by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Feb 1, 2019 | Lack of Attraction Collection |
Over the years I’ve worked with many men who struggled with the attraction issue. In fact, whereas women tend to focus on a variety of spikes from intelligence to social fluency, when relationship anxiety hits for a man it almost always focuses on some aspect of... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jul 29, 2018 | Anxiety, Lack of Attraction Collection, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
Love is a verb. This is one of the great truths about love that our culture fails to teach, one that, even when we understand the principle, we need to remember it and practice it over and over again. I think of marriage or any long-term, committed relationship with a... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Feb 18, 2018 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Lack of Attraction Collection, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
Among the many misconceptions that people have about love – that it’s only a feeling, that the feeling of being “in love” should exist from day one, that attraction is static and based on external attributes – the faulty belief that... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jan 14, 2018 | 20s, Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Intrusive Thoughts, Lack of Attraction Collection |
Let’s blow the cover off of another taboo topic in our culture, one that causes my clients to barely be able to whisper their experience loud enough to share it with me: “falling in love” with people other than your partner, including bosses,... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jan 29, 2017 | Anxiety, Lack of Attraction Collection, Open Your Heart |
The following question is one I often receive from my clients who are struggling with the specific spoke of relationship anxiety that contains the longing to feel more love, connection, and attraction for their partner (and let’s remember that I use attraction... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Nov 29, 2015 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Intrusive Thoughts, Lack of Attraction Collection, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
Attraction is an umbrella word that I use to describe any time you’re in a projection about your hot topic. This could be lack of physical attraction, doubting if there’s enough intellectual stimulation, struggling with sexual connection, or criticizing... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Nov 1, 2015 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Lack of Attraction Collection, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
We worship passion. We equate love and longing. We lay prostrate to the belief that “chemistry” is at the heart of sustaining a relationship. We chase after the golden idol of attraction in all of its forms. And yet, we live in a cultural that has an... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Oct 4, 2015 | Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, HSP, Intrusive Thoughts, Lack of Attraction Collection, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
One of the most pervasive unrealistic messages propagated by our culture about love is that it should be easy. Brainwashed by Hollywood and Disney, we expect to fall into the arms of our beloved upon first sight and remain there, blissfully happy, for all the days of... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Jun 24, 2013 | 20s, Anxiety, Divorce/Calling it Off/Break Up, Lack of Attraction Collection, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
Inspired by a member of my May 2013 Open Your Heart Program A significant portion of my work is dedicated to dismantling and deconstructing the pervasive and dysfunctional messages our culture propagates about love, myths most people have absorbed by osmosis since the... by Sheryl Lisa Finn | Apr 8, 2013 | Anxiety, Lack of Attraction Collection, Relationships |
Originally published on The Huffington Post *** One of my favorite authors and mentors, Jungian analyst Robert Johnson, says that good love is like a bowl of oatmeal. A bowl of oatmeal? How unromantic, you may say. How prosaic, you think. Love should be an ice cream...