by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jun 12, 2022 | Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person |
2022 update on this post: This morning our younger son, who is 13 years, old told me about a headline he read on Apple news about the weather. We’re having a very hot week here in the Denver/Boulder area and the headline caught his eye because it mentioned... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Mar 6, 2022 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Relationships |
I talk a lot about intrusive thoughts on this site, particularly how they pertain to relationship anxiety. I see thoughts as the flares from the Self brilliantly designed to attract our attention so that we can learn to turn inward and attend, possibly for the first... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jan 8, 2022 | Anxiety, Relationships, Sexuality, Sexuality Collection |
We talk about social anxiety. We talk about relationship anxiety. We talk about transition anxiety. Now it’s time to talk about sex anxiety: not only how anxiety in general or relationship anxiety in particular kills libido but how much anxiety we carry about... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jan 2, 2022 | Sexuality |
When I launched the first round of Sacred Sexuality: A 40-day course for women to heal body shame and ignite desire in June 2017 I had no idea what to expect on the forum. Would the members feel reticent to share their innermost fears, secrets, questions, and stories... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Dec 26, 2021 | Anxiety, Sexuality |
With the exposure of sexual assault, abuse, and violation in this country in the last couple of years, there can be no doubt that our culture suffers from profound sexual dysfunction and illness. Many of us, especially women, have been privately aware of the toxicity... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Dec 12, 2021 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Highly Sensitive Person, Intrusive Thoughts, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
There is often a predictable arc to relationship anxiety that includes three stages.* The first stage is characterized by typical symptoms of anxiety and panic: Trouble sleeping Difficulty eating Tearful Depressed Bolting awake in the middle of the night Difficulty... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Oct 31, 2021 | 20s, Self Trust Collection, Trust Yourself |
On a recent group call, a participant asked one of the most common questions for those struggling with anxiety and intrusive thoughts is: “So if I don’t trust these anxious thoughts then what can I trust? If my truth is really that we are not right for... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Aug 15, 2021 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Relationships, Trust Yourself |
As humans in an uncertain world, we seek certainty in a variety of ways. We ask questions that are fundamentally unanswerable. We ruminate and obsess on a single thought (otherwise known as intrusive thoughts). We Google and text and seek reassurance in a variety of... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Jul 4, 2021 | Anxiety, Break Free From Relationship Anxiety, Dying/Death, Highly Sensitive Person, Relationship Anxiety Collection, Relationships, Wedding/marriage transition |
One of the most challenging elements of anxiety is to understand is that the anxiety is projection. This means that the parade of intrusive thoughts that tortures the anxious mind and sensitive soul are actually pointing to areas inside of you that are crying out for... by Sheryl Lisa Paul | Feb 7, 2019 | Intrusive Thoughts, Open Your Heart, Relationships |
Anxious people aren’t typically the most easy-going people on the planet. Because our high sensitivity wires us for hypervigilance, which then causes us to scan the horizon for danger, we’re physiologically primed to have a more tightly-wound nervous...