. Ive just registered for your ecourse so fingers crossed for me. Ive always suffered with anxiety but def more around my relationships so I hope this helps
I’m glad you took the leap. Let me know how you’re doing as you progress through the course.